Have a wonderful day all, however you choose to celebrate! We will be having a blissfully quiet day with all the fizz & food!
Okay this is so wholesomeA nice little thing …
My in-laws never mention our decision not to have children which I appreciate. Tonight my husband sent me a video clip of his mum studying photos of our pet rabbits, alpacas and cats, and writing down their names and distinguishing features in her notebook so she remembers who is who… I love that she sees the animals like grandkids and accepts our life as it is. She has two real grandchildren too but I think secretly she knows alpacas are far superior to children
There is this former Bachelor (US) contestant who constantly twins with her daughter. Every single time she posts a picture with her toddler, they're both wearing the exact same outfit. It's really creepy in my opinion.It annoys me so much when I see a nice top or outfit in a shop, then I realise they also sell them in child sizes so mums and daughters can twinI don't want to inadvertently wear the same outfit as a small child
Everyone always says “never say never” to me and it really irritates me… why do people think having kids is the be all and end all of life? I just want to enjoy my life with as little stresses as possible…My husband and I are newlyweds and we had the mandatory 'When are you going to have kids?' question yesterday. Funny thing is, when I replied that we weren't, all I got back was 'Aww well never say never.' Why can't people accept my first answer without implying that I'll change my mind?urgh!
Anyway it's Christmas so I'm going to stop moaning, have an early night and spend the next 7 days doing exactly what I wantHappy Christmas all! xx
I wonder how old you have to be before these kinds of questions and comments stop? I'm rapidly approaching 40 so hoping only a couple more years?!Everyone always says “never say never” to me and it really irritates me… why do people think having kids is the be all and end all of life? I just want to enjoy my life with as little stresses as possible…
The boring part resonates with me. I find children boring (younger ones especially). I cant imagine spending each day trudging to the park watching them play, forcing conversations with other parents etc. Then having to play with them constantly to keep their minds active because you feel guilty about putting them in front of a screen. The daily life of parenting seems incredibly dull. And I live a dull life already but it’s stress free.I don't want kids. Never did, never will. My partner doesn't either. I'm 35
It's hard to boil it down to a single reason why not, when I feel no maternal instinct. Here's some reasons though why I don't find it appealing, in no particular order:
1. Takes too much time and energy for something I've no interest in. I enjoy travel in particular (the adventurous type) and kids would throw that out of the window. Feel I would have zero freedom. Even going to the supermarket becomes a chore.
2. I have mild mental health issues and would be concerned a child would not be sensible to add to the mix...it took me a long time to be happy and to be able to relax and don't want to disrupt that.
3. I don't enjoy being around children. Find it boring. Prefer adults or animals.
4. Scared of childbirth and feel uncomfortable about physical aspects.
I find it hard to relate to a lot of women my age as childrearing takes over their lives, understandably. However most of my friends are mostly male anyway. I never had many female friends.
Yeah I just can't relate to the kid conversations, I try my best but just get lost after a whileMerry Christmas ladies, hoping you have all had a wonderful boxing day. I love this thread, relate so much to what you all said. Especially about making friends with other women. I feel like women my age who are mum's just avoid me, or I try talking to them and they have absolutely nothing to talk about that isn't either their husbands or their sprogs. It can be lonely sometimes, but I've never regretted my choices for a second!
This is how I feel. I feel as though a lot of people think you’re an alien because you don’t want children. I’ve lost a lot of friends over the years due to it.Merry Christmas ladies, hoping you have all had a wonderful boxing day. I love this thread, relate so much to what you all said. Especially about making friends with other women. I feel like women my age who are mum's just avoid me, or I try talking to them and they have absolutely nothing to talk about that isn't either their husbands or their sprogs. It can be lonely sometimes, but I've never regretted my choices for a second!
Very sensible. They lie about the pain and damage women can experience during and after childbirth. Children cost a bomb and often bugger off when they grow up. A dog will love you for ever.I dont want children, dont really want a man either, just a dog
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