I also think most people don't give it that much thought. They just assume it's something that will happen in future maybe and then they have a unplanned pregnancy and that's itI think a lot of men (and women too) think they want kids until they’re shown another way or until they’re shown the reality of kids!
Exactly this. I always just assumed I would too and then I worked with children for a while and I realised, I don’t have to have kids!I also think most people don't give it that much thought. They just assume it's something that will happen in future maybe and then they have a unplanned pregnancy and that's it
I am really glad we are as a society (hopefully) moving towards women not having kids if they don't want to.Exactly this. I always just assumed I would too and then I worked with children for a while and I realised, I don’t have to have kids!
That's exactly what I say!I always joke that I wasn’t that keen on kids even when I was one myself!
I don’t think your cold honestly. Some people just don’t like kids. It’s such a myth that women we have some bizarre ache for children and we’re abnormal if we don’t but honestly, babies are boring, toddlers are annoying, and I hate imaginary play. I like kids but these are still truthsI've found my people. I can't stand children. I don't have any sort of maternal instinct at all. People told me it'll come in my late 20s and in my 30s but I'm there now and still don't have it!
I've got a new niece and honestly don't feel the joy others do when she does 'funny' or cute things. Babies just don't interest me.. Sure, I guess she is cute but 5 mins is all I need with her. I'm starting to feel like I'm just a cold person
Bf knows I don't want children but I think he is hoping I'll change my mind one day...
Thanks!I don’t think your cold honestly. Some people just don’t like kids. It’s such a myth that women we have some bizarre ache for children and we’re abnormal if we don’t but honestly, babies are boring, toddlers are annoying, and I hate imaginary play. I like kids but these are still truthsI’d rather deal with a teenager
Me when they’re like ‘omg look it’s so cute!’Thanks!
The rest of my family are like "look look, she's smiling. Come see! It's soooo cute". And I'm like ermm.. OK.. So I walk over and smile.I can't even fake it any more.
Yeah that is what winds me up!! why do people feel the need to do an Olympic torch tour with their new baby?!I don't mind babies but I'm not bothered about rushing to see them when they're born. My mum's friend's daughter has just had a baby and mum went to visit (haven't seen her since we were kids so didn't think I'd be missed) But I was missed and now she's bringing the baby to my house on Friday for me to seeI thought I'd got out of it, but they're seeking me out!
Same!I’m like “oh cute” and then they start crying and I’m like
byeeeeeeeee
Ha. We have nieces and nephews. They are no longer toddlers, a bit older now. One of the nieces still acts like a little twit (god do I sound like Ms Trunchbull). She pulls silly faces, acts like an attention seeking brat as her sibling is naturally funny and garners a lot of attention. She has acted like this since she was of school age. I was hoping she would grow out of it but she seems to get worse as she gets older... she doesn't seem to know how to act "normally." I have wondered if she is on the spectrum.I've found my people. I can't stand children. I don't have any sort of maternal instinct at all. People told me it'll come in my late 20s and in my 30s but I'm there now and still don't have it!
I've got a new niece and honestly don't feel the joy others do when she does 'funny' or cute things. Babies just don't interest me.. Sure, I guess she is cute but 5 mins is all I need with her. I'm starting to feel like I'm just a cold person
Bf knows I don't want children but I think he is hoping I'll change my mind one day...
Speaking as someone with professional experience in education, social care and amplifying children's voices I have to say I think the model of teachers being kind and understanding is far better than my memories in school (I was born in the 80s) of how 'naughty' children were treated. Most of the time, children misbehaving are not doing it for the sake of being little shits - there may be stuff going on at home, they may be emotionally unregulated, they may have mental health issues. Behaviour is communication. These behaviours need addressing and to open a dialogue with the child and "despising" a child or "punishing them heavily" for it isn't going to help. The 'special' treatment children receive is not a green card to act like a twat, it is a network of people trying to unpick what is going on and make modifications to help the child be a better learner and grow up well. Sadly in our underfunded state schools, teacher and teaching assistant time is often focused on the children that need more support to the detriment of other children in the class but that is not and never is the fault of the child that this is the system they are part of. One of the reasons my husband left teaching and now works to support "naughty" children in other ways was the fact all children cannot be supported in the ways that make them thrive.-in schools, when child misbehaves on the regular, instead of being punished, the teachers are kind and understanding and they bend over backwards to give the child what they want and they give them special treatment…
I was made to be seen and not heard in public and if I misbehaved I got took home for a smack and when I was bad at school, the teachers despised me and punished me heavily for it.
Speaking as someone with professional experience in education, social care and amplifying children's voices I have to say I think the model of teachers being kind and understanding is far better than my memories in school (I was born in the 80s) of how 'naughty' children were treated. Most of the time, children misbehaving are not doing it for the sake of being little shits - there may be stuff going on at home, they may be emotionally unregulated, they may have mental health issues. Behaviour is communication. These behaviours need addressing and to open a dialogue with the child and "despising" a child or "punishing them heavily" for it isn't going to help. The 'special' treatment children receive is not a green card to act like a twat, it is a network of people trying to unpick what is going on and make modifications to help the child be a better learner and grow up well. Sadly in our underfunded state schools, teacher and teaching assistant time is often focused on the children that need more support to the detriment of other children in the class but that is not and never is the fault of the child that this is the system they are part of. One of the reasons my husband left teaching and now works to support "naughty" children in other ways was the fact all children cannot be supported in the ways that make them thrive.
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