Don’t post very regularly at all but read a lot of the threads.
I find what happened to Caroline a real tragedy.
The woman was clearly mentally ill. She was 40, not 16 - to still be checking her boyfriends phone obviously shows distrust in the relationship/her own deep insecurities about herself/their relationship.
The press (and I think the CPS confirmed) are reporting she inflicted injuries on herself - all that blood is allegedly hers. So did she upon searching her boyfriends phone and finding whatever she found - dick pics, texts, pictures with other girls - slash her wrists in front of him? Or throw the lamp at him to wake him then begin to slash her wrists as if to say, I can’t go on without you? Or look at what you’re doing to me - I would rather die than be without you. This behaviour in itself (if it was this - and the narrative certainly paints this picture) is truly disturbing. The relationship was toxic on both sides. Lewis definitely didn’t deserve to be hit but did he phone the police because he’d been caught cheating and knew it would ruin everything for her? And if not cheating - what was on his phone? I keep thinking she’s found his phone, called him out, thrown the lamp, he’s said he’ll call the police, she’s said no you’ll ruin everything for me, she’s started slashing her wrists and it’s all exploded. Not condoning any of the behaviour on either side - I think they’ve both reacted to one another at the time in an extreme way.
Re Andrew Brady - he’s been asked to sign a NDA, I bet loads of celebrities do this so they don’t get fucked over by their mates/boyfriends etc this prob isn’t out of the ordinary if you’re living in that world. He has added fuel to the fire implying he’s also been a “victim of domestic abuse” but he doesn’t say what that abuse was. He’s left that hanging in the air so people have naturally assumed she’s been physically abusive towards him too. You know those couples you sometimes see on a night out (I used to work in a pub and see it all the time) and they literally SCREAM at each other and tear each other apart (not physically), calling each other names and just being awful to one another - this is abusive and toxic, but it isn’t physical. Didn’t AB also cheat on Caroline when they were engaged and it all came out when she was in the middle of filming Love Island - like she literally had to go on and do a live show the day it had all been called off? He treated her like shit.
The CPS have said Caroline was later restrained on the ground after she flipped over a table and told police she would kill herself. Whatever she did to Lewis and her reasons for it, this woman was sick. Very sick. If she wasn’t a celebrity would she not have been sectioned/hospitalised immediately? Apparently she needed to be treated for 12 hours before she was in any position to be questioned. Maybe she intended to kill herself then and there on that night.
Sadly I’m just coming to the conclusion that she wanted to die. Her mind was made up. An ambulance had been sent out the day before and she’d managed to convince them she was fine, she had a friend staying with her who she also managed to convince she was fine. She would have known she had a limited window when that friend popped out to the shops, so it seems by that point her mind was resolutely made up.
Whatever her reasons were; what she did to Lewis, what she’d done to herself, the evidence of either/both, her own demons, however you look at it and whether you liked her or not, she was seriously mentally ill to the point, suicide was her decision. Nothing seemed worth carrying on for at that point and that is devastating. I can’t imagine getting to the point in my life where that is my only outcome.
Re the CPS/who’s to blame/celeb culture/be kind - I think if she continued down this path, she was bound to end up in the press/dead at some point either way. She needed help and she didn’t get it in time. She worked on one of the biggest TV shows in current times, of course she was going to be of public interest but was she really treated fairly when comparing her to Ant/Schofe? Ant hasn’t been pulled apart like this and Schofe is still on This Morning despite his seedy life being all over the internet. Innocent until proven guilty - her fate had been decided by the press as soon as they ran with the story the way they did. The Valentines Card/David Walliams etc they made light of it and trivialised it.
But I don’t think anyone person/outlet is culpable - she was ill. Her life was a mess. She obviously couldn’t find a way to fix it and this is the outcome.
does that make me an abuser?!
