Bryony Farmer #2 A baby is for life, not just before/after Christmas

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If your a parent, please tell me if I'm wrong. I'm not in any way suggesting that you need to keep your child entertained all the time but is it normal how little she engages with the child? Like are you meant to just leave them on the floor playing while your on the laptop on the sofa? I know that you supposed to let them play independently a little bit but surely they learn more and get more tired and you bond with them if you play with them on the floor? It feels like she only engages with him when she's feeding him or putting him to bed?
I’d say no. I never sit on the sofa once during my 11 month olds play times. Let alone using a laptop. I might scroll my phone briefly if he seems really into a toy and happy playing independently for a bit but I’m always trying to teach him things, talking to him, reading the same books over that he keeps bringing to me 😂
That’s sad if she’s just leaving him too it all the time :( I really can’t imagine just ignoring my child his whole play times.
 
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If your a parent, please tell me if I'm wrong. I'm not in any way suggesting that you need to keep your child entertained all the time but is it normal how little she engages with the child? Like are you meant to just leave them on the floor playing while your on the laptop on the sofa? I know that you supposed to let them play independently a little bit but surely they learn more and get more tired and you bond with them if you play with them on the floor? It feels like she only engages with him when she's feeding him or putting him to bed?
No it's not ideal to leave babies to their own devices all the time but I think Bryony enjoys the idea of parenting and all the baby related things she can acquire rather than actually making an effort to spend time with her child. All I can say is she won't be able to ignore him like that for much longer, toddlers are a whole different ballgame 🙈
 
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If your a parent, please tell me if I'm wrong. I'm not in any way suggesting that you need to keep your child entertained all the time but is it normal how little she engages with the child? Like are you meant to just leave them on the floor playing while your on the laptop on the sofa? I know that you supposed to let them play independently a little bit but surely they learn more and get more tired and you bond with them if you play with them on the floor? It feels like she only engages with him when she's feeding him or putting him to bed?
I do a mixture of letting mine play independently and playing with them. I do think it's good for them not to have focused attention all the time because independent play is important too. But I'm sure she goes to the other extreme and cba playing with him or teaching him anything. She literally just 'bought' him for the clout of having a baby, an excuse not to work and to buy herself friends.
 
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She was half bragging about sleep training yesterday too under the veil of a 'mum confession'. It made me sad because I thought it was weird how much Oryn slept (seems a lot for a baby his age) but now I realise it's how much he's in bed, not necessarily asleep.

If he's in bed for 13 hours overnight some nights, plus two long naps, and on the floor watching tv or left to his own devices a decent chunk of the day, how many hours does he actually get focussed attention from his mum for? I'm all for fostering independent play too, but I agree this seems a bit beyond that.
 
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I don't know any mum (or functioning adult, tbh, unless they're shift working) who's still lying in bed at 9 AM.

Her latest video is so boring 😴 All I gathered is her son sleeps 16 hours a day and she eats four meals a day.

If she's going to do these 'day in the life' videos why doesn't she film them on days that she's actually doing something?! I know filming in public might be a bit 'harder' and more inconvenient, but if this is supposed to be her only full/part-time job you'd think she'd put in a little bit of effort.
 
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No, it's not normal to ignore a young child from 6.30pm to 9am, plus 2 naps, plus most of the day. It's extreme, and detrimental to his development. It'll likely impact on his growing sense of self and how he interacts with others and has social relationships. Young children are interdependent, not independent. Independent play is brief moments when a caregiver is busy or notices their child is engaged in something and gives pause as to not interrupt, but generally they continue to share eye contact and communication whilst the child plays. What Briony does is deeply concerning, this is only a snippet of her presenting her best self publicly.
 
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don’t know if anyone remembers Mia Jeal (still has old forums on here!) but reminds me a bit off her when she would leave her child for ages in the cot etc & have quite “lazy” parenting techniques.
 
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I'm not a parent, but wondering about all the things others pointed out about her lack of true interaction with him. I know sleep training can be a good thing (well, I have limited knowledge) but I fear she's going to use that as her excuse to leave him in his crib for an extended time or justify ignoring his cries. I was also floored that she didn't even get him fresh air. I can imagine it's a lot of work to get a kid out for a true outing, but surely doing a walk in his stroller for both of them to get some air would be worth it.
 
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But you’re so right about the Munchausens. It’s almost comical to go back and see the early vlogs for anyone who hasn’t / has forgot. It’s absolute insanity - every couple of days there’s a new, spontaneously occurring ailment. Her mother take her to one witch doctor or another who miraculously heals her, then the next day she’s in A&E with another random, vague symptom. It’s mad. There’s a series of about 3 hospital trips within the span of a couple of weeks, for unclear or disparate reasons. I’ve wondered about making a compilation of clips 🤔
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many years ago when after her parents paying for her to se private Dr after private Dr and she eventually got one to diagnose Lyme disease, she then went on to try and tell us she thought she had Gilbert's syndrome. I commented that I have Gilbert's syndrome myself and there is nothing in her symptoms to suggest she has it, I was blocked and my comment was removed - but she has never mentioned Gilbert's syndrome again!!

Enough said!

She then decided she had adenomyosis instead!
 
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many years ago when after her parents paying for her to se private Dr after private Dr and she eventually got one to diagnose Lyme disease, she then went on to try and tell us she thought she had Gilbert's syndrome. I commented that I have Gilbert's syndrome myself and there is nothing in her symptoms to suggest she has it, I was blocked and my comment was removed - but she has never mentioned Gilbert's syndrome again!!

Enough said!

She then decided she had adenomyosis instead!
She has also claimed possible endometriosis, asthma (exacerbated by 'too tight bras'???), gluten intolerance, lactose intolerance, back problems, neck problems, stomach problems, bowel problems, ME, an eating disorder (for all of 3 seconds), costochondritis, eczema.. I'm sure there was more!

I think her mum perpetuates it if you go back to the early period vlogs. She was always booking her appointments with different specialists and doctor shopping. She would bring her meals in bed on a tray, drive her everywhere and dole out her pills, when there was literally nothing wrong with her.
 
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She has also claimed possible endometriosis, asthma (exacerbated by 'too tight bras'???), gluten intolerance, lactose intolerance, back problems, neck problems, stomach problems, bowel problems, ME, an eating disorder (for all of 3 seconds), costochondritis, eczema.. I'm sure there was more!

I think her mum perpetuates it if you go back to the early period vlogs. She was always booking her appointments with different specialists and doctor shopping. She would bring her meals in bed on a tray, drive her everywhere and dole out her pills, when there was literally nothing wrong with her.
You forgot when she called 999 for period pain, but was well enough for a selfie on the bed..
 
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I can’t get over the clip of her reading to Oryn, with her laptop in shot on the sofa showing the YouTube video she’s blatantly just clicked pause on, to awkwardly record herself as a present parent. Don’t get me wrong I’m sure plenty of great parents consume media while parenting, but it’s just so Bryony isn’t it 🥲 completely unemployed and can’t be bothered to spend any uninterrupted time with the child her parents bought her. Her only real interest seems to be watching TV, YouTube or reading crappy novels - god forbid parenting her infant disrupts that.

Good point too about the fresh air - we’ve so rarely seen him in the park, or even just in the little garden she has. I get it’s January but we’ve known for centuries getting outside is necessary for children of all ages. Also concerned for the long term that his diet (like Bryonys) seems to ve mostly nutrient void carbs. Thankfully she’s still breastfeeding but we all know that’s gonna end soon. It’s gonna be formula and bread/pastry/pancakes from here on out.

Also the ‘fried banana choc chip sandwich’ really got to me for some reason. More thought went into that than anything she did with Oryn that day. She’s a juvenile idiot.
 
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Also the ‘fried banana choc chip sandwich’ really got to me for some reason. More thought went into that than anything she did with Oryn that day. She’s a juvenile idiot.
It was when she got visibly angry at him when he didn't like the sweet potato pancake things. Her real personality came through there. She wants him to be her doll and obey her and enjoy anything she ""slaves away"" at cooking for him. Because it's all performative fakery. There's nothing real of substance there. It's so worrying seeing her having control over a small human. How the hell was she ever allowed to foster.
 
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It was when she got visibly angry at him when he didn't like the sweet potato pancake things. Her real personality came through there. She wants him to be her doll and obey her and enjoy anything she ""slaves away"" at cooking for him. Because it's all performative fakery. There's nothing real of substance there. It's so worrying seeing her having control over a small human. How the hell was she ever allowed to foster.
I noticed that as well. Her tone go so angry and nasty as she said “Not on the floor” until she remembered she was filming and switched back to her sickly sweet fake voice.
 
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I noticed that as well. Her tone go so angry and nasty as she said “Not on the floor” until she remembered she was filming and switched back to her sickly sweet fake voice.
It was when she got visibly angry at him when he didn't like the sweet potato pancake things. Her real personality came through there. She wants him to be her doll and obey her and enjoy anything she ""slaves away"" at cooking for him. Because it's all performative fakery. There's nothing real of substance there. It's so worrying seeing her having control over a small human. How the hell was she ever allowed to foster.
It was so clearly ‘’can you NOT’’ *singsongy voice change* ‘’throw it on the floor please’’☺

Dread to think how nasty she is off camera
 
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Maybe he preferred the small bits of pancake to the big pieces because when she was tearing small pieces off and passing them to him he was actually getting some interaction from his mum vs her ignoring him and talking to the camera. Just a thought.
 
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It was when she got visibly angry at him when he didn't like the sweet potato pancake things. Her real personality came through there. She wants him to be her doll and obey her and enjoy anything she ""slaves away"" at cooking for him. Because it's all performative fakery. There's nothing real of substance there. It's so worrying seeing her having control over a small human. How the hell was she ever allowed to foster.
Completely agree. I was really taken aback at how angry she got at him. I do know kids can push your buttons but he's 10? 11 months old? There is absolutely no way that he deserves getting angry at. It really puts into perspective the odd part of the video where she's getting angry "at the child interrupting her while she's cooking". Maybe its easy for me to say as not a parent and I've only ever looked after kids but a foster carer is a "professional parent" as far as I'm concerned. And I want a higher level of parenting from someone who the state literally paid to look after children than "I'm angry you tried to throw some pancake on the floor" and "I'm angry you dared try get my attention while I was cooking". I literally can't see the point in getting angry about completely normal things kids do. She says that she doesn't care if the house is messy, she doesn't care if he eats pouches. Well clearly neither of them are true if she gets that angry about him throwing food and interrupting her cooking. Maybe something legitimate Bryony could spend some money on is some kind of anger management to learn to better manage her big feelings around her tiny human.
 
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It was when she got visibly angry at him when he didn't like the sweet potato pancake things. Her real personality came through there. She wants him to be her doll and obey her and enjoy anything she ""slaves away"" at cooking for him. Because it's all performative fakery. There's nothing real of substance there. It's so worrying seeing her having control over a small human. How the hell was she ever allowed to foster.
That sounds horrible 😔 Where is she showing this stuff?
 
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