We’d look at a 2.5-3 year age gap xI think a lot depends on the age gap and what the children are like
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Thank you, for some reason that thought of 1 didn’t phase me, but the thought of 2
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I found 0-1 the hardest, 1-2 felt ok because we were already doing everything for no 1 so no 2 just slotted in. There is 18 months between them. (3-4 is currently a different kettle of fish completely 🫣)I’m pondering baby #2 despite being convinced we’d stop at 1, but the thought terrifies me. How much harder is 2 than 1?
That age gap for us, in my opinion has been pretty much perfect.We’d look at a 2.5-3 year age gap x
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Thank you, for some reason that thought of 1 didn’t phase me, but the thought of 2
We have 5 years between first and second and found it harder because their needs and interests were so different
We obviously have a larger age gap. But I didn't find the transition from 1 to 2 (or 1 to 3) in our case particularly hard. I was well aware of what could be to come, sleepless nights, teething, screaming etc.We’d look at a 2.5-3 year age gap x
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Thank you, for some reason that thought of 1 didn’t phase me, but the thought of 2
I found no kids to one probably the hardest.
I'd say now that they're off boddler age and can be distracted easily it's not so bad, plus when they all play together, and you can hear the eldest making the youngest belly laugh that much they're crying, those hard days seem to be a distant memory
@LilyRose1234 we have a 2.5yr gap, an almost 3yr gap and then a 2.5yr gap again. I think it’s a really great age gap, it always worked really well for us.
I definitely do think the thought of 2 is quite overwhelming. You feel like you’re just doing an ok job with one, some days are hard, how can you possibly do it with 2? But honestly, reality is that (even with a nightmare baby!) you for them in to your life with your eldest and it all Works out
I definitely do think the thought of 2 is quite overwhelming. You feel like you’re just doing an ok job with one, some days are hard, how can you possibly do it with 2? But honestly, reality is that (even with a nightmare baby!) you for them in to your life with your eldest and it all Works out
I think it’s fine. A lot of the things I found hard about number 1 were still ongoing / things I’d got used to, so a second didn’t make a differenceI’m pondering baby #2 despite being convinced we’d stop at 1, but the thought terrifies me. How much harder is 2 than 1?
eg the feeling of being ‘touched out’ is sort of now my daily norm
With pretty much anyone, the first baby is a complete ‘what the duck have I done, I don’t know what I’m doing’ but by the time you have the second, you know, roughly what to do. It was always easier for me the more children I’ve had, even though my house is crazy and I’m being driven slightly insaneI’m pondering baby #2 despite being convinced we’d stop at 1, but the thought terrifies me. How much harder is 2 than 1?
@Nursty playgroup.. it was a sign that I should sack it off. I went all the way there just for a man to tell me really rudely it wasn’t on due to half term. He looked at me like I was a complete maniac. That would have been fine but I actually called to check it was on, they put on facebook it was on and their massive electronic board said it was on
when I asked why they did that he said ‘not my job love’ wanker 
when I asked why they did that he said ‘not my job love’ wanker my little girl is nearly 17 months old and can only say mama dada and nana along with lots of mumbling, I'm getting a little worried as i thought she would be saying more words by now. any one else kids a late starter when it came to talking?
No need to be worried. They all start at different times.
At 18 months, my youngest wasn't even saying mama. Only Dada, hi and bye.
She's now 22 months and says loads of words! Or at least tries
16 months old and only really says mama, otherwise just babbles still. Very expressively mind you.
A bit worried as he also doesn’t wave or clap but all other milestones ok and has just started walking.
Not sure when I would need to worry really?
A bit worried as he also doesn’t wave or clap but all other milestones ok and has just started walking.
Not sure when I would need to worry really?
They don't really worry about speech until they get to about 2. And only really if they're not saying anything by then really.
So there's still plenty of time. They pick it up so quick
I'd say that sounds normal to me
Mr TY has Fridays off work.
Apparently, if I would like a lie in tomorrow (yknow since I'm the one who does all 3000 wake ups with the Kray Twins) hell charge me a tenner.
I mean he's probably joking, but I've just sent him a bank request for Childcare. £90 a day sunshine.
Any one free to help me bury a body?
Apparently, if I would like a lie in tomorrow (yknow since I'm the one who does all 3000 wake ups with the Kray Twins) hell charge me a tenner.
I mean he's probably joking, but I've just sent him a bank request for Childcare. £90 a day sunshine.
Any one free to help me bury a body?
I mean, in some places £90 would be for one, I think £150 would be more reasonable for two (with a small twin discount)!
Exactly what I said! I won't charge him for the second twin!
Posted in the baby thread earlier think I’ve found where I’m supposed to be! Nearly 15 months!
Still wakes up at least twice a night we’re still giving formula at night because we’re both working and it’s the quickest thing to get her back to sleep (I am a terrible mother)
Refuses to be fed and is crap at using her fork and just stabs the plate to death
Apparently she’s a dream at nursery though so that’s great
How is everyone else doing?
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Also I’ve just booked us on forest school and neither of us even own wellies
Still wakes up at least twice a night we’re still giving formula at night because we’re both working and it’s the quickest thing to get her back to sleep (I am a terrible mother)
Refuses to be fed and is crap at using her fork and just stabs the plate to death
Apparently she’s a dream at nursery though so that’s great
How is everyone else doing?
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Also I’ve just booked us on forest school and neither of us even own wellies
I know I’m non existent these day but I am really struggling to stop little crazy cat messing about with a mirror we have on the wall. It’s a long mirror and she keeps walking up to it and grabbing it. It’s not secure at the bottom (we’re going to get those sticky pads) but it doesn’t matter how I say no, distract, move her away, say it nicely, sternly, or ignore her she will not stop bloody playing with it. She laughs and literally runs up to it. it’s driving me mad! Mainly because I don’t want it falling on her but 2 - I don’t know how to discipline her.
She’s a sassy little bugger. She knows it’s naughty as she’s looking at us smiling.
She’s a sassy little bugger. She knows it’s naughty as she’s looking at us smiling.
Ours was like this with the drinks trolly liked to get a bottle and try and smash it through the glass bottom. She used to wait until I’d seen her go for it and look back and laugh before she did it so I must have made it into some kind of game.
Could also use some discipline advice because we just had to move it upstairs but now she’s the same with the big kitchen bin.
I’ve read so many contradictory things on discipline I was going to go with the flow and see what worked at the time but my niece is so feral I’m really worried that I need a proper strategy!
Anyone got remotely well behaved children who listen to them?
I think all you can do really is keep saying no, maybe in different ways such as "We don't do that do we, it could hurt us" sometimes a firm no is needed though, especially when it's about to get dangerous.
They don't really understand action and consequence at this age so it is really tough and such a hard one to ride out.
All 3 of mine, however seem to have selective hearing so push me until I'm ready to explode 🫠
They don't really understand action and consequence at this age so it is really tough and such a hard one to ride out.
All 3 of mine, however seem to have selective hearing so push me until I'm ready to explode 🫠
They certainly like to push their limits don’t they 
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