It doesn’t make it worth while cause everyone I asked wants set days so you’d be paying for nursery wtih a perfectly able husband at home
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It doesn’t make it worth while cause everyone I asked wants set days so you’d be paying for nursery wtih a perfectly able husband at homeI have this same problem with my husbands shifts it’s a nightmare (in my experience)
i promiseOmg would that work
We also had the same. He was fine til 4 months then it went tits up until probably last week (he is almost 11 months now)Oh well his sleep has been terrible since 4 months and never got better, even at his best in the past 6 months he's only managed 2 hours between wake ups and he has to sleep in our bed each night otherwise we get no sleep at all. So I haven't had more than 2 hours consecutive sleep in 6 months (which I know I'm far from alone on here with that!) so I think the sleep deprivation is making it all feel harder too.
So it's hard to identify if there is anything bothering him because he wakes up constantly no matter what's going on!
I left my job March last year it was such a difficult decision to make because it was a job that I absolutely loved and I had worked so hard to get to the position I was in but to have another baby with my other 2 it wasn’t going to work. My husband had just started his own business the year before and he works all over, a lot of the time away from home so we had long discussions about it and we decided that it would be good for me to be a sahm. It’s so bloody hard honestly some days I crave for that time at work but I wouldn’t change it for the world.Is there anyone on here who just never bothered returning to work? My husband keeps saying I should go back and put my wages into savings but once I pay a child minder, another car, 2 lots of car insurance, lunches, petrol etc what actually is the point?
I took him to see the only child minder who could accommodate my husbands shift work and she had a cat.. he chased the cat the whole 45 minutes I was there and grabbed it multiple times. She also had 3 dogs and he screamed for majority of it.
I really don’t want to go back but my husband doesn’t seem impressed even though there is clearly disposable income considering he manages many hobbies a week, eats out every weekend, holidays every yearhe keeps turning it onto me having my ‘own independence’
This is my current reality. Snacks in bed, a book, catching up on a group chat. All done in bed with a sleeping baby next to me@TheBabeWithThePower so my second was a horror show of a baby. Cried constantly until he was two, didn’t sleep, would be awake for hours every night, I couldn’t ever set him down.
The way I learned to kind of get five minutes was when he went to bed, I went too. Armed with iPad/book/drinks/snacks and had my evening there. I got to watch what I wanted, and read or whatever it was. I think reframing that as my me time, rather than time I was held hostage, really helped me out.
When I was able to make that shift from feeling trapped and thinking about how I was missing out on evenings, to feeling that it was ok and quite nice to be snuggled up in bed catching up on tv and books, it helped me so much! And any time I get away from the bed is then a bonus.This is my current reality. Snacks in bed, a book, catching up on a group chat. All done in bed with a sleeping baby next to me
Yes it definitely helps when I remember my headphones to watch TV on my phone and my Kindle... I think I miss time with my husband too! But I guess just got to remember that that time will come back, this isn't forever.When I was able to make that shift from feeling trapped and thinking about how I was missing out on evenings, to feeling that it was ok and quite nice to be snuggled up in bed catching up on tv and books, it helped me so much! And any time I get away from the bed is then a bonus.
It goes oh so very fast. I was out shopping with my 13 yo the other day after school and she said ‘mum do you realise I’m going to be in year 11 next year’Yes it definitely helps when I remember my headphones to watch TV on my phone and my Kindle... I think I miss time with my husband too! But I guess just got to remember that that time will come back, this isn't forever.
My eldest is 6 in Feb 6!!!! WTF! I don’t know where the times goneIt goes oh so very fast. I was out shopping with my 13 yo the other day after school and she said ‘mum do you realise I’m going to be in year 11 next year’I felt like crying. I honestly don’t know where the last almost 14years have gone with her.
My baby girl is one in less than a monthI am getting asked what people can get her for her bday and just wanted to see what was the best present their one year olds got/played with the most please as I’m not sure what to ask people to get her! Thank you in advance
I would say get things that will last, so not necessarily toys for a 1yo as they will be outgrown quickly.My baby girl is one in less than a monthI am getting asked what people can get her for her bday and just wanted to see what was the best present their one year olds got/played with the most please as I’m not sure what to ask people to get her! Thank you in advance
Ok, thanks for telling me this, as it is also the same with my eldestIt goes oh so very fast. I was out shopping with my 13 yo the other day after school and she said ‘mum do you realise I’m going to be in year 11 next year’I felt like crying. I honestly don’t know where the last almost 14years have gone with her.
We’ve got Tommy a ball pit and from his Grandmas he’s getting a George pig rocking horse and a wooden activity cube. Other than that he’ll have probably some books (not that he could ever need more lol) and clothes. Tried to go for big things that would last because he loses interest in little toys so fast.My baby girl is one in less than a monthI am getting asked what people can get her for her bday and just wanted to see what was the best present their one year olds got/played with the most please as I’m not sure what to ask people to get her! Thank you in advance
Wait, no toy story? Are you sure? Are you okay?We’ve got Tommy a ball pit and from his Grandmas he’s getting a George pig rocking horse and a wooden activity cube. Other than that he’ll have probably some books (not that he could ever need more lol) and clothes. Tried to go for big things that would last because he loses interest in little toys so fast.
IWait, no toy story? Are you sure? Are you okay?
In my experience of knowing @jackolanternWait, no toy story? Are you sure? Are you okay?
IF ONLYIn my experience of knowing @jackolantern
It's actually a toy story activity cube.. And toy story clothes... And toy story ball pit
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