This whole discussion has got me introspective about my own unconscious biases. Someone like Noky- beautiful, poised, successful. If people describe her as dignified it’s like saying she’s bearing the burden of being black, and she’s acceptable because she doesn’t make a fuss (she cries a lot but it’s not intrusive like Yinrun’s wailing, and not challenging like when Trish bites back). I feel pretty disgusted with myself, ngl but at least I have some self awareness and try to be better. I had viewed Trish as like me, a bit older, a mum, a feminist- strong because she’s had to be. (When you wear the feminist heart on your sleeve people expect confrontation). To see her through other people’s eyes- people who on paper are my demographic has been a discomfiting eye opener. The horrible truth is most people would view me as more like Kerry- middle aged, closeted bigot, straight white bread white woman. I probably love the daily mail, have “live, laugh, love” on my living room wall and pay lip-service to EDI whilst privately loving the EDL. I don’t do any of those things but you get what I’m saying. I hope I haven’t offended anyone with this post, and I’m happy to be corrected if it’s not derailing the thread.
Also, I hate Tom, in case I’ve not mentioned it before
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