I reckon she was just Laura’s plus one for the night
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Unfortunately though, you have played down birth trauma.
I would love to process what happened to me and move on, I’ve spent £1000s on therapy that I can’t afford, I’ve been medicated, I’ve taken months off work that I couldn’t afford but couldn’t actually function over and above being a mum. I’ve been offered my birth debrief countless times, but rather than feeling excited like our Ashley I am terrified. Terrified to go back to the labour ward where it happened, terrified of letting loose some of the feelings I have managed to suppress.
I’ve been diagnosed with PTSD, generalised anxiety disorder and depression. There are days when getting out of bed feels like climbing Everest.
I do not wish to feel this way but that is how I have been left.
Ashley downplays birth trauma, around the time of her birth a lot of influencers were claiming it.
Until it happened to me I didn’t know it was even a thing.
There’s a difference between actual birth trauma and what Ashley claims, which for the record I think is just deep seated resentment and regret.
Ash’s ‘birth trauma’ is actually ‘gender disappointment’ for the most part, but she knows it’s taboo to admit to the latter. Birth trauma is yet another bandwagon for her. She just doesn't want to miss out.
It's another case of Ash being the victim of evil men. Poor little Alf 
Didn’t Ada have to be delivered with forceps? That, to me, would have been quite traumatic too. However, it was the birth of her perfect baby girl, so the best day of Ashley’s life!
In the clip of the kids in the garden 
where Ada walked the furthest she ever has Alf never even touched Ada, yet Ash said he tripped her over to get to his water gun. Witch
where Ada walked the furthest she ever has Alf never even touched Ada, yet Ash said he tripped her over to get to his water gun. WitchI was genuinely thinking this!! Even other nobodies like lily pebbles got a plus one and took her husband. I don’t think Ashley had her own invite and that’s why it was such a last minute decision.I reckon she was just Laura’s plus one for the night
I am really sorry that was not my intention. I am not good at verbalising my thoughts re Ash. I am sorry for what happened to you xx
She conflates birth trauma with medical malpractice (which she didnt suffer either). In her mind it seems to be that birth trauma is only caused by external sources, something going wrong because someone did something wrong and they can be blamed.
My traumatic birth (not birth trauma as such) was because my own body didn’t do what it was supposed to. There were equipment failures but that wasn’t the traumatic part. The medical team did everything right. There are so many things that can happen that are out of anyone’s hands and not the fault of poor care that can cause trauma, she doesn’t seem to understand that. It’s all about how she was failed.
Just a reminder that she claims she was forced into internal examinations. She can’t use tampons since, suffered fear of having anything inside her, suffers pain from ‘incorrect stitching’ and so on.
Just a reminder that she claims she was forced into internal examinations. She can’t use tampons since, suffered fear of having anything inside her, suffers pain from ‘incorrect stitching’ and so on.
How is she still not walking?!?!In the clip of the kids in the garden
Same babe, same 🩷
I wish I knew you in the real world x
Yes and that’s why Ash didn’t show Ada’s face, because she was bruised.
I've said it before, but I love the people on this thread. Genuinely the kindest
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He doesn't even touch her, how is he tripping her!?In the clip of the kids in the garden
Longest she’s walked since the last time she walked the longest is the new ‘first date night’
My unsolicited opinion on Ashley's 'birth trauma' is that being the narc she is reckoned she'd walk it. She done marathons, she'd travelled overseas alone, she'd been single for 6 years, she'd known the struggle of life, knew more than everyone, is better than everyone, didn't prep because intuition would serve her better than a well considered birth plan and then had her arse absolutely handed to her. Her personal trauma is the impact on her inflated sense of self and thinking she knew more than everyone else and would find birth easy as she's superior to any and all other women who had given birth before her and has yet to after her.
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I’ve had 3 babies and all 3 deliveries were very different, some being born prem which in itself was frightening, but I really think women are sold the belief that every birth should be perfect. There’s such an emphasis on writing a birth plan and so many start thinking about music, candles, snacks rather than the realistics that the birth may not go to plan. Therefore when things don't go to plan women feel disappointed and feel grieved. Ultimately having a healthy baby is the most important part. Part of the anti-natal care should be talking about the birth, the risks and the complications, not to frighten people but to prepare women.
I suppose what I’m saying is that expectation causes disappointment.
I suppose what I’m saying is that expectation causes disappointment.
I can’t say whether she experienced trauma or not, because it is subjective, but I can say that she has done many, many things since then which do not demonstrate the behaviour of someone who experienced birth trauma, and who has lived with / is living with PTSD caused by a medical event.
Also, with the means available to her, she could have accessed exceptional therapy - EMDR is great (but didn’t work for me) or various talking therapies. If I had her money, I would not hesitate to try whatever possible to heal psychologically.
A clinical psychologist described my complex PTSD as the psychological equivalent of open heart surgery - requiring an exceptionally skilled psychiatrist or psychologist to (try to) treat.
Money can buy that.
Also, with the means available to her, she could have accessed exceptional therapy - EMDR is great (but didn’t work for me) or various talking therapies. If I had her money, I would not hesitate to try whatever possible to heal psychologically.
A clinical psychologist described my complex PTSD as the psychological equivalent of open heart surgery - requiring an exceptionally skilled psychiatrist or psychologist to (try to) treat.
Money can buy that.
Oh duck off ashley you do not get trolled for breastfeeding!!
no one tells you breastfeeding is wrong or it’s bad that you do it, people rightly point out that you should give your babies some privacy, that it’s wrong to use your baby breastfeeding in an ann summers video about female pleasure and that the excessive breastfeeding content is ott. BFing your one year old on the 2 minute walk to nursery when you’re happy to leave her all day and evening when it suits you is a prime example, but of course you need to feed her any time a camera is out.
no one tells you breastfeeding is wrong or it’s bad that you do it, people rightly point out that you should give your babies some privacy, that it’s wrong to use your baby breastfeeding in an ann summers video about female pleasure and that the excessive breastfeeding content is ott. BFing your one year old on the 2 minute walk to nursery when you’re happy to leave her all day and evening when it suits you is a prime example, but of course you need to feed her any time a camera is out.
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