Ashley James #2 Parental warnings I pay no heed, did you know I exclusively breastfeed?

[Erzxo]

I feel really sad for Alf. motherho

Motherhood is hard, some parts suck and we all know that but on her story she has literally said she hates it
Then goes on to say how great her hair looks. What the actual duck. She’s so self absorbed.

I noticed the hair thing - then it got me wondering if she does actually hate motherhood or if it's all an act for engagement?

Now I've typed that out - it's probably not an act. I think she hates motherhood and the fact she can't do what she wants when she wants.

Will be telling how much Alf eats now he's back home & she doesn't have chefs preparing his meals!

 

[moonshine09]

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Wants her old life back, Alf still won't say Mom, must be time for another dig at poor Tom

 

[Adcs813]

I think she is depressed and really struggling with the adjustment to motherhood. I've been there and it's hard. To be honest even at 18m pp I'm still struggling with no freedom and very little help.
I don't know why she doesn't have the nanny round more often. I think she has him one day a week? If I were here that is what I would do, and actually let the nanny look after him and not be constantly on call for breastfeeding. I breastfed for 16 months but as mine got older it was only really morning and night and lots of Bf babies have mums that go back to work and just adjust their feeding so it can be done.

 

[Heyholetsgo]

She'd be better off leaving him with someone else and working more. It is a big adjustment but you kind of have to surrender yourself to it in some ways I think and not keep pining for your old life.

I wonder what Tommy thinks of it all as he seems like a happy chap, it's hard to live with someone who is so up and down. I'm not saying it's her fault by any means but it is hard for the other person in the relationship I think. She does seem to be on a downward spiral of sorts.

 

[BigB21]

I think she just hates being with Alf and that is what she finds over whelming. She was happy on holiday as Tommy and his family were there to help, she was happy yesterday morning up at 5 getting things done that make her feel better…. Now the rest she just hates and detests!!

i agree I wonder why she doesn’t get more permanent childcare/ nanny. I’m sure she could afford it. Similarly I wonder why she’s not sought any private mental health support seen as she can afford 2 private lactation consultants.

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The breastfeeding don’t cut it, nor does a 5* holiday to Mauritius or 2x lactation consultants.

 

[Raa]

Put him in childcare for a few hours but then I suppose she can’t play the martyr ‘working and looking after baby’ and the pictures of him breastfeeding will reduce

 

[lovelane]

Looks like she’s gone quiet so hopefully she’s thought about what she is putting out there on the internet or someone has told her to get some support for her mental health. Either way not being on social media for a few days would do her the world of good.

 

[Cariad]

Here's an idea Ashley, give A some of your pizza....or better still make your own - then there would be NO packaging to worry about, also if you make your own you can control what goes in them and make them vegan V easily & they're much cheaper ( just bung the ingredients in a bread machine on dough programme , so you don't even need to knead the dough!...just roll it out and bung your own toppings on them! )

 

[Raa]

I do like dr oekter pizza but hey I have to buy my own from the shop

 

[Rainbow1]

10 months in and ‘day 2’ of doing a pretty standard routine for bed? Honestly

 

[Hollybush]

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10 months in and ‘day 2’ of doing a pretty standard routine for bed? Honestly

She’s an idiot!
She needs to clear that cot and turn off those lights! I was told that a red/orange light is better for babies to relax too and fall asleep too and blue is too stimulating. Once he’s asleep, turn it off or have it on really low.

 

[Cariad]

She’s an idiot!
She needs to clear that cot and turn off those lights! I was told that a red/orange light is better for babies to relax too and fall asleep too and blue is too stimulating. Once he’s asleep, turn it off or have it on really low.

Far too many 'things' in cot and not following "safe to sleep" practice.....he can overheat with that blanket right by his head....he's not sleeping in the arcti!

 

[Ss-ldn]

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10 months in and ‘day 2’ of doing a pretty standard routine for bed? Honestly

haha,I just came to post this! Hark at Miss “no routine” finally realising that it’s pretty important to have one and babies respond well to them! Surprised her intuition didn’t tell her that before she got to 10 months.
Also wtf is he lying on - a pile of coats?!

 

[Hollybush]

Far too many 'things' in cot and not following "safe to sleep" practice.....he can overheat with that blanket right by his head....he's not sleeping in the arcti!

Crazy isn’t it!!!! What parenting book did she read as she needs to burn it!!!
I don’t get it. I’d like to think she takes the picture and then clears it, hoping it’ll get her engagement up as people will message her.

 

[Cariad]

Thread title suggestion.....#3 Why does Alf need a routine ,it doesn't fit with Ashley's scene

 

[Hollybush]

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Alf’s bedroom is lit up like Blackpool Illumination, Is Ashley starting to regret her little creation.

 

[Rainbow1]

Honestly what on earth is the pile of blankets underneath him, does he not roll over in his sleep at all?!

 

[Lurker121]

Can’t believe he’s nearly a year old and she’s only just started giving him a bath before bed and reading him a story. Why oh why was she so against these basic things?! Poor Alfie, why could she not have given him a bedtime story until now? So determined to be some carefree spiritual mum who loves to travel and be spontaneous. Funny that she didn’t make a big deal out of going back on her word and trying to give the baby some structure.

 

[Raa]

Honestly what on earth is the pile of blankets underneath him, does he not roll over in his sleep at all?!

He actually looks red and sweaty!

 

[moimoi]

Well she’s finally acknowledged she’s depressed and looking into extra childcare, so that’s a start!