Ashley James #18 A really brilliant mum (under investigation from Social Services)

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willowtree2 said:
There’s nothing in it for Alf. Just like the Maldives.

It’ll be insta content of her posing with Thumb. She literally knocks me sick
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She will want to start thumb off early with the travelling shit so they can look back at photos and say my first trip was when I was x hours old and I’ve followed in the footsteps of my mother just like when she was travelling (when she was single for 6 years and didn’t resent my brother)
 
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LoTiLu


What’s she’s saying here is “I’ve had a shocker” and later “I’m gutted” because there was a car accident and her hair and make up person couldn’t come. YOU’VE not had a shocker you self absorbed arsehole.
 
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bumbleebee91

Hi, long time lurker but never posted here before.. her stories this morning about gaslighting mums, glamourising motherhood and how we should be able to share our negative experiences.. but then she regularly, on her stories, asks people NOT to share any negative experiences regarding C sections, recovery etc as she doesn't want to hear it? Doesn't make much sense!?
 
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hadtosayit88

So, according to Ash people are entitled to share their experience of childbirth/motherhood, whether it’s good or bad, but can’t mention anything negative about c-section experiences and recovery to her. That all makes sense then.

I accept that motherhood shouldn’t be glamourised, as it certainly comes with it’s challenges, but Ash literally complains repeatedly about how hard it is to be a mum, mainly blaming Alf. Making motherhood sound like utter shit, which it absolutely isn’t, is just as bad as making it sound like it’s all roses. She literally goes off on these rants without any thought and contradicts herself constantly.

ETA sorry @bumbleebee91, didn’t see your post before I said the same!
 
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willowtree2

You could say someone got put through a mincing machine and she’d have a friend who got put through a mincing machine
 
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Beepbopbooploopdoop

Welcome, that's just normal Ashley. She likes to wake up each day and decide which side of a topic she'll represent for that day only.
 
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JarvisCockerSpaniel

Well she’d be quick enough to complain about traffic if it delayed her getting on a flight to the Maldives I’m sure.
 
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lemmings2000

She rants about negative nancies but clearly doesn't realise she is one!
I can bet nobody asks her "is Tommy baby sitting", if they do then they obviously don't know her or follow her mind numbing rants. I can imagine if someone did ask, she'd unleash hell on them.
She actually said sometimes motherhood isn't for some people...so why is she having a second?
 
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sasbeep

hadtosayit88 said:
So, according to Ash people are entitled to share their experience of childbirth/motherhood, whether it’s good or bad, but can’t mention anything negative about c-section experiences and recovery to her. That all makes sense then.
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Ashley can go on and on and on about HER traumatic birth experience to everyone but no one is allowed to tell *her* about their even slightly negative c section experience. What’s wrong with that you troll, it’s perfectly logical.
 
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Hulagirlshelley

So her and her instahuns can rattle away about their own birth and baby experiences the good the bad and the ugly, but no one else can talk about their own experience or they’re all called the trolls or ‘just you wait’ mums? Every mother in history has a birth story (often traumatic) every one of us ….our mothers and grandmothers…. and will continue to do so. All this raising awareness bull shit pretending they’re doing it for the followers benefit is rubbish when they don’t want to listen to others own stories, experiences or advice in return. It’s just an excuse to talk about themselves over and over, day in day out like they’re the only ones it’s ever happened to.
 
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littlepup

She’s really done herself over with these contradictory comments. People are seeing right through it
 
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Autisteuse

InTheDollsHouse said:
People who have experienced true trauma don’t make flippant jokes about PTSD.
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Morning, all. Hope you’re all doing well! I’m up to the eyeballs in academic work - analysing postmodern interpretations of crisis and war - hence recent silence…
I spent five years dealing with complex PTSD, with trauma accumulated over a lifetime of poor treatment, numerous SAs and a partner who deliberately used the memories of traumatic events to gaslight, abuse and disparage me. When I came out of that relationship, my self-esteem - actually my sense of self altogether - at rock bottom, fibrillating from the cruelty inflicted. I was having suicidal thoughts and ideation due to the eighty or so flashbacks I experienced on a daily basis. I simply didn’t want to *be* any more. Without a stellar trauma therapist, I wouldn’t be here. Luckily, I’ve come out the other side. When I have finished my current studies, I am going to train as a trauma therapist, working with women who have endured SA and marital violence. I am also learning Ukrainian and, when the war is over and that shattered nation is rebuilding itself piece by piece, am volunteering to help survivors of Russian cruelty.
PTSD is no joke. It is never a joke. It shall never be a joke.
PTSD is not something to refer to flippantly, lightly, carelessly. It is crushing. It leeches all the colour from the world. It is the experience of utter darkness, as if one is separated from the world by a pane of glass: one can see that others’ lives go on, that they live free of the fear of memory.
Yet again, Ms James shows us her metaphorical (and, too often, literal) arse. She has no empathy. She is devoid of compassion. She is careless of the feelings of others.
I’m not surprised, though, given that either she or one of her minions came on here and denigrated autistic people’s mental capacity; she weaponised a psychological disorder as a means by which she (attempted to) deliver a cruel blow. As I said at the time, and say now, it had no effect on me, simply confirming how loathsome she is. But there are many, many people who will be adversely affected by her casual, thoughtless attitude towards mental conditions. There are many who will be made all the more vulnerable as a consequence of her malign attitude.
The indepth expose continues to write itself.
 
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mamatowildboys

In true Ash (grade A student style) she is failing to explain anything well. I think what she is trying and brilliantly failing at articulating is the “just you wait until the molars come in”, “just you wait until the terrible 2’s start, you know they start way before 2 and last until they are 10” these pointless comments you get or the “oh you say you are just having one, but just wait till they aren’t a newborn and you want another”. We all deal with these and they are pretty useless. This isn’t unsolicited advice tho like she calls it. The unsolicited advice she gets is from people giving her sensible advice like “get all that crap out your child’s cot you crazy woman!”
This is again different from chatting about our own experiences in a conversation, that’s called having a conversation. Ash only seems to like conversations when everyone is on the same page as her she seems to live in a complete echo chamber and can’t interact with people sensibly.
 
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Autisteuse

LoTiLu said:
So she’s doing a talk in parliament about online trolling, online safety and sexism? Is she doing it from the perpetrator’s side so it’s a balanced view?
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This is going to backfire hugely, and I am HERE for it. Talk about an own-goal.
 
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JarvisCockerSpaniel

Just because she doesn’t enjoy motherhood and thinks it’s all tedious and restrictive she thinks anyone else who feels otherwise is just lying or not being honest with themselves or afraid to ‘speak the truth’. Patronising TWAT. Some of us actively like it and are able to enjoy our children and see the many challenges as part and parcel to the joy and privilege of experiencing parenthood. That’s my truth, stick that up your fanny Trashly.

EDIT to say it’s fine if you do find it hard and don’t like various stages but that doesn’t mean those that don’t agree are lying.
 
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Autisteuse

Not to mention spectacularly over-processed. See, for example, the ingredients for truffled cauliflower cheese: “ Cauliflower (53%), Water, Unsweetened Soya Drink [Water, Soya Beans, Calcium, Natural Flavouring, Stabiliser: Gellan Gum, Vitamins (B2, B12, D2)], Tofu [Water, Soya Beans, Nigari], Breadcrumbs (4.0%) [Wheat Flour (Calcium Carbonate, Iron, Niacin, Thiamin), Water, Salt (Anticaking Agent: E535), Yeast], Cashew, Yeast Flakes, Truffle Oil (1.9%), White Miso (Soya), Garlic (0.4%), Lemon Juice, Sea Salt, Dijon Mustard, English Mustard, Pepper, Turmeric.160”

I’m on the fence with this one. I’m autistic myself (as you might have guessed ) and although I stim, I’ve never hand-flapped (although eye contact has always been difficult; I’ve had to train myself to meet people’s gazes). Since autism is a spectrum, behaviour varies from child to child, individual to individual. There’s also the possibility that because Ms James has failed to properly socialise her child, uses the iPad as a diversion constantly, doesn’t eat with him and pens him into his deathtrap room, fails to give him toys that would help with the development of fine motor skills i.e. Duplo, that he may be behind his peers who have experienced more attentive parenting.
Given Ms James’ attitude towards autism, I sincerely hope that Alf is not autistic. She would make an absolute meal of it, not to mention taking it personally and using him for neurodiverse content.
 
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