Ashley Cain

[sharnijade]

I’m gonna put my two pence in


Saf is obviously struggling, and Ashley doesn’t help her I think they’re together but only because their azaliya’s parents. I cringe every time Saf says let’s go champ, I don’t know why but I do. The grave is too over done & no offence it’s an eyesore, I would be fuming if my relative was buried near her and I had to look at that. You know for a fact the council haven’t said anything due to who they are & they’re scared of backlash. It broke my heart watching that baby die on Instagram, I’m a mother myself and my daughter is only 9 months older than azaliya and I couldn’t imagine the pain or question how to deal with something like that but I wouldn’t be posting my child’s final moments on Instagram.

 

[Hbirdette]

Why does he spell Mum mom?
Nit picking but curious. The themed presents for his mum are
Too much. They will never forget their beautiful baby but they are turning her into a character.

It’s quite a common way of spelling it if you’re from Bham//West Midlands way I believe

 

[eatingcarbs]

It’s obvious the mum doesn’t like him and doesn’t like the circus that’s been created. Obviously driven by him. Saf is like a rabbit in headlights and has been swept away in it all.
The post on her Facebook about nobody having their arm around her daughter is obviously aimed at the lack of affection shown between the couple & the narcissistic post is obviously aimed at Ashley, too.
The couples love has always seemed very one sided with Saf doing most of the donkey work. Sadly if the little girl hadn’t been taken ill, I think they would have split up

 

[Millieminion]

The more i watch saf the more my blood boils, shes so blatant lookin for freebies it makes me sick! And its all on the back of her poor baby really annoying everyday with the bullshit it still blows my mind how they are funding their life cos they aint workin & havnt in so long? But u can stand there in new louis vuitton sliders? Da fuck? I thought they were broke, sold stuff etc to get by when Azaylia was in hospital, so wheres this pot of gold comin from? Cos people not workin, on welfare/benifits can barely scrape by, but these 2 are floatin about well funded? Surely if things are gifted things or do sponsored posts (which i havnt seen) they would say it? Sumtin dodgy goin on!

I've had to unsubscribe after today and seeing those sliders and posh hotel while neither work and are not shy about flaunting stuff,I was giving them the benefit of the doubt for the last few weeks that everything was #gifted but it doesn't seem so,I donated to their go fund me, although it wasn't much, I feel it all should have gone straight to another family ASAP and then set up their charity.

 

[DreamyGal]

More begging

 

[Adcs813]

I feel awful for Saf. I know I shouldn't compare but I have to say I think a mother's pain over losing a child is probably so much more intense than a man's. Saf carried her baby, delivered her and then shortly after was thrown into all this, but Ashley doesn't seem to be supporting her at all.

It seems to be the Ashley Cain show... give credit to Saf, she carried A, gave birth to her, nursed her and then lost her to a devastating illness. I know Ashley is A's dad and its devastating for him to loose a baby, but its going to be even harder for Saf. She will have an overwhelming ache and pain in her body for her baby.
I feel more for Saf than i do for Ashley

Completely agree x

 

[Hihello]

They really need professional help, I can't imagine what they're going through but all this anything orange is a sign from azaylia and seeing faces in the clouds is very unhealthy in my opinion. That poor baby got no peace at all even in her last couple of days she was being passed around and danced all around the living room with music booming and a house full of people when it was clear she was very weak and just needed to rest.

 

[hellothere_]

I just lurk on this thread, as I don’t want to judge 2 parents grief but Ashley is so cold to Saf it’s hard to watch. I don’t think she feels worthy of him, she treats him like a god by trying to constantly fish for his attention, his time and for any affection. That should be given naturally, not by doing 25 mile bike rides and shouting ‘let’s go champ’. He seems like he thinks his grief is more worthy and more painful than Safs. I don’t dislike him, but I dislike how he seems towards Saf. I say seems as I see a snapshot on Instagram ect. She looks so consumed by her grief, and it looks like all she wants is a hug from him! I think he forgets she grew A for 9 months, gave birth and spent time with and now she’s gone.

 

[Hollybush]

If Ashley is away for 2 weeks, his absence might be a blessing in disguise! Saf might be able to do what she wants when she wants without worrying about what Ashley might say.
I hope the next two weeks gives her a bit of clarity and hopefully feel stronger in making her own decisions on how she should grieve for her little girl x

 

[Noonoosanne2]

Do people usually tend to park a load of cars at the graveyard like how ash and his family do? Just seems they are taking it over with all the cars lined up

I wouldn’t feel comfortable or happy visiting a grave at the same time that these are all there it’s like they’ve taken over and you would feel like you shouldn’t be there it’s also it quite a residential area so can’t imagine the residents are happy about it, it does seem to be turning into some kind of circus, I hope all the balloons weren’t just let to drift off into the sky 🥲

 

[Private_user01]

My feelings completely. I think ultimately Ashley and Saff will be drawing on their support system and rightly so however said support system seems questionable. Saffiyaas brother seems amazing and very supportive. Obviously her mothers behaviour has been shocking but I was also gobsmacked at Ashley's cousins on Instagram. They were literally posing like instahuns at Azaylias funeral, one of them sticking their bum out and getting angles. Unbelievable.

Some of the cousins are awful! There was one who wore an off the shoulder dress with a split and big heels to the funeral.. posing away. I thought how distasteful. Have some respect!

 

[chocdip]

I don't think anyone, unless going through what they have, can imagine what they are going through.

Yes they are showing their grieving journey on their stories, I don't think anyone has the right to judge how someone grieves.

Not judging their grieving at all and definitely never going to judge saf, I will judge Ashley on the way he shows off his latest Nike trainers his fifa 21 in a limo to London him posing showing off all his designers his ridiculously expensive BMW all the while claiming he’s broke and has the shitiest car on the forecourt he’s a joke.

And again I’m no way taking away the pain hurt devastating loss of Azaylia, but him his sister brother cousins etc make a mockery out of her death and are in it for the fame and likes

 

[openbook1]

Sorry saf could easily have got on a Google search for a 4x4 to rent for a week.

Do you not know Google doesn't exist for influencers...?

 

[Noonoosanne2]

Can I suggest no thread suggestions for the next thread please just Ashley Cain #2

 

[Noonoosanne2]

There

I completely agree with this. Some things they’re doing may not be to everyone’s taste, but I think unless you’ve been in that position NO ONE has any right to say anything about they way they’re acting. Social media is probably a coping mechanism, just leave them be to grieve how they see fit. Aside from everything they’re child has died, they watched their baby die - leave them alone.

sorry for your loss, I can’t imagine the heartbreak.

Theres somethings I agree and some I don’t, I will always stick to my opinion with the party at the grave yes they are grieving but so are other families, a bit of consideration wouldn’t go a miss, just because A’s plot stands out doesn’t mean that people are going to be ok with it. Unfortunately they’ve chosen to document every single aspect on social media and people are going to have an opinion about things. Would people be ok with it if it wasn’t Ashley Cain I actually think not

 

[Mardymermaid]

I disagree with a lot of what is said here about how they acted before and after her death. I just think it’s nobody’s place to judge however it’s an opinion site so people will.

One thing that I have found horrifying during it all is saffiyas mum. She seemed to thrive on the attention of it all. On the Facebook page she added so many members as friends she used to tell people to add her. She gave out her work address which is in a hospital. The video of her and her sister dropping things off in azaylias last days was so spiteful and then continuing to post and argue and slag her daughter off whilst her granddaughter was having her final moments. Whatever you think of the parents what they were put through by that woman is unforgivable and if I were saff I’d never talk to her again.

 

[BettySpaghetty]

I found it odd that he and his brother chose to get a chauffer driver car with an xbox in the back to Plymouth rather than one of them driving... just seemed like an unnecessary luxurious expense

 

[Tobodee]

I feel horrible slagging him off after what they've been through but what is he playing at. Fuck the bike riding off, get in bed with your bloody girlfriend and let her sob her heart out

yes! He’s a prick. What he’s gone through is just incomprehensible but I’m just thinking of me and my husband were in the same position. God, he would never let me go - he’d look after me, support me, hold me; everything a partner should do!

I think poor Saf just wants to break down but daren’t because she’ll think Ashley will judge her I.e. ‘why can’t you be strong like me?’
she deserves so much better

 

[ash247]

This is what I don’t understand because they have a large following they are entitled to 50k (the nurse mum) to help her get by, most people have to work or at least rely on benefits what about people with no Instagram following who rely on benefits and no support network

This is what I don’t understand because they have a large following they are entitled to 50k (the nurse mum) to help her get by, most people have to work or at least rely on benefits what about people with no Instagram following who rely on benefits and no support network

my child was very poorly in hospital before his passing.I left work with the thoughts of me caring for him at home full time so I handed my notice in at work and started receiving income support. After 2 months he passed suddenly I had to take out a loan to pay the the funeral aswell as use all the savings I had. I was informed I could claim for ‘bereavement funeral costs’ however was denied any help what so ever.
I was left paying for a funeral for the next two years with slot of added interest! X

 

[Goldfish]

I dont think mourning needs to be done in private. That seems a very outdated/stiff upper lip approach

Maybe not in private, but it definitely needs to be done respectfully and throwing a party like they did when Azaliya is not the only person laid to rest there, it’s not ok