Ashley Cain

[Coconutclub]

Regarding the orange skies, faces in clouds and other signs. I would never judge them for seeking comfort that their baby is still here in spirit. Nobody ever wants to let go of a child. I hope they always find comfort in the signs as they will find comfort in little else.

A member of my family died young and we always say weather / clouds are signs or robins etc, are them. Deep down I don't believe it is them, but I like saying it because it gives an opportunity to say her name out loud or to remember her for a quick moment. It's hard to bring up those that have died when it was a traumatic event because you worry about upsetting your family / friends again, so being able to say - 'oh look that shape in the clouds is ...' is an easy way to remember them without too much conversation about it.

 

[Cdinvoice]

Everyone can have an opinion it's an opinion site. I've had loads of deaths granted not a child never once have I set a disco up at a graveside. You put it online expect people to judge it

I agree, I feel that Saff
Is a “little boy lost” she is being told to ride her bike to beat her grief/ mental
Illness! I’m sorry but she needs proper support, possible medication, let’s face it, it’s got to be the worst scenario of PSTD, I think Ashley drums in ….. exercise for mental wellness.
it’s a load of rubbish! She needs to do her.

 

[chloe165]

I’ve just seen the post that her mum has posted, I think it is so inappropriate for her to be sharing those videos and photos of Azaylia in distress. Its not her place to be sharing those photos, if I were Saf or Ashley I would be so angry.

 

[DreamyGal]

I also think that like post pregnancy is hard she didn’t get to get herself back but instead had a poorly child to look after
There’s been no respect for her giving birth etc
I feel for her tbh

 

[Soflora]

I dont think they are together.. i dont even think they have ever been together to be honest.
He never really showed Saf until Azaylia got poorly.

like someone else said that someone commented on a picture saying he was cheating. I bet hes always talking to other people. He shows no interest in Saf...

Just my opinion

 

[Kingdonkey]

Came on to say the same really. I absolutely cannot imagine what it is to be in their shoes, but have just seen the party in the cemetery. How many others need to go be at a graveside to be confronted by all of that. Possibly parents in the same boat too. So distressing..why on earth there is so much noise..its wrong

 

[Tobodee]

I honestly feel so so sorry for Safiyya, my heart broke for her on her stories, however I did think it was really distasteful posting the pictures of her when she had passed, and the videos of her final days when her nose was bleeding and they were up making her dance with music blasting! The baby just wanted to rest. I know everyone deals with things differently but they really should have left social media for a bit. Even just one day!
I agree Ashley seems distant with her too, I don’t think the relationship will last unfortunately . I do really hope they find contentment in their lives and as much happiness as possible.

 

[Noonoosanne2]

I think if anyone deserves a day at a Spa it’s Saf!

Oh yes I agree but she can Google or trip advisor it or even ask the hotel she’s staying at The way she’s asked is classic please give me a freebie it’s happening more and more, I have a lot of time for Safiya and I really like her and feel for her what I don’t have time for is blatant begging.

 

[Noonoosanne2]

Are you joking? You think people should get their money back because she ended up dieing??? Fuck sake

It was always made clear that of it A couldn’t get to Singapore then the funds would be to help other children, so to be honest people shouldn’t even think about wanting a refund

 

[Hollybush]

The last pic Ashley posted and they’re on that orange sofa says a lot. I feel like he has a kind of resentment towards Saffiya. He’s not even got an arm around her. Never seen comforting her either. Like yesterday night. Backvfaced to her whilst on the bed. It’s just off to me the way they interact. I have a feeling he snaps at her too sometimes.. I understand everyone deals with losses differently but on this case where it’s so public at least hold your partner. He looks uninterested in her

Yeah I bet she has to walk on eggshells around him!! I do watch her stories and feel for her and glad she has her brother for support.

 

[Tobodee]

You know that’s absolutely vile if he’s cheated whilst their baby was poorly, but also, it doesn’t surprise me in the slightest if it were true

 

[Noonoosanne2]

Shocked how heartless some of you are. They haven’t used any of the money you can clearly see it’s still in the go fund me. Ashlie posted a few weeks ago saying every penny is going to charity. Criticising someone for setting up a charity in ho lie of their dead baby is pretty low. He may not have experience but he has a high profile and contacts hence why he was able to raise the money so quickly. Why shouldn’t other children with cancer benefit from this money. It’s his way of coping and would you begrudge him that. Honestly shocked at these comments.

none of the comments are being heartless and nasty people have a right to wonder and question

 

[GobShyte64]

I signed up to the DKMS years before Azaylia was born. While Azaylia was sick, I had a call from them saying that I matched someone who was sick & if I could go to London and donate my bone marrow. I was pooing my pants as I hate being operated on but if i was sick, or my kids were sick I’d be begging people to do it. They didn’t need me in the end as they found someone who was a much closer match. I definitely recommend people to sign up. And the Anthony Nolan one.

 

[Heron1267]

The over the top grave and the daily visits all filmed for social media seems like a very unhealthy trap they’ve got themselves into. What happens when they can’t sustain that/don’t want to go every day/the gifted items dry up? Will they feel compelled to continue the circus because they owe it to their social media followers? I really hope not.

I know it’s been only a few months but this seems such an unhealthy way to grieve. They need to turn the cameras off, shutdown their socials and deal with their family issues in private. I wish peace for them all.

 

[gigilouxx]

I'm not gonna comment on his height, his appearance or the way he grieves. But the way he's being with his own babies mum is not nice to watch, she's completely pushed aside. I struggle to slag him off because what they have done despite all this is raise awareness for childhood cancer mainly the urgency of more stem cell donors.

 

[Goldfish]

I do find it odd how they shut down the group that Safs mum made, even though it effected her personally, with being Azaliyas grandmother.. but they’re completely comfortable with complete strangers profiting of the death of their daughter. That’s massive red flags for me, they didn’t like the mums group as it didn’t get them the attention, but Instagram pages were getting them more attention. How they handled the situation with her mum was awful, on both sides, but I do feel sorry for her being cut out of Azaliyas unfortunately short life, but they allowed a mass Instagram following to basically watch her die, I’d be bitter too if I was her mum

 

[Wild_she]

I watched that interview with Lorraine this morning and felt sad for saf. I think she really, really wants to break, but Ashley is pressuring her to keep going and “be strong”. I think if that’s the case, that might be adding to her anxiety. I noticed in the interview too he didn’t even support saf, little eye contact and he just looked ashamed when she kept saying “let’s go champ” but I think that was just nerves because she doesn’t know what to say and that’s something to add.

They’ve been through something so awful and I can’t comprehend their pain. But it does feel like Ashley is trying to be in the limelight and more vocal than saf. I feel sad that Saf barely gets to speak about her pain and it’s all focused on him, like why wasn’t she at the interview with Ferne!? It makes me just want to pick her up and cuddle her because Ash seems so cold and unsupportive of her

 

[GobShyte64]

It is France I believe where parents can be fined or go to jail for sharing kids online. And when the kid is older they can sue them. I wonder how many children of influencers will sue their parents in years to come.

Kids should not be online anywhere... I can imagine family instagram accounts are a paedophile's dream! Look at that PTWM, she pimps her kids out on insta all the time & I'm sure there are loads of other insta families that do the same! Even the unhinged fans, can track them down, follow kids home from school or whatever else. It's just not safe.

 

[Polly_Chops]

That’s it they are just words she’s saying because she feels like she has to I actually think she doesn’t enjoy the exercise or bike riding she’s doing at all, do you think she’s not allowed to have counselling or consider medication ?

Yes, I agree, that exactly what I think. She says them like a mantra but there's no passion, she's just repeating words that are said to her. I imagine she thinks she wouldn't feel this way if she was stronger, if she done a extra mile in her bike, it bothers me when she says 'what would azaylia do' 'she would would want me to do to x,y,z'. Well actually she wouldn't do anything because she is a baby!
I'm not disputing Ash is of course also broken but I feel he is pushing his coping mechanisms onto her or more likely totally absorbed in his own grief so she is copying him to get his attention, she needs someone (him) to say getting professional help isn't being weak.
What is he going do to as part of the foundation, go to other grieving parents & say be strong, ignore your partner & go on a bike ride everyday, it's not something everyday people can do, usually people have real jobs to go to.

 

[UnkindFoot]

I think it looks like he's made such an effort for her birthday, which is nice! Just because they aren't constantly updating stories together doesn't mean they aren't together, we do only see a tiny snippet of their day