Grieving over the loss of your child is going to be difficult, but grieving when your partner is Ashley Cain will make the journey a thousand times harder. She doesn’t seem to recognise that though, but she will one day. Being with an narcissist makes your moods go up and down, you start attributing that rollercoaster to other things, and the narcissist is more than happy to not take any responsibility. It becomes a real head duck. Whilst I believe Saf has her own personal failings; I don’t agree in the slightest with the way Saf is managing the donations, her “grief marketing” or even how she documented little Azalyia’s life. But, I can entirely empathise with her situation of a) losing a child and b) grieving alongside a narcissist. That is definitely hard going, and will no doubt lead to complete and utter confusion. There is always a defining moment where the penny drops though. Hopefully that day comes sooner rather than later for her. Because, despite what she is going through, she can always choose to do the right thing, and honour her daughter properly. If the media catches hold of this shitshow, she could end up with her entire life under the microscope alongside the narcissist and I doubt the outcome will be very forgiving. The both of them will be tarnished as being deeply untrustworthy. I doubt that will be easy to come back from in the internet age.