Ashley Cain #2

[Spider12]

Whilst I still stand by that I don’t judge how they grieve (the orange, let’s go champ etc) I can’t help but judge how little support Saf seems to be getting. I feel so so sorry for her. Her latest stories hurt my heart. She seems so lost and alone and he’s there with the adoring crowds. It’s not right

 

[chocdip]

Just watched her live she looks beautiful cannot believe people are asking when she’s having another baby and accusing her of spending Ashley’s money! Pretty sure she makes more than him anyway people are so insensitive

 

[JaneDoe1967]

Am I the only one thinking about the covid-spreading risks of travelling city to city hugging young possibly unvaccinated females? (I know quote a few 20-30 year olds still have only had one vaccination) .

 

[xxexposethemallxx]

She's on live, people are saying get engaged. She made a joke saying he needs a push from all their followers then said "no he'd be so annoyed if I got everyone to spam him saying propose to me" poor girl

Everyone is going on about marriage , insensitive

Look how vacant & disconnected he looks

 

[ItsCalledGoogleHun]

I definitely feel like her saying she doesn’t want to take medication for her mental health right now isn’t necessarily coming from her and that’s really bloody sad.

 

[a_aaa]

It’s his thing apparently. No it isn’t.

It’s his thing but it’s ok for his brother and cousin to join him? His cousin wasn’t even there from the start but that’s ok. What an absolute piece of shit.

 

[cuncuncuncucncnncncnc]

On Saf's live there was a lady asking where Azaylias grave was and if she could go there, if not can she send saf the stuff for her grave. Like i find that odd especially if you don't know them personally very disrespectful.

 

[Noonoosanne2]

Really baffles me how they’re not sharing other children’s stories that are struggling with cancer

I think they both fed us a load of shit

I can’t watch her lives , they make me cringe & I can’t stand reading nasty comments that people put

She’s pinned an eyelash post offering their services but ignored posts saying about a family needed money for a sick child . Priorities right there

 

[mrslh]

Honestly me And my ex ain’t together and he always always says OUR son so why does ash think it’s ok to say MY . I mean no wonder her mum is going mad isn’t it obvious this is all about ash . He can’t respect the mother of his child and it’s so obvious this is all about him . I’ve not seen anything yet of saf just him and the crowds cheering him . Imagine carrying a baby fir nine months going through what she is and having your partner refer to their daughter as MY sorry but it’s disrespectful

 

[eatingcarbs]

I think it’s fair to say, he’s got a god complex. Regardless of his little girl passing and undoubtedly a great dad, he just comes across as being a prick.

 

[Private_user01]

Really fed up of hearing "Let's go champs"

Also, in regards to comments about Saf and Ashley as a couple. Maybe he is finding it difficult to be around her because it is a reminder of their daughter and the pain they suffered and still suffering. Everyone grieves differently, some struggle to console their partner and be there for them. Yet they find relief in strangers. It is difficult to say.
Best wishes to them both whether they continue to stay together or separate.

 

[gigilouxx]

She's on live, people are saying get engaged. She made a joke saying he needs a push from all their followers then said "no he'd be so annoyed if I got everyone to spam him saying propose to me" poor girl

 

[Noonoosanne2]

It might sound petty but I wish they wouldn’t keep letting balloons go , also as someone says earlier a lot of the turn outs are younger girls not there for A but their for a photo op with Ashley
I don’t think I could hug a sweaty man after a bike ride all day

 

[Noonoosanne2]

I've been where they have been almost identical circumstances. My child died too. Please let's stop this thread. It really won't help anyone ESPECIALLY not saff

The thread started out of concern for both of these. A lot of posters have also been in similar circumstances. Unfortunately they’ve documented their lives on a social platform publicly & people are going to have opinions. Everyone is in support of Safiya & we are genuinely worried about her. I’m so sorry for your loss.

 

[00lkj99]

Just why?
why be a cunt?! I bet it’s the last thing on her bloody mind while she grieves

You’d be surprised how many people say this though. My hubby and I lost our daughter she was a few weeks old and so many people would come up to us and say “at least you can try for another”

 

[pickle99]

I just can’t wrap my head around the relationship. Every time I see Saff I want to hold her tight and cry with her into a face mask and bottle of wine, Talk about how evil the world can be (my daughter passed away to) - But also remind her we’re bad a$$ and we’re strong, We can go on and live our lives with our beautiful children watching down on us and remind her it’s ok to grieve IN HER OWN WAY, however she wants to.

I guess I can see it from a different aspect as my husband was always so supportive of me. When our living daughter nearly died we stayed in NICU for days on end, he never left our sides. I’d just given birth to, he was literally showering me washing me, helping me change my pads popping my aloe Vera on my pads, dressing me. I can’t comprehend how lucky I was. Even without all that, he was just there for me to touch, he was by my side. Being alone in such a dark time is really really not nice. I pray for Saff everyday what a beautiful precious kind woman she is, Right now she’s just embedded in her grief and that’s ok. When she gets passed this as much as she can, (Azaylia will never be forgotten) I think she’ll see right through Ashley!

 

[Noonoosanne2]

Not me , I only have Saf on my insta , blocked the rest of the family , can’t be arsed seeing them. I see Ashley’s stuff on my private account

Better to own up or fuck off whoever it is , no need for it

It’s pitch black where they are , Jesus Christ !

Nearly got me in tears , heartbreaking ( obvs not showing his face on here )View attachment 756691

I’ve just come to say that beautiful boy looks exhausted why on earth is he out it’s been wet and windy he should be at home.

 

[Peakyblinders]

yep same. And other than that it seemed like perfectly normal interaction to me. I 'm not really seeing the problems others are.
To me they seem at ease with one another and yes both are grieving, in different ways but also in very similar ways. It's to be expected. Some are saying Saf needs to be alone and sit and grieve, when she does just that then others are saying she should be distracted and not left by herself. It's heartbreaking either way I just send my best wishes without question. I think they are both doing really, really well.

if You can’t see the problems everyone else is seeing then I really don’t know what to say. It’s blindingly obvious! As I’ve said in another message, my boyfriend at times acts towards me as Ashley does with saf. And numerous of my friends have noticed it from the “snippets”I post online. But they’re right, because he is dismissive of me sometimes. But that’s another story.
When they were on Lorraine or whatever they were on, or maybe the podcast - she broke down in tears and he just sat there. Not even so much as a reassuring hand on leg or shoulder. Nothing. He IS dismissive of her, it’s blindingly obvious.

 

[getmeoutofhere]

It’s his thing apparently. No it isn’t.

Because if she finishes with him he’ll have to share the support and adoration with her and this is all about Ashley. So he can say he did it, just like she’s HIS daughter. The man is ridiculous and yes I know he’s grieving doesn’t suddenly excuse shit behaviour though

He’d do well to remember who birthed his child, who looked after her day in day out and who is also grieving without the support of as many close family as he has.

oh and to remember this is for the foundation, not the cain ego boost foundation

 

[Peakyblinders]

that's so sad for you. Maybe you're projecting a bit? Or maybe, since you have chosen to stay with your bf, you recognise he's just not demonstrative for social media? I don't know - that's your relationship

I actually think they came across strong and fine both on Lorraine and the podcast with GF. He knows what she needs. If he had reached across she might have crumbled. They are united in a way most thankfully aren't.

considering the fact I’d say approx 90% of the people on this thread are seeing and saying the exact same thing as me. I don’t think so I’m afraid. You’re definitely in the minority thinking it looks like a normal loving relationship.