People were also more religious and they lived in ‘communities’ back in the day, we live very selfish lives now and people seem to keep themselves to themselves, it’s definitely like this where I live anywayI always think people back then were happier because although they worked harder their work had purpose.
I’d say it’s 50/50 around me of whether or not someone will acknowledge you if you say hello. I do think we’re all conditioned to be “what’s the catch” if a stranger is nice to you which is a shame.People were also more religious and they lived in ‘communities’ back in the day, we live very selfish lives now and people seem to keep themselves to themselves, it’s definitely like this where I live anyway
Your posts always hit home with me. I hope you find your happiness and confidence one day you gorgeous soulI've sat here for ages trying to describe whether I'm happy or not, it's tough to put into words. I have days where I feel happy, I laugh, have fun and feel good but there's always things in the back of my mind which drag me down. I feel selfish saying that I'm miserable, because I have a loving partner, a nice home, a stable job, family etc, there's people far worse off than me so I feel like I don't deserve to say it, but I cry more than I'd like to admit. I have a lot going on at the moment which contributes to being sad, but those are all things which I know will get better. Deep down I'm not happy in myself, I have no confidence, I hate the way I look and sometimes I hate the person that I am. These are things I can't easily change, but I feel like I'd be far happier if I could.
Nail on the head! Happiness is a journey and not a destination (did I really say that?! Yuck!) even those who say they are mostly happy will have times of anger and sadness throughout their day.Happiness is an emotional state and not a static destination, feeling happy/content will ebb & flow naturally in the same way that all other emotions should. I don’t believe that anyone ever feels 100% happy all day, every day. I am happy and content with myself and my life as a general overview of my situation yes but within that there are of course day to day issues/problems/struggles that make me unhappy/stressed/worried etc
This has resonated with me so much and has actually made me feel loads better! I’m probably struggling more than ever before at the moment, but when I think about it, I do still have moments of happiness.Happiness is an emotional state and not a static destination, feeling happy/content will ebb & flow naturally in the same way that all other emotions should. I don’t believe that anyone ever feels 100% happy all day, every day. I am happy and content with myself and my life as a general overview of my situation yes but within that there are of course day to day issues/problems/struggles that make me unhappy/stressed/worried etc
Sure, nothing is too personal, I tend to overshare on here anywayMight I ask what those steps would be? I am hoping that the discussion will inspire me to figure out what steps I may take. Though each person's journey is different, just the conversation may spark something in those of us who are feeling a bit lost. Of course, you are free to ignore the question if it is too personal.
I completely feel your pain and tbh I wish I could leave.. I would hate to look back in 10-15 years or so and think wtf did I do with my life but the reality is not as easy..I am truly happy in my own life; i have worked hard to be content in my career and I know i am doing well and working in the right area. It took me a long time to figure it out but i have the view that all the shit jobs and struggles formed who i am today and why i enjoy my career so much now.
I love my children and take great pride in them and all they do. Dont get me wrong i am “normal” and they drive me bloody insane at timesbut i adore them and love the connection we have. I love spending time with them and seeing the world through their eyes.
Life is short and i spent many years trying desperately to figure it all out and searching for happiness. Now i take the tough days on the chin, try to see what good i can, and be kind to myself if it ain’t a great day. Its only a day. Onwards and upwards.
where I struggle is my marriage and i can understand your loneliness @bexgreen1983, i am married but very lonely and in hindsight i made a poor decision but for many reasons i cant leave. I just try to find happiness in as many other places i can, children, friends, work & nature. I feel somewhat sad reading back what i have written and if i was speaking with someone in a lonely marriage i would wish they would leave and fulfill their lives but its life isn’t it. Sometimes its not easy.
i find strength in saying to myself that i did what i could given the time and support, or lack of, that i had. I do look back at times and wish I could whisper in the ear of my younger self that i should take my time and believe in myself i dont need to go through with the marriage. That said i dont regret the last ten years i try to find strength in each decision made knowing that it was what was in my ability at that given moment.I completely feel your pain and tbh I wish I could leave.. I would hate to look back in 10-15 years or so and think wtf did I do with my life but the reality is not as easy..
Yes as it would give me the freedom to get out of my marriage and stand on my own two feetThis is an interesting thread, I have a question for the people who said no...would more money make you happier? I don't mean for material things but money can help cant it?
Keep doing what you are doing, sounds like you have a great relationship with your kids.I think that happiness comes in moments rather than being a state of mind. Life is challenging for all of us in various ways and I don’t think being happy constantly is obtainable.
I do feel grateful for what I have, for my family and our pets and our home. I have a cuddle from my kids every day and feel full up with love. I don’t go around beaming with happiness though because a lot of life is a means to an end- paying the bills, doing the housework, etc etc.
Money would make me happier in the sense that it would make me feel more secure. Not for material things but I wouldnt have to worry about how to pay my next bill etcThis is an interesting thread, I have a question for the people who said no...would more money make you happier? I don't mean for material things but money can help cant it?
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