I agree that things got a lot worse as soon as she started living with Mo. I feel like her previous relationship, before Mo, did a number on her. I think after that she wanted to be as good and as perfect as possible. Perhaps that's why she tried very hard to morph into the perfect person, for herself and for Mo, to keep things together and to not have another broken/failed relationship.
Mo is not a gentle person. They are very confused on improving yourself and pushing hard. I feel like he's constantly pushing Annie to do better, to work hard on herself, to improve herself. In stead of telling her to take it slow, easy and to be kind, gentle, loving and compassionate towards herself.
I think it's with reason she's gotten so incredibly much plastic surgery ever since she's with Mo. Even though Annie says he's supportive of her, I feel like he's always pushing her into the direction of "fixing herself" in stead of making peace with herself. I do not find it normal to get this much work done in such a short time. She is clearly addicted to perfectionism, fixing and quick results.
Annie clearly needs a lot of help and she needs self love, compassion, kindness and more gentleness and forgiveness in her life. Only when she fully accepts herself and works on her issues, she can let go and I think it will help her a lot, to be more free.
But with someone like Mo she just can't grow that way. Because he will always tell her she can fix it if she just works hard. But I do not believe this. Not everything is fixable, and not everything you can achieve just by working hard and doing your best.
Not to diagnose her, but I'm guessing she has some kind of anxiety disorder, eating disorder and obsessive complusive disorder. I want to note, there is nothing wrong with this and I don't shame her at all. I have been battling with these issues myself for many years, there is no shame. I think her behavior is a lot of wrong coping mechanism, she has never learned to comfort herself and she obviously isn't getting it elsewhere (Mo, family, friends) either. When this happens you don't know what to do with panic, anxiety, stress, other things out of your control that make you freak out or worry. When this happens you turn to ED, OCD... etc. you can clearly see this in how she arranges stuff, her obsessiveness with white, clean, fresh. Everything out of order makes her not feel good. I was always cleaning as well back then, ordering things. It helped me. But not really helped me. I never got to the root of the issue. Years of therapy helped me a LOT and highly recommend this to Annie as well. There are just so many self help books you can read, but they are clearly not helping for her. They didn't work for me, either, because you can't talk to a book and it doesn't give feedback and pushback.
This is why Mo is not the right person for her, right now. Perhaps with therapy AND couples therapy they could make it work again, but they both don't seem to be much into traditional therapy which is sad.
What do you guys think of the above?