Anna Mathur

[Ilando]

I can’t stand mothers who clearly are wealthy enough not to have to work lecturing us in being better parents.

I’m pretty such she has a cleaner etc. It’s very easy for her to spend hours coming up with airy fairy posts about mental health

 

[Treesy19]

She didn’t used to annoy me until I read this Tattle thread. Then I found myself nodding in agreement at everything people said. She officially gets under my skin now. Fraudulent and preying on young mums.

 

[Basicbasic]

Thread title: Anna the scammer with terrible grammar, Google cut and paste therapy file, and a nanny hidden in her millionaire country pile. Cry me a river.

 

[Basicbasic]

It's manipulative consumerism. Very very insidious preying on the vulnerable. Mlm at its finest. She should feel thoroughly ashamed of her unethical behaviour.

 

[bringingdownthebs]

She had no choice, tattlers noticed ages ago. Bet she'll put a self care spin on it.

So the nanny is live in, according to her stories tonight?! No wonder she has time for baths and yoga!!

 

[Treesy19]

Nanny lived with them for a year. A year! No mention of her until the other week. Yet she’s moaned about the work-kids-domesticity-homeschooling struggle the entire time. The entirety. Such a joke!!! She will have barely lifted a finger in raising her kids the entire year yet she would have her followers believe she was juggling “work” cleaning and looking after the kids. Oh yeah nearly forgot, she does no cleaning either due to having a cleaner. That was only revealed the other week too wasn’t it. Next she will reveal she has a PA organising her work schedule.

 

[Wolf359]

Oooooh Anna nearly on her second thread! Any creatives got any good ideas for a title????

Anna Mathur: Therapist, heal thyself.

 

[Linkylu]

I also bought the course and didn’t find it very helpful - it felt like armchair psychology at best.

Leaving aside some of her addictive and narcissistic tendencies, I think she imagines she does care about others. And she does care about her own kids(of course). So of course, nothing is black and white.

However and it is a big however, it does look like she is fleecing less fortunate, less educated, less privileged women. As a previous poster said, charging ludicrous prices for self help booklets when you can spend a tenner on a full book on Amazon.

Granted it’s expensive to see a therapist one on one. But perhaps she imagines she can commoditise an entire profession...?

But how ludicrous for people to buy into this? Beyond some basic general advice that you can read in many places, ie ‘love yourself/be kind/let go of others expectations’ - the whole point of therapy is the context of you, your life, all the things that make your experience different from the next. It is a deeply intimate unwrapping of who you are.

Sadly, if it’s done at a skin deep level, ie., a social media level, i think it can be more damaging than not. I can’t imagine Ana believes her followers read her course/her posts/even buy the darn book and then leave her site. She knows they won’t, she knows she has them where she wants them. Searching for more Ana therapy.

Our personalities, our context, is what leads us to how we behave and lead our lives. And our contexts are as different as our individual personality.

Yes there are things that make us very similar but she is praying on the very thing that makes her different to her followers - ‘ i got this... by the way..I have a beautiful house, beautiful little kids, a fabulous husband BUT...listen to me...you can be like me too..if you buy my brand.’

If her backdrop was different - ie, not a very beautiful house, money actually being a bit tight, no domestic help or childcare, no time for exercise and glamming up (as knackered and feeling exhausted) it would be a very different fan base.

Anyway, I am stating the blooming obvious. Rant over. Nearly - charging what she has charged is not on. And I can’t imagine the British Psychological Society would be thrilled.

I think she contravenes all the ethical guidelines laid down by the BPS and the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy. And therapy doesn’t come as one size fits all, it’s a bit like what Ana Bey does, preying on the vulnerable and less educated, parting them from their money on the promise of a life like her’s.

 

[Pomegranate]

Minding my own business on insta and up pops ol’ wet eyes on Grazia - no mention of the nanny hey Anna! Guess that doesn’t quite fit your narrative here.... View attachment 473413

There is something quite disturbing about people who take the photos of themselves crying.

 

[B_ee]

I imagine she must be a nightmare to work for I think she is extremely stuck up so "the help" will be treat terribly. Another Instagrammer is open about having a nanny she even has her own nanny page she shares of activities she does with the children but Anna has completely hid this Ella from stories for 4 years wow .. I had never heard her mention the nanny before just how hard she has it, it's do demanding she gets little time for herself blah blah blah.. The people who wasted money on her books courses must feel so conned.

 

[Kema]

She isn’t a struggling mum, she lives in a wealthy area of Surrey. I’ve seen her on local social media posting looking for a full time nanny so has more help and support than she makes out!

 

[Oliviabob]

I understand her post about intrusive thoughts. When I had PND I used to think all the time ‘What if I pushed the buggy into traffic?’ or ‘What if I drive the car into a wall?’

It’s not about actually harming your baby (I never would have harmed mine). It’s a symptom of a particular kind of mental illness. I’m glad she shared as it’s fucking horrible and isolating (especially as it is such a taboo, as is illustrated by your comment).

 

[Intrigued]

Unfortunately as much as I used to really like her, she’s going the same way as all of the others She did a Q&A a few weeks ago and somebody questioned her on how she felt about using aff links alongside her mental health advice and how she could justify it. She went full on defensive with her answer that went on forever and came across as a bit of a bitch to be honest - it put me right off her She’s clearly spending too much time with the other instachums now and it’s rubbing off - I’d love to be a fly on the wall when she gets together with Cara and Elle - I bet they have a right laugh about all of us gullible followers

 

[Lilinpops83]

The idea that Anna forgets important details of her children’s school life is absurd. This is a girl who has overwhelming urges to sort out her kitchen cupboards, on a random afternoon, such is her inability to relax and her need for control and perfection. Those kids have a mother that doesn’t miss a beat. She will ensure they never look like they have a slummy mummy.

Secondly, the idea Anna is relaxed about no make up and not being fully glammed up / almost all of the time - is more smoke and mirrors. She is highly focussed on what she looks like and puts inordinate amounts of time into her perfect appearance.

The cat attack -if true - is appalling. So why indeed was she almost chuckling... Perhaps she is in shock but she probably needs to decompress and take some of her own blooming medicine.... She is manic manic manic.

 

[Joosephine]

She is so contrived. It's all staged to make her money. "Look I'm so ditzy I keep burning pancakes, I'm just a normal mum, now please buy my course."

It reminds me on the shit parent act that stacey and PTWM put on too.

I dont see how being a therapist means she knows better than us? It's a profession. She studied and got a degree. Like teachers, nurses etc. Being a good therapist, I feel, comes from experience. I dont think she has much of that as 90% of her week is insta storying how 'real' she is by getting lost, saying something embarrassing to the builders or burning those damn pancakes.

 

[Basicbasic]

It's exploitation and manipulation of the vulnerable. Instagram really has brought out the very worst of exploiters. It's vile and goes completely unchallenged.

 

[Upinabubble]

Anna really grates me. Partly because at a time I really like her, thought she was normalising MH. Then I caught on that she was bad, if not worse, than the other instamums.
Living a life of privilege is fine, but don't try to hide it. Trying to be relatable when she clearly isn't. Argh.. I hope more wake up and see her for what she is.. A FRAUD!!

 

[bringingdownthebs]

wow! How relatable Anna - makes her ridiculous breakdowns seem even more disingenuous

agreed! I always followed her because I thought she was like me - struggling to juggle everything in her life because her husband works long hours so she’s solo parenting most of the time! Now I know she doesn’t it’s really pissed me off!! I’d manage and cope way better if I had a live in Nanny! Then I definitely could practice this “self care” that she so often promotes!!

 

[Coconut834]

What the hell?? I’ve followed her for a while...since she had the home account and never realised she had a live in nanny! Why is she always moaning, touched out etc

what a FRAUD.

 

[Ohflogoff]

I find her unsavoury. Seems very contrived and staged. Very Mean girls and pretentious. “Oh, you feel shit about yourself, here buy my course because I know better than you”.