Anna Mathur

[freddiesmum09]

I am so glad other people are sharing my view of this woman. I followed her for a week or two and then found her almost insufferable to watch. She’s just not my cup of tea at all.
As others have said she does come across as incredibly patronising and very middle class and privileged yet trying to paint her life as pretty normal. I don’t know if it is intentional and if that is her target ‘market’ but I struggle to relate to her. I’ve personally never dm’d her but it’s nice to know she does reply to people and seems to genuinely care.
No idea if anyone else gets this vibe but she comes across as a little bit lost and lonely to me. Feels like she really needs Instagram as there is something missing from her life which again is another reason I can’t watch her stories - there is just something about her- anyone else?!?!

 

[Lht30]

I really liked Anna, I thought she was relatable & there were many ‘me too’ moments which reassured me as a Mum of 2 that parenting is really juggling many plates & loads of people feel the same. Having read this thread I feel gutted that she is such a fake & that I didn’t see through it before. Thank goodness I haven’t invested in any of her materials as I don’t want to support someone like that! Disappointed.

 

[Ohflogoff]

Shes a qualified therapist, she does know better than most.

Anna, is that you

 

[Wolf359]

Apart from anything else, the main thing that strikes me about Anna is that she is so boring. Every post is the same.
And why does she keep leaving the laundry until she has no knickers? She’s done about three posts on that in the last couple of months. Does she only do laundry once a month? Does she only have seven pairs of pants? Surely she has a servant to deal with that?

 

[Londoner]

How are the followers not bored of all that repetition. You are enough. Self care. My course. Feeling guilty, not guilty. Did I mention my course? Love yourself. Good girl. Self worth. My book? My book will change your life. Mum guilt. Juggling. My course, gave you got my course yet? Anxiety. Anyone? Buy my book! Buy my course! Don’t forget to leave a review?! Ok??

 

[Basicbasic]

She also constantly conflates psychology and psychotherapy. Anna is a psychotherapist. Not a psychologist. There are some amazing amazing books on Amazon for less than a tenner written by a multitude of fully qualified psychologists (harder to qualify into requiring more skills than psychotherapists) and drs. Anna sits at her desk whilst her hidden nanny sees to her kids and house and churns out stuff very easily found on Google searches relating to anxiety. She then flogs these cut and paste jobs for a small fortune. Absolutely unethical and exploitative. She really should do a post explaining the real differences between psychotherapists and psychologists, I suspect many of her intended course audience would benefit from an actual psychologist.

 

[B_ee]

I found her relatable and funny when I first followed but I realised what a scam she was. The constant hair faffing posing and puffing in stories is constant.
I can't believe she posted about feeling stressed out and overwhelmed with the kids during lockdown when she had a nanny it wouldn't be a big deal if she admitted it, I would have a nanny and cleaner if I could but hiding it and pretending to be something your not is horrible!

 

[Ohflogoff]

Ahhhhh she is getting my goat at the moment , as a single mum I desperately want to have time to exercise but there is just no time , she bangs on about self care and exercise but it’s a struggle for us normal folk that don’t have nannies or husbands that will do the school run so she can have a kid free workout session ! Arghhh

I’m sorry that you feel this way. Why don’t you download her book, or join her course. That’ll definitely make you feel better.

in all seriousness, that is shit. You are not alone. Please just unfollow. X

 

[Linkylu]

Is it the norm for therapists to share so much personal stuff on Instagram? Does this woman provide therapy to individuals 1 on 1 ? I don't know too much about her so forgive me if I've got the wrong end of the stick, but if my therapist was oversharing like she does I would feel so weird about it all, it seems so unprofessional!

It’s definitely not usual and I’m pretty sure it goes against the code of practice of her governing body the BACP. Therapists are told to be empathic to clients but to have clear profession boundaries, once you start sharing personal information the boundaries get blurred which sends mixed messages about your relationship. And there’s always the chance of stalkers/clients who develop an infatuation. I wouldn’t want to go and see my GP having seen her in her pjs in tears on insta and moaning about how hard her entitled life is

 

[tinyblue1979]

I bought her anxiety course last year. I even paid full price for it as could afford to afford to at the time - she offered half price to those who couldn’t, and it was complete waste of time and money. I ended up going to see a therapist which was much more worth while. I kick myself now for giving her my cash!

 

[Lilinpops83]

Apparently Anna hates attention and therefore struggles with her birthday. And the greatest gift we can give her - on her birthday - is passing on her book or one of her podcasts. Because she cares so much. In her very expensive leather jacket.

 

[Basicbasic]

She's been in breach of her professional ethics guidelines since day 1. She gets away with it though. She makes my skin crawl. Spouting nonsense about women becoming stronger, with the irony of her actually preying on vulnerable mums herself.

 

[reCAPTCHA]

Yes you do resent him and moan endlessly constantly on Instagram. Don't lie. We have proof!

And you are lazy that's why you can't be bothered to bring him lunch, not that you have to but it's because you are so busy complaining and storying yourself in Instagram that you are not present in real life with your partner. Does she seriously not realise this?

Presidence

 

[Ohflogoff]

Some of her quotes really make me laugh. They’re just reworded famous quotes with her Instagram handle stuck on the bottom

Or her followers DMs.

First hand experience

 

[Athousandmilesaway]

Million pound house/nanny/cleaner/£50 jumpers/laser hair removal/botox/expensive podcast equipment aint gonna pay for itself

 

[Lilinpops83]

I also bought the course and didn’t find it very helpful - it felt like armchair psychology at best.

Leaving aside some of her addictive and narcissistic tendencies, I think she imagines she does care about others. And she does care about her own kids(of course). So of course, nothing is black and white.

However and it is a big however, it does look like she is fleecing less fortunate, less educated, less privileged women. As a previous poster said, charging ludicrous prices for self help booklets when you can spend a tenner on a full book on Amazon.

Granted it’s expensive to see a therapist one on one. But perhaps she imagines she can commoditise an entire profession...?

But how ludicrous for people to buy into this? Beyond some basic general advice that you can read in many places, ie ‘love yourself/be kind/let go of others expectations’ - the whole point of therapy is the context of you, your life, all the things that make your experience different from the next. It is a deeply intimate unwrapping of who you are.

Sadly, if it’s done at a skin deep level, ie., a social media level, i think it can be more damaging than not. I can’t imagine Ana believes her followers read her course/her posts/even buy the darn book and then leave her site. She knows they won’t, she knows she has them where she wants them. Searching for more Ana therapy.

Our personalities, our context, is what leads us to how we behave and lead our lives. And our contexts are as different as our individual personality.

Yes there are things that make us very similar but she is praying on the very thing that makes her different to her followers - ‘ i got this... by the way..I have a beautiful house, beautiful little kids, a fabulous husband BUT...listen to me...you can be like me too..if you buy my brand.’

If her backdrop was different - ie, not a very beautiful house, money actually being a bit tight, no domestic help or childcare, no time for exercise and glamming up (as knackered and feeling exhausted) it would be a very different fan base.

Anyway, I am stating the blooming obvious. Rant over. Nearly - charging what she has charged is not on. And I can’t imagine the British Psychological Society would be thrilled.

 

[Italy2]

I honestly have never got the impression from her that she tries to say she ISNT priviliged?

& just because she is fortunate enough to have help (definitely jealous!), doesnt mean she doesnt still get stressed & flustered like other mums? Surely as she is addressing anxiety, shes right to say if shes feeling all over the place? Even the most priviliged people feel depressed or anxious sometimes. I was due to become a social worker and it was discussed so often that its often seen as a positive when people have experienced hardship themselves as it offers an insight that someone unaffected doesnt have. Isnt this the same?

(Ive recently started following her again so its interesting to see how shes been perceived)

I'm not sure if you have noticed but her tone is very passive aggressive? For example instead of saying her husband is looking after kids in the garden which is a blessing and great help, Anna would say Tarun has been in the garden all day, not sure what's wrong with him, he has been there whole quarantine and it still doesn't look that great.

Another example Anna would not mention how she is so lucky to have an amazing house and lovely children and they went for holiday for Florence's birthday instead it would be a long winded post on Florence's birthday moaning about how hard it was to be on holiday with 3 kids and everyday was manic and chaotic and horrible and has triggered her anxiety. It's just how negative she is constantly that you constantly feel awkward watching her stories.

Anna never mentions how she is so lucky in life to have so many nice things. Has she even done a post on it? She is constantly talking about her life giving her anxiety in some form of other. Have I missed stories or posts where Anna has mentioned her gratefulness for her life?

I also think she doesn't mention anything nice about her life because it would made others feel bad because her page is focused solely on anxiety and feeling down about yourself that a little bit mention of her privilege might trigger something.

Anyway the bottom line is that Anna is a business not your friend. She is not on Instagram to make friends, she is there to sell her book and services. You shouldn't think that reading her posts would cure your anxiety. You need to see a therapist albeit it may be Anna. An Instagram post is not your solution to happiness.

Also are you Anna because you really like her and are somehow found your way on her gossip forum lol? Only joking

 

[sunnysideup]

I think she is fishing for compliments about how good she looks in a swimming costume! Which she does But I wouldn’t want my clients to see me in my swimming gear

 

[sunnysideup]

Should she really be sharing this information with potential and real clients as a health care service provider? Are therapists not required to maintain professional relationship with clients?

Also the whole new montage of I used to be this and now I'm this... Honey you are only in your 30s and people don't develop their personalities until their 20s anyway so what's the whole deal about you being a completely different person some 5 years ago????? It's not like you are a 50 years old with years and years of bad habits that need serious work to change them..

As someone who works in a similar field to her I find this kind of post very unprofessional and unboundaried. I used to enjoy her content but something about her started to bug me and I unfollowed.

 

[Clare]

She is absolutely fucking insufferable! She is fucking 37 for god's sake!! Bullshit

Got herself a double humblebrag in about her age and shopping at Waitrose Worth double points there Anna