About the jealousy, I don’t think most women here are jealous.
At first, when I joined you, I thought everyone here lead a life Anna would envy. I thought everyone knew about tips and tricks in the “affluent world” etc. I was surprised to see that what the lovely
@Bastine de Beaumanoir would explain, her tips, was new to some of you. And still, those who learn from Bastine’s advice are happy to know more etc. Because it’s not about jealousy but about feeling angry and sad Anna could make some damage in people’s life with her scam. It’s about wanting justice.
I believe in you about this, because it is ridiculously stupid to assume angry women spewing hate on Anna Bey as just being jealous. I also think that the term "jealousy" is being used against women so the latter will be stopped from giving angry opinion at another woman. #SmellsLikeSuppression, isn't it?
I have joined this forum quite late, around Q1 or Q2 of 2021 while Anna Bey-related thread has started Q4 of 2020. Before that, I nearly followed Anna Bey's advise until I tried to search if there is a scam related to her name until I find videos on Youtube, especially the ones from Connor Clyne. I searched for more until I found this thread. My first piece, as far as I can remember, is kinda' debunking her Elegance Cheat Sheet which, I believe,
crappy because on the cheatsheet she created, Anna is somewhat judgemental on women for wearing clothes (color and fabric type) and deaming them inelegant while, there are socialites from different parts of the world who wears bright, flashy colors with blingy detail, embroidery, and still manages to look elegant. Y'all can find colorful, intricately designed clothes in Asian affluent circles and it's rare for them to wear neutral colors that Anna suggests on hear cheatshit. Ladies, some women find neutral colors BORING. My mom is fond of bright-colored and embroidered clothes, as opposed to my darker-colored plain ones that I normally prefer. To each on her own. Also, if a lady wants to spice up by wearing as many accessories or colorful clothes she wants then it's fine as long as she is confident to carry those.
The reason I mentioned my mom about this, because my mom has influenced part of how I clothe myself, to the point that she nearly shoved her style down to my throats and that I should have a beautiful, thin body to wear the clothes that I want which, I believe, is quite outdated and quite toxic. My mom needs to ensure that she will dress impeccably every time she reports to work or attend her boss' events at the time she was working as executive assistant to the company president back in 80s before her early retirement in early 90s. My mom's clothes were so beautiful, no doubt about it, just that, those are not my aesthetic. Whenever she finds me wearing mostly purple clothes, my bag is purple (if not black), she nearly assumed that I may have some mental problems while she ain't that expert in things related to psychology.
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Side note: We are not rich, especially now that my parents have grown old, my mom is experiencing joint problems due to her age, my dad suffered a stroke since last year and he could barely walk as half of his body is paralyzed. However, my mom has experienced dealing with even the most affluent people in the Philippines back in her day so I've got some ideas, and back in high school, most of my classmates are coming from well-off families that they afford clothes like Tommy Hilfiger, Ralph Lauren, Prada etc while I am not. I am still not rich, and that should be okay, especially when most of my stuff are not too branded.]
Granted, what Anna teaches is for like-minded women; however, can we just allow our fellow women to stay in the same traditional gender roles? Also, just because Anna's "teachings" will not sit well with western women, doesn't mean a western lady is arrogant as
duck. As someone with mix of Eastern and Western influence, I believe that a woman is NOT born to please men especially visually. Actually, we should further encourage women to be strong and independent and that they should not be bound to the expectations of society on women such as how to be ultra-feminine, be dependent on men and that they should follow what men think and say. As for men being providers, I guess we should expect men to be providers when on a married relationship, because it is nonsense to expect a man to provide for women while they are NOT married yet. It is bullshit to expect for a man to provide for a lady even to the simplest stuff like her shampoo, conditioner, soap or even her sanitary napkin while you as a working lady can afford that. It's such a shame to make some innuendoes for men to provide for you while some homeless women in America tries so hard to provide themselves like sanitary napkins especially when "monthly period" comes.
What Anna is teaching is to further trigger insecurity on some plain janes we see in our surroundings and turn them into potential sugar babies which is so far, more dangerous one.
We can't help but to feel angry towards Anna because what she is teaching is toxic to some women, especially since Q3 of 2020 when she never specified her target group of women. Encouraging women to doll up more for men is even toxic because beauty inclusivity is on the rise since the last decade Anna has delivered statements that could bodyshame a woman, if not slutshame. We can't help but feeling upset at Anna because some women are made to feel cheap because they are wearing leggings, flipflops, Zara-branded clothing etc. while fast-fashion brands are what they can afford because even bespoke stuff can be quite pricey for some women.
Lastly, investment should not be solely on beauty alone. Even investment experts will tell us so. Work hard in your current job, invest some money in stocks or index funds, real estate, knowledge and post-graduate studies, time deposit etc., which could help further grow your money. A woman should be money-savvy first before splurging on beauty and luxury items which I believe, Anna is NOT.
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Another thing, she has the nerve to blame on schools for not being able to teach us on other things. Things like Psychology for instance.
As far as I know, PSYCHOLOGY and its branches are only being taught in college ALONE. We can learn via internet on how to spot a psychopath or narcissist but only a LICENSED person in PSYCHOLOGY-RELATED FIELD is capable of diagnosing a person if one as personality disorder, or intellectual disorder. For one has to have license in the said field, one must have a bachelor's degree in psychology or its related course.
What are the things taught in basic education?
MATH, for example. It doesn't just teach us to count, but to analyze, because MATH involves a looooot of problem solving which, admittedly, I am bad at. Thus, further enhances your problem solving and critical thinking skills.
SOCIAL SCIENCE and ARTS, to gain further understanding on the history of country and its culture and arts besides geography, thus, making us careful on what we say on a certain culture.
ENGLISH or subjects related to native language of each country - to teach us using proper words and sentence construction, and how we effectively compose our thoughts --- verbally or written form
SCIENCE --- to understand how our bodies and surroundings work and react to whatever
tit they face.
I admit that focus and attention is my problem back in elementary school days and I started working hard to be passionate in my studies back in high school. I am slow learner, but since my passion for learning has since developed so it made me realize that studying is not all about rote learning and memorization. Actually, memorization is also vital as well. Our memory's capacity is also being gauged as well.
While REAL WORLD EXPERIENCE is where we can fully learn all the things in life; however, how can we fully appreciate life and how we can survive if without formal schooling? Even if one is home-schooled, someday, a child will be sent to formal schooling because a child needs to be tested on social skills as well (though in my case, I am quite bad at social skills. Hahahha).
I can't help but to think that Anna ditches formal schooling, as if formal schooling is worthless and does not make you earn billions.