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@Nona2020 you are more correct.
It's 2021 and prior to pandemic, Insta-putas (whores) have already been on the rise even before the pandemic. If men are ogling and drooling over any Instawhore, then sorry not sorry, we ladies don't live our lives to follow and be like any Insta-whore that men usually follow and like.
While the consequences of getting old and single is left feeling sad, we ladies should not be obligated, not even our parents, to look pleasing to attract men. We are not born to live according to what society is expecting among us. As long as we are not whoring, continuously reaping success via our chosen careers (and I don't consider escorting and sugardating a career), we live honorably, we don't obsess much on luxury stuff, we make ourselves well-groomed and that should be okay.
Women have all the right to make their hair short. Besides, it's more beneficial than trying to grow hair long, because it adds weight on our scalp further and if we make a habit of pulling and tying our hair could possibly cause alopecia to some of us. I am basing on my experience because the habit of tying my hair (and my hair is already thin) besides all the stress I experienced gave some bald spots on my hair so I ended up keeping it short.
Also, we all have the rights for androgynous look. We all have the rights to go a bit masculine. We all have the rights to go grunge as long as we don't show much skin like some instawhores do.
Lately, I don't get all the hate on 50-50 women. In a married setting with children, a man is expected to provide money for everything ---- for rent, bills, food etc while the wife can keep her earned money for herself. However, it is not wrong for women to contribute. If a women happens to have ended up in a continuously hardworking man, then lucky her. If a man has no job, but he makes up in keeping the household and rearing children, that's fine. That's already a contribution.
But in an unmarried situation, a lady should not expect she will be provided for by her man 100%, whether they are cohabiting or not. A lady should make some contribution to the relationship so that a man will not grow tired of loving and caring for her. Maybe I am basing on my observation since, it seems we do not have domestic partnership in the Philippines, though cohabitation is growing more rampant. If a man does not provide, nor even manage in keeping household and gone addicted to porn and mobile games like Mobile Legends, then a lady can leave him.
Just like you Nona2020, I strongly believe that catching a guy and getting married to him does not mean accomplishment or an achievement, despite me living in a society where toxic family members, relatives, neighbors are alive and well, nitpicking at someone's marital status. I may have grew strong and staunch in my beliefs but I believe not all women are like me and some of them grew depressed due to the toxicity that reeks in their surroundings.
And I truly believe forcing femininity onto women is toxic as fuck.
Trigger warning: Long Post.
I feel what you are saying but you are not Anna’s target demographic. Mainstream media isn’t targeting Anna Bey’s demographic anymore but the demand is there. So hypergamy becomes an unregulated black market where scammers flourish until trustworthy players will appear.
It’s like banning drugs or saying drugs are bad. This doesn’t kill the demand. So criminals supply the drugs except in some western countries where you have government sponsored safe injection sites.
No one is forcing femininity onto women. Western feminists are bullying every feminine woman at every chance they get and do it abroad in an imperialist colonialist racism way. Radical feminism and western elitist self expression values are the new white supremacy. Femininity is biological. A lot of women are attracted to it for genetic reasons. Androgyny promoted in the West is not natural to the majority of women, and it fact has becoming a form of satorial imperialism.
Femininity is a survival value that is essential for an edge in social mobility in the West and in the developing world. Western elite promote luxury beliefs that are of little harm to them but will hurt the lower classes from climbing the social ladder and posing competition to them. Western elite speak the 1970s but live the 1950s, which is why as a former yacht escort Anna Bey can’t just marry a western rich man. Her being a former topless dancer with photos on the internet mattered very much.
It’s important not to be arrogant towards Anna Bey’s followers but understand where they are coming from instead of denigrating them if you want them to come to your side. You have to accept people around the world have all sorts of values and yours and mind aren’t the only right ones. You have to accept people as they are if you want to understand them and change their minds.
Saying Tiger Parenting is toxic is only going to make ambitious people thinking hey good for you thinking it’s beneath you to do the work it takes to get into Harvard or Cambridge, less competition for me hahaha. Ambitious families have different priorities than yours. Having empathy goes a long way to get Aija to stop scamming.
In many families regardless if children hate it they start piano or violin lessons at age 6 and tutors to grow the brain to get the top math scores to get into the university of their choice and think doing as you please, you have the left over schools, no scholarships and the leftover jobs. So if you don’t adjust your hair for men, you have the left over men, the broke angry video game addict red pill losers living in their mother’s basement that nobody wants because the most popular men are taken by the women who put the most effort to get them.
If you die, your job will forget you existed but your spouse will mourn you forever. Nobody said on their deathbed they wish that they worked more hours but that they spend more time with family. If you think of your death you realize finding a spouse and a happy marriage are far more important priorities than any job.
Imagine if you sacrificed your childhood to get to a top university to please your parents and it gives you a ticket to a golden life. You then work hard to please your employer while learning to play office politics better than Machiavelli and money comes your way. If you ignored Western self expression values to only find yourself at Harvard or Oxford and found that Western elite don’t follow them either, but promote them so their competition trips over them and screws up… you likely will never listen to self expression values in your life and view it as a scam to make you level down. So you will apply the same logic to cater to men to get the top spouse like you catered to the top schools to get in and the top employers to get hired. That is the logic of ambitious people.
“I am toxic and richer than all the losers who have a problem with being toxic” is often the attitude. In China there are over a billion people and few places at the top universities, and few top jobs. In Russia historically there are few men. Chinese are thus highly competitive to get into universities and they are over represented in the world’s top Western universities. Historically Russia has had some of the worst men to female ratios so Russian women are extremely competitive towards getting a husband and approach it like an Olympic sport whether they admit it or not. That is why you see a disproportionate number of Russian and Eastern European women with the world’s most affluent men.
If you believe in expressing yourself and having a life, instead of catering to employers, some Chinese student who doesn’t will take your place. And you have to pick leftover jobs and universities they didn’t want. If you believe in expressing yourself with men, instead of catering to them, the most desirable men in the world won’t notice you and you will be left with the leftover men Russian women didn’t see worth their time dating.
Some western women say catering to man is toxic but when I travel to western countries I don’t see a line up at the homeless shelter. There are a lot of nice homeless drug addicts with a good heart. I don’t see women who say they don’t want to cater to men want to date men who don’t want to cater to women. There are so many mama’s boys living with their mothers and playing video games, part time minimum wage job. I don’t see a line up of feminists fighting to date them.
There are men who cater to women like men who spend hours at the gym, gym rats with six packs. Also pick up artists, and stockbrokers who work jobs they don’t like to get money they do like to spend on women. Somehow western women fight for all these men and not homeless drug addicts or video games players who still live with their mother, rely on her financially. Western modern feminists of the new radical strain that is mainstream now are the same as other women from what men their eyes look but dishonest about it. Radical feminists are parasitic in that they want the same man a non feminist wants because he put an effort to cater to women but finds it beneath her to reciprocate and get a top 20% man by putting the same effort to be attractive to men that he puts to be attractive to women.
Tinder did a study that showed 80% of female users were only attracted to the top 20% of male users while 50% of men were attracted to 50% of women. If the average woman doesn’t cater to men she finds attractive they will not notice her because 100 other women will. That is a fact. If you don’t cater to men, all you will get are the 80% leftover men no one wanted. Besides men view women they love as how when they married them not how they age if they are in love.
Imagine how toxic we are as a female gender that we date on a curve. Do men cry that women are toxic that we only bother to look at the top 20%? No. They just work hard to compete to be that man who scores. They get a couple dozen rejections before they score a goal. If we are feminist and say we are equal to men we shouldn’t be whining about toxicity but have female pick up artist camps.
The mindset of people who climb to the top is different from those who want to stay where they are rather than face toxicity and overcome adversity to achieve their goals.
Anna Bey and other scammers are flourishing because Western mainstream culture is no longer promoting women getting ahead in their personal life nor social climbing, who instead obscure the social ladder with the latest emotional distraction of life being unfair. Life is unfair.
In the age of 80s and 90s supermodels sure may have been toxic as any thing many people compete for requires some toxicity to get. However scammers like Anna Bey didn’t have a chance then. If you look at the advice Vogue gave in the 80s and 90s, it was how to dress expensive on a budget but actually much more fun and youthful than Anna Bey.
Anna Bey is a very poor imitation of 90s Vogue. You can say the 90s were toxic all you want but women’s desire to live that hasn’t gone away.
To get Anna Bey’s followers away from her it’s important to understand her niche and not impose your values on them. You don’t want long hair find but there will be a black woman with her long braids or a Latina/Russian with their hair extensions who will get the eye of the top 20% of men first. Maybe they are not very bright so the man goes back to his classmate from Princeton who had no childhood and went from tutor to tutor instead of playing with children outside to get in, and is slim on a diet, someone he can actually talk to. A woman doesn’t need to be a 10 out of 10 in a hotness scale if she is well connected and a high powered man can relate to her because she went to the same toxic kind of an elite school he went to.
There is no free lunch. Getting to the top personally or professionally means embracing a lot of toxicity and seeing a therapist afterwards. Shaming people who want to pay the cost of getting to the top because you think the cost is too high for you (for good reason), isn’t going to stop ambitious people making sacrifices doing toxic things to get to the top. There is a steroid scandal at every Olympics.
If the mainstream doesn’t provide a roadmap for ambitious people to get to the top regardless of how toxic it is, scammers will simply take their place. You agree with the mainstream but the mainstream abandoning socially ambitious women created an environment where scammers like Anna Bey flourish.
Now to get her to stop scamming we must put out views aside and speak to her niche market without condensation in their language why Anna Bey isn’t a social Sherpa and social mountaineer but most of them are a lot closer to their social climbing goals than she is.
I don’t like Anna Bey because she speaks like everyone different from her is beneath her and I think that is the first reason people dislike her. She is like Kevin Samuels in a skirt.There is still a market for survival values in most of the world while the West promotes self expression values that might make you happy if you have enough money to money over the consequences but won’t help you climb up.
To reduce Anna Bey’s reach we have to convince the very women whose values we may disagree with that - by their feminine values - Anna Bey doesn’t measure up. Women who have a desire to cater to men and just want to live their life in peace are routinely attacked by Western radical feminists who have a different view, and as s legacy of colonialism and imperialism feel it’s their right to for their superior white values on others. Some women of colour repeat this not realize attacking someone living in peace for having different values is the legacy of colonialism, how Spanish forced the Catholic Church onto native beliefs.
Now the church is dead, colonies are gone, it’s not okay to be racist but the desire of feeling superior without doing anything even at someone else’s expense remains. So radical feminism has become the new colonialism. Never have I seen white western women attack immigrant women of colour like with this radical new feminism. I am sure it was not intended this way but it’s defacto used by white western lower class women to gain free social status as a Get out Consequences Free card to be racist to less advantaged immigrant women of colour by white non elite more established women. So that maybe why Anna Bey has a large following of colour.
The mainstream is no longer serving these people. They still want survival values and to be in harmony with their biological nature so they will go to the black market. Maybe we have to convince her following to follow better dealers on the femininity black market to decrease her market share.
I don’t know how is this productive. You say the church is dead. Imagine if you are gay, and there is this shiny scammer who scammed people and now is scamming gay people but he is so shiny, fun and sexy living the Instagram life in Mykonos that you overlook it. If you are living in a free Western country and there is a Christian extremist Internet forum yelling that gays are a sin and that being gay is toxic, if you were gay would you listen to them warning you about some scammer? That is how what you are saying about feminine women sounds like to the women buying Anna’s course.
Are we here only to gossip and complain or our we here to take down a scammer. I prefer to get things done than gossip, but Anna Bey’s scamming gets on my nerves.
If we are intolerant like a religious fundamentalist that people make different life choices than our own and call them a sinner and heretic in the church of feminism, it’s not going to convince them to stop being into femininity on the free internet. They might hold a femininity parade instead and be motivated by the hate they get from people who think they are toxic to work harder to normalize their lifestyle. What you focus on and give energy to, you get more of.
If you hate Anna Bey’s scam victims, call them toxic whores, think their life choices are despicable and denigrate them for it, they will stick to are their underground gay disco when people were still frowning on gay rights. I am trying to give the point of view of those who buy Anna’s course because being judgmental towards women we want to save makes them run back to their abuser.
Anna Bey caters to the niche who doesn’t want to do the mainstream. I am not saying the mainstream is wrong promoting gender fluidity, abolishing marriage, destroying the family unit and making the single mother breadwinner who both raises kids and brings in money while men screw around and play video games except for the elite the new normal is bad. Not everyone will be into whatever any mainstream puts. Different strokes for different folks.
What I am saying is that Anna Bey is making money by serving a hated, neglected, denigrated, bullied underserved niche market and providing those women with hope, joy and dignity. And now we have to tell the kids that Santa doesn’t exist and what gave them hope was an illusion, go back to your depressing lives. If a man can be gay why can’t a woman be feminine in a free world? Who are we, God, the church to tell people what to believe? Who are we to tell others what is toxic and if we do tell others Thou Art Toxic, do you take Gloria Steinem as your Lord and Saviour, and repent of all heresy against feminism, why would they listen to us about a scammer now that we established ourselves as a threat to their freedom.
Being judgmental to Anna Bey’s market only grows her brand. Imagine if feminine women called you a loser and toxic and then told you that some politician you had a lot of respect for was caught on Epstien Island, is a huge crook and scammer? You won’t listen to them because of how they approached you because they were more focused on their own hurt and pain than helping you, and were hostile and judgmental.
I didn’t mean to trigger you and trigger women. I just like everything I invest time in to be productive. I don’t see how hating the demographic that buys a scammers course is productive in taking down a scammer that blurs the line between sex work that leads to human trafficking and normal dating. On the other hand isn’t the legitimate modeling industry the same and worse than Anna Bey, paying young girls to be in compromising situations with older men and sexually assaulted without their consent?
At least insta putas consent and know what they are doing when a real model think she is promoting a vodka brand or clothing and then there is unrelenting pressure and bullying that leads to sexual assault. Maybe promoting safe sex and the safe way to be an instaho and Dubai Porta potty is more helpful. My issue is Anna Bey behaves like a modeling agency where you think you are modeling clothes then next thing you notice you are pressured into sexually compromising situations with old men be it photographers or clients of the modeling agency. Bait and switch. I think what she is doing is dangerous. That is why I am here.
I think it’s important that women know what they are getting into. Blurring the line between sex work and regular dating is a recipe for disaster. If one wants to participate in sex work then they learn the health and safety protocols, how to protect themselves. It’s very unsafe to fall into that industry by accident. No shade to sex work or those who don’t want to participate- just no more blurred lines.
I just want to gauge how much time I want to invest- are we being productive in how we go after Anna or are we just chit chatting to complain about life instead of getting stuff done.
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I cannot thank you enough - especially on the fact that these threads have been so fun to read. Quel plaisir! I have been a quiet reader for about a month, and - wow! - what a journey!
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