I'm going to be reconnecting with my mum and other family for the first time in years this weekend. They know what's going on and don't much like him so hoping that they will be a support to help me see things clearly and ask him to move out
That's a positive step forward, good luck it's so hard to tell people at first but once you've got the story out a few times, it gets easier and speaking out loud about it will probably help you process what has happened. Your family will want to help you so if you need anything, don't be scared to ask them. You don't have to deal with it alone xxI'm going to be reconnecting with my mum and other family for the first time in years this weekend. They know what's going on and don't much like him so hoping that they will be a support to help me see things clearly and ask him to move out
Thats great. Its all well and good us giving your own opinion but we arent living it. If a man was doing this tho to a friend or family member of yours you wouldnt stand for it. You truly deserve better. He wants it all , you, her, kids, family, freedom, security, sadly theres many like him. If you let him this will go on and hurt much longer than it needs to.I'm going to be reconnecting with my mum and other family for the first time in years this weekend. They know what's going on and don't much like him so hoping that they will be a support to help me see things clearly and ask him to move out
Why on god green Earth would she want this disgusting pig of a man back?!I know it's painful but the best chance of getting him back if that's what you want is to chuck him out ironically.
Right now he has no respect for you, he doesn't have to miss you because you're still in bed next to him, he hasn't seen what life is like without you and the children so he isn't missing that. If you let this go on, he absolutely will leave... Probably only when he has his foot securely in a new relationship
If you truly want him back, chuck him out, act indifferent, get yourself a glow up, start posting on social media about all the exciting things you're doing as a family without him.
He will start to see what he's thrown away, he will see the grass isn't greener and he will come back with his tail between his legs begging you and by now you will be running the show and can lay down the law that he will need to respect if he wants another chance...
I know right, I just thought OP doesn't sound like she wants to let him go just yet...not chucking him out in the hope he will change his mind when he won't, he might do if he is forced to look at what he's losing, it might make him realise what he's playing at.Why on god green Earth would she want this disgusting pig of a man back?!
He's gas lighting you... The old 'you're crazy' routine, it's standard emotional abuse.we argued tonight. he thinks he's blameless. have told him i don't want to sleep with him anymore. having a massive big cry like a kardashian.
Ohhh. he is mad. I've asked him to move out for just a few days to give me space and he's kicking off. We had a holiday booked in October that he's now taken as his own, but the fact I've asked him to move out now has really burned him. He's now utterly refusing.
He now says I'm not stable enough for him to move out. Admittedly tonight I'm a bit drunk but not an axe wielding murderer.
He has told you he doesnt love you anymore so i dont think he has any right to expect to stay in the marital bed. You started this thread in may last year its been a long time coming. Its mental abuse , you maybe cant see it yet but thats what it is. Stay strong.we argued tonight. he thinks he's blameless. have told him i don't want to sleep with him anymore. having a massive big cry like a kardashian.
Ohhh. he is mad. I've asked him to move out for just a few days to give me space and he's kicking off. We had a holiday booked in October that he's now taken as his own, but the fact I've asked him to move out now has really burned him. He's now utterly refusing.
He now says I'm not stable enough for him to move out. Admittedly tonight I'm a bit drunk but not an axe wielding murderer.
How he can say he’s blameless is beyond me. He’s acting like he’s on Love Island - he’s in bed with you but wants to ‘get to know’ someone else! It beggars belief.we argued tonight. he thinks he's blameless. have told him i don't want to sleep with him anymore. having a massive big cry like a kardashian.
Ohhh. he is mad. I've asked him to move out for just a few days to give me space and he's kicking off. We had a holiday booked in October that he's now taken as his own, but the fact I've asked him to move out now has really burned him. He's now utterly refusing.
He now says I'm not stable enough for him to move out. Admittedly tonight I'm a bit drunk but not an axe wielding murderer.
This. You need to get him out.He's gas lighting you... The old 'you're crazy' routine, it's standard emotional abuse.
Get the locks changed while he's out with this lady today and ring the police if he kicks off on his return
Maybe give woman's aid / refuge a call also
How has he made out you’ve run out on your kids? Wasn’t he the one who said he wanted to separate? This man is disgusting. You’re not weak or needy at all. He’s making you feel like this on purpose and like someone else said, he’s gaslighting you. What did the police say?Rang landlord this morning. They won't take him off tenancy unless he signs and obviously he won't. Went to police but halfway through saw he'd blocked me on facebook, making out i'd run out on the kids (my kids are 15, 18 and 21, oldest one doesn't live at home). now he won't answer his phone, and i think he's taken day off to go see new woman despite telling me he was going to see a new customer. just wish i wasn't being so weak and needy, i hate him for making me cry yet again.
2 out of your 3 kids are grown adults. You haven’t ran out on any of them. HE is the one who is having an affair. HE is the one who is abusing you. HE IS ONE IN THE WRONG.Rang landlord this morning. They won't take him off tenancy unless he signs and obviously he won't. Went to police but halfway through saw he'd blocked me on facebook, making out i'd run out on the kids (my kids are 15, 18 and 21, oldest one doesn't live at home). now he won't answer his phone, and i think he's taken day off to go see new woman despite telling me he was going to see a new customer. just wish i wasn't being so weak and needy, i hate him for making me cry yet again.
I feel so weak and needy. He won't respond to me at ALL now. The police lady was very lovely but I ran out of there when I realised he'd blocked me. I know how pathetic that sounds. Had to literally beg him to unblock me. The mother of his children. Where the duck has my backbone gone. I know where he is and what he's doing and that he lied, and I just can't stop being pathetic.How has he made out you’ve run out on your kids? Wasn’t he the one who said he wanted to separate? This man is disgusting. You’re not weak or needy at all. He’s making you feel like this on purpose and like someone else said, he’s gaslighting you. What did the police say?