Cherish the good days, those are the days you can think about and smile. That’s what I do now, I feel like now all the good memories of before she got ill and the good moments in between come flooding back and the bad times I’ve forgotten almost, the day she died I told her/myself that I forgive her and it helped so much. That’s so good to hear about her depression, it’s such a horrible disease. It’s very true, sometimes you feel them being alive is best for you but not for them? It’s so hard to do but try not to think too much into the future. Be present in the here and now, YOU cannot change a person and you cannot change the future and what happens, what ever is meant to happen will happen and you will deal with it and you will be so much stronger.
What an incredible mother and person you are. Please don’t forget about your own health and feelings, you come first too. I wish there was something helpful I could advise in regards to your son, I can’t imagine what that’s like. He’s so lucky to have you!