I can only echo what the others have said. You need to put YOUR mental health first right now. If someone else’s actions are impacting your mental health negatively, then it’s time to consider what the options are.My husbands dry drunk symptoms out of control again. Treats me like he enemy. For the past 2 weeks my spirit been so low. I had to go through minutes of a meeting I attended at work 2 weeks ago. Between the work related stuff i wrote down words like, i am sad and depressed, suicidal, just want to stop everything. I am getting worried for myself. To others i look so in control, so tough and that i can handle anything. And i can't. Came home yesterday, and my husband moved into the other house on our property. Either to drink and that i can't see, or the deal with his tit. I have never felt lonelier. What good is it living in a mansion, us both having good careers and we so f*cked.
It is very easy for people to say leave him. It’s not us, not our life. It is yours, and you are miserable. You need to take some time to really think about what is going to happen in the next days and weeks. If you feel suicidal, this is an emergency situation. Is there anyone you can talk to? I know that it probably isn’t everyone’s cup of tea, but what about phoning someone like Al Anon, or Samaritans? Just having someone to talk to may help give you clarity.
The behaviour you are experiencing from your husband is not normal, loving behaviour that should be displayed. By leaving you alone so deliberately, he is emotionally abusing you, and trying to control the narrative. If you feel strong enough, now is the time for YOU to take the control. It doesn’t have to be this way.
But making changes is tough, it is hard and uncomfortable. I would really urge you to find someone to talk to IRL that can help you through this. I am so sorry things are so bad x