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I could have written this - dumped during the 1st lockdown, moved back home, didn’t get closure from a 4 year relationship. It does get better. I’m 28 in 2 weeks & I feel like I haven’t followed the ‘normal’ life trajectory of marriage, kids, house, career. But what the duck is normal? I’m doing a PhD, I’m saving for a house and I’m enjoying single life & being on my own - even in a pandemic!My partner & I had a rocky (but deeply loving) relationship for years and finally split a year ago today. I’m 30, all of my friends are married and had children this year. I have a decent job, though I’m unhappy in it, and own my own home. I’ve only seen my parents this year, I moved in with them for a while in the first lockdown and visit every weekend.
I’ve tried dating apps but we are in a pandemic! and this may sound ridiculous, but the quality of men isn’t great near me. I feel like I’m just treading water, I also didn’t get closure from my ex. We are trying to be friends which is kind of working, I feel very numb to the drama we had and I do enjoy talking with him, still.
I am under constant pressure from family and friends to marry and have children. I just don’t know how to do that right now but I would like to one day. I like my own company, actually I love it, and I don’t go out partying every weekend. I’m a recluse tbh and I’m not unhappy about it. I would like a man part time but I cant deal with family pressure. Due to COVID I only visit my parents so I feel a bit like a kid again, my life on pause.
My dad's dog had to be put to sleep this morning after 13 1/2 years together. Because they're in tier four he wasn't allowed to be with him when it happened and he's wracked with guilt because of that. It's only the second time I've ever heard him cry and there's nothing that I can say or do to help him.
Yknow what I love about dogs? They love you no matter what, even in death. Dogs always forgive.
My dog passed in February and I am so grateful we could be there and so wracked with guilt that we had to say goodbye.
I really need to let this off my chest.
I am so ready for a baby and have been for months, I spend so much time thinking about it and today it’s pretty much all I have thought about. but my husband has always said for a long time he wants to have bought a house before we start trying.
I haven’t told him just how much I want one now because he will tell me we have to wait until we have bought a house and it will lead to an argument.
we are a few years from buying a house, trying to save as much as possible for the deposit.
Christmas and new year has just made the feeling even more intense
not helped by seeing pregnancy announcements all over the place.
I’m not looking for advice on this but just need to let it off my chest.
I am so ready for a baby and have been for months, I spend so much time thinking about it and today it’s pretty much all I have thought about. but my husband has always said for a long time he wants to have bought a house before we start trying.
I haven’t told him just how much I want one now because he will tell me we have to wait until we have bought a house and it will lead to an argument.
we are a few years from buying a house, trying to save as much as possible for the deposit.
Christmas and new year has just made the feeling even more intense
not helped by seeing pregnancy announcements all over the place.I’m not looking for advice on this but just need to let it off my chest.
Thank you for your reply.My cousin. Her local airport in county kerry is shut so she travelled from kerry to dublin and met two friends one from galway the other from limerick. From dublin the three of them travelled to stanstead and then from stanstead to gatwick where they took a flight to jersey for xmas. She is now back in kerry and her town is on full lockdown as is ireland and she's ranting on facebook that its the uk's fault that ireland is in the state it inThis is in spite of their being the same guidance in ireland and uk that its essential travel only
You sound like a nice friend to have but don't feel bad about putting your own needs first. Even if its a little white lie, say you have to get off the phone because of blah blah blah. Its really difficult when you're already low to be dragged down further. I find walking helps. I did two hours yesterday and picked out five front doors I liked, five cars, five houses and counted how many cats I met on the way. I also try and guss the colour of the car I can hear coming from behind. I feel stupid revealing all that but strangely it helps and I feel better when i get back. I'm glad you've got this place to offload at least.
Today’s rant is that I am so sick of people trying to ‘prove’ 2021 is going to be awful.
You can’t even say Happy New Year without someone chiming it about how it’s actually not going to be happy and if you thought 2020 was bad you have no idea. If you have any genuine hope for the future then you’re apparently naive.
cool story hun can I borrow your crystal ball since you seem to know so much?
I’m not saying we all have to hope this year will be better but there seems to be total obsession from some people with tearing down any one who does so we can all be equally miserable
never see it the other way people trying to force their positivity on others.
You can’t even say Happy New Year without someone chiming it about how it’s actually not going to be happy and if you thought 2020 was bad you have no idea. If you have any genuine hope for the future then you’re apparently naive.
cool story hun can I borrow your crystal ball since you seem to know so much?
I’m not saying we all have to hope this year will be better but there seems to be total obsession from some people with tearing down any one who does so we can all be equally miserable
never see it the other way people trying to force their positivity on others.I’m just really sick of ‘influencers’ and wish that term in itself would go away! The thought that kids are aspiring to be an ‘influencer’ as a career 
I wish it would all just go away!!!
I wish it would all just go away!!!Todays rant is all on me. I have a 4000 word masters essay to do which is due in 8 days. I started it before Xmas and got about 2000 words done. I woke up today with the intention of dong another 1000 words.
Tell me HOW I've managed to procrastinate the whole day away. What makes it worse is I dont even feel like I had a lazy day because I was constantly telling myself "after this, I'll start on the essay" and did actually crack open the assignment document, go over my points and research, get distracted and end up doing something else
Its 11pm now, so I guess I'll try again tomorrow. My goal was to complete it before I'm back teaching on Monday but that won't happen.
Tell me HOW I've managed to procrastinate the whole day away. What makes it worse is I dont even feel like I had a lazy day because I was constantly telling myself "after this, I'll start on the essay" and did actually crack open the assignment document, go over my points and research, get distracted and end up doing something else
Its 11pm now, so I guess I'll try again tomorrow. My goal was to complete it before I'm back teaching on Monday but that won't happen.
Don't stress! I'm sure you will manage to get a fair chunk done tomorrow. Sheer, desperate panic will see you through (I remember it well)! Good Luck.Todays rant is all on me. I have a 4000 word masters essay to do which is due in 8 days. I started it before Xmas and got about 2000 words done. I woke up today with the intention of dong another 1000 words.
Tell me HOW I've managed to procrastinate the whole day away. What makes it worse is I dont even feel like I had a lazy day because I was constantly telling myself "after this, I'll start on the essay" and did actually crack open the assignment document, go over my points and research, get distracted and end up doing something else
Its 11pm now, so I guess I'll try again tomorrow. My goal was to complete it before I'm back teaching on Monday but that won't happen.
Why can't I connect with women? I would LOVE a few female friends to hang out with. I currently have my 1 best friend who is female but is currently in my home city of London, but I can't seem to make any more.
I used Bumble BFF for a while and I met one girl, we chatted everyday and eventually met up. Out of nowhere she's gone all icy in her replies for no actual reason that I know of. Apparently she's "doing fine" but this isn't reflected in her responses to me.
I'm more frustrated than anything as we spoke about dead conversations early on and how it was annoying etc! I can't be arsed with grown women acting like teenagers. If I've done something you're unhappy with then bleeping tell me? Don't become ice queen and phase me out.
I need a chill chick plz
(I don't mind male friends but in my experience online, if they're straight they're going to go weird and horny. Long story short I made a gaming friend (who had a girlfriend btw) and sent me creepy voice notes of him masturbating. He was blocked instantly and I made it clear beforehand I wanted someone to game with and be a smoking buddy. Plus who doesn't want Gal pals
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I used Bumble BFF for a while and I met one girl, we chatted everyday and eventually met up. Out of nowhere she's gone all icy in her replies for no actual reason that I know of. Apparently she's "doing fine" but this isn't reflected in her responses to me.
I'm more frustrated than anything as we spoke about dead conversations early on and how it was annoying etc! I can't be arsed with grown women acting like teenagers. If I've done something you're unhappy with then bleeping tell me? Don't become ice queen and phase me out.
I need a chill chick plz
(I don't mind male friends but in my experience online, if they're straight they're going to go weird and horny. Long story short I made a gaming friend (who had a girlfriend btw) and sent me creepy voice notes of him masturbating. He was blocked instantly and I made it clear beforehand I wanted someone to game with and be a smoking buddy. Plus who doesn't want Gal pals
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Im so sorry. It’s such a horrible thing, let alone not being there to comfort them.
My rant is just how lonely I feel. I had a baby in June and had all these images of baby classes, making new friends and that hasn’t happened. My husband works offshore so I’m on my own a lot and it’s hard. I’m lucky that I have my mum for support but bloody hell. It’s so lonely. I know most people are in the same boat so I don’t want this to be a woe is me thing but I’m just so lonely just now 
I feel the same, I had my son right before lockdown began and I visioned all the baby classes and Mum dates, showing him off to my friends & family and none of it happened. My fella works 12 hour days and im on my own alot. I dont live near my family so I barely get to see them. It's been so hardMy rant is just how lonely I feel. I had a baby in June and had all these images of baby classes, making new friends and that hasn’t happened. My husband works offshore so I’m on my own a lot and it’s hard. I’m lucky that I have my mum for support but bloody hell. It’s so lonely. I know most people are in the same boat so I don’t want this to be a woe is me thing but I’m just so lonely just now
I’m sorry to hear you feel the same, it’s awful isn’t it? I feel like we’ve been robbed of so much. It must be so hard without family near by, I’m sending you a hugI feel the same, I had my son right before lockdown began and I visioned all the baby classes and Mum dates, showing him off to my friends & family and none of it happened. My fella works 12 hour days and im on my own alot. I dont live near my family so I barely get to see them. It's been so hard
My rant is about feeling “stuck” in life. We are in lockdown and obviously can’t do anything much at the moment. I’m not long after finishing treatment for cancer. I thought I’d feel so positive and upbeat about starting a new year but instead I feel scared and stuck in this goldfish bowl of just getting up, Netflix, eating and going to bed and then on repeat. My husband is off work and is great but I feel guilty keeping him here when he should be going back to work and socialising. I want to feel excited for the future but I just can’t. My friends were great when I was going through treatment but now that I’ve finished they just think that’s it done and finished with. They complain so much to me about lockdown and not being able to do things but I feel angry in a way as I’d love to be going out to work (I know this is limited for a lot of people right now) and not being able to do things they’ve wanted to do like weekends away etc.
I was so excited for the new year and now I’m just feeling stuck in this same goldfish bowl of seeing no one and doing nothing
I was so excited for the new year and now I’m just feeling stuck in this same goldfish bowl of seeing no one and doing nothing
My Mother tried this new cream for her legs which get very dry, she was given by a friend a tube of diprobase which is working well, so today Mother asks me to try and get some more. I go online, ah, found it in Boots for £11, duck me that's not cheap!! Other sources are selling for half the price and the best deal I got was from AMAZON who are selling it for less than £3!!!
I know you can get a lot of stuff cheaper on the net but this example is just mind blowing.
I know you can get a lot of stuff cheaper on the net but this example is just mind blowing.
I need a bit of a pity whinge and I have no friends or family so you lot will have to put up with me instead 
My husband is leaving tomorrow for 3 months abroad with work. He’s already worked away since September and only been back for two weeks. It’s at a really crappy time, NI is in lockdown, I’ve just launched a new business, the weather is forecast to get bad again here(we are very isolated) and the house needs a ton of jobs doing along with the garden project we started that I’ve now got to complain about to the landscaper (think farmer type who doesn’t like talking to the woman) because it’s not right. I have Aspergers and social interaction with others is really feckin hard for me never mind complaining about stuff to someone. I feel so overwhelmed.
To top it all off we haven’t slept in the same bed for over a year as husbands eczema/mental health is so bad he scratches constantly, and tonight I asked him to sleep in our bed for once and he stayed for all of half an hour before announcing he couldn’t sleep there and he buggers off to the spare room
We also haven’t had sex for 2 years and he implied tonight that I wasn’t sexy as I am right now
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It’s so achingly lonely to live like this and I don’t know how to keep carrying on tbh. Sorry if I’ve gone on a bit ... I don’t get to talk much these days
My husband is leaving tomorrow for 3 months abroad with work. He’s already worked away since September and only been back for two weeks. It’s at a really crappy time, NI is in lockdown, I’ve just launched a new business, the weather is forecast to get bad again here(we are very isolated) and the house needs a ton of jobs doing along with the garden project we started that I’ve now got to complain about to the landscaper (think farmer type who doesn’t like talking to the woman
) because it’s not right. I have Aspergers and social interaction with others is really feckin hard for me never mind complaining about stuff to someone. I feel so overwhelmed. To top it all off we haven’t slept in the same bed for over a year as husbands eczema/mental health is so bad he scratches constantly, and tonight I asked him to sleep in our bed for once and he stayed for all of half an hour before announcing he couldn’t sleep there and he buggers off to the spare room
We also haven’t had sex for 2 years and he implied tonight that I wasn’t sexy as I am right now. It’s so achingly lonely to live like this and I don’t know how to keep carrying on tbh. Sorry if I’ve gone on a bit ... I don’t get to talk much these days
Feeling a huge sense of dread about going back to work this week. I hate my job and I am currently also having to study in my free time for a professional qualification (two exams in March).
Feel like there is literally nothing for me to look forward to this year except working and studying. Didn't get to see my family or go home for Christmas so I just don't feel refreshed like I usually do in January.
Feel like there is literally nothing for me to look forward to this year except working and studying. Didn't get to see my family or go home for Christmas so I just don't feel refreshed like I usually do in January.