A place for ranting/whinging

[Inforapenny]

Also the burden on the nhs, bed spaces and over worked staff. My sisters who is a nurse has been doing a 45 hour week since march. She even treated a protester with a sprained ankle who was loudly complaining about having to wait four hours to be seen

My mum is a retired nurse and my dad is a retired doctor. Both NHS all their working lives and so very aware of what a Pandemic means and the fact specialised medics aren't simply plucked out of obscurity
I'm trying to stay quiet but I want to reply to my friends and ask what the hell did they expect seeing family.
I think if we all assume we're infected then maybe people would think twice.
My one friend was fuming that Boris changed the rules last minute of course he did, he can't lead, he makes u turns all the time and the idea that a virus stops for Christmas is ridiculous.

 

[Isa Drennan]

My whinge is seeing people buy their own homes, because they’ve had parents financially support them, with help for their deposits, plus living rent free

 

[JLXRD]

My whinge is seeing people buy their own homes, because they’ve had parents financially support them, with help for their deposits, plus living rent free

Ugh yes, especially if they then go on about how proud they are to have done it.

ummm done what? Sponged off your family?

 

[Rockin' Robin]

I wasn't sure where to post this, I thought about posting on the secret opinions thread, but what I have to say may sound like self pity.
I am feeling really negative at the moment, it began yesterday morning when they announced that the Oxford vaccine has been approved. I felt a little pressurised into ringing my Doctor's surgery, to ask if I could be made a priority, because of the nature of my work.
My place of employment has had a recent outbreak of Covid. Before this happened the staff were offered the opportunity to have the first vaccine that was available, most of us did not take them up on the offer. I really don't want something which may cause horrible side effects. Infact the more people talk about it, the less I want to have it. But there are vulnerable people to consider.

If I may go off on a tangent, this is where the self pity comes into play. Whilst I enjoy contributing to Tattle, I have never really felt like I have fitted in. Maybe it is my age, and not being on the same wavelength as everybody else. I don't have children, so I can't really empathise with the parents on Tattle. Communication has never been my strong point anyway.
My apoIogies to anyone of a delicate disposition, I think that is enough whinging for now!

 

[Bizziebody]

I want to whine about the morons who say COVID is behind us.
These halfwits must inhabit every country of the world.
Look at the news idiots, this hideous disease is here for the long term whether we like it or not, if you don't want to wear a mask or keep to a safe distance from other people stay home. It's not that hard and might save your miserable life.

Oh this thread is going to see a lot of me

My friend is the most dramatic person ever and honestly it's draining. The problem is, a lot of the problems are of her own making and she just makes stupid decisions. She'll moan to me about how she hasn't got any money and she's struggling to pay her rent but then literally the next day will say how she's going to book a holiday to America with her friends (pre-covid obviously).

She got a pay out for something and instead of using it to clear her debt and help herself she was going to spend it on a trip to Thailand.

She's had a lot happen in the last few years don't get me wrong, but sometimes I feel like she's just chasing an image and trying to get things to say she's got something instead of doing the sensible thing. She hangs around with tit friends and she has to have a boyfriend to make her feel good/ It's really frustrating and draining and I've been thinking about cutting contact but she is a good friend and I don't want to abandon her after she's had a tit time, but I'm kind of sick of hearing the same problem over and over when she won't help herself.

I had a friend like that, I had to move on from her, just too much woe is me.

 

[Misbehaving]

I wasn't sure where to post this, I thought about posting on the secret opinions thread, but what I have to say may sound like self pity.
I am feeling really negative at the moment, it began yesterday morning when they announced that the Oxford vaccine has been approved. I felt a little pressurised into ringing my Doctor's surgery, to ask if I could be made a priority, because of the nature of my work.
My place of employment has had a recent outbreak of Covid. Before this happened the staff were offered the opportunity to have the first vaccine that was available, most of us did not take them up on the offer. I really don't want something which may cause horrible side effects. Infact the more people talk about it, the less I want to have it. But there are vulnerable people to consider.

If I may go off on a tangent, this is where the self pity comes into play. Whilst I enjoy contributing to Tattle, I have never really felt like I have fitted in. Maybe it is my age, and not being on the same wavelength as everybody else. I don't have children, so I can't really empathise with the parents on Tattle. Communication has never been my strong point anyway.
My apoIogies to anyone of a delicate disposition, I think that is enough whinging for now!

I don't think your whinging far from it but your maybe being a bit hard on yourself.
Its normal to have doubts about things or to be worried about potential risks of your job or to your health or that of others.
Its called being responsible and being fair minded and taking the time to make the right decision and there is nothing wrong with that.
I think we can all feel pushed and pulled in many different directions at the moment and sometimes its hard to know if we are doing tbe right thing or not but we just have to try to do what we think is right at any given moment.
So try not to over think it or beat yourself up!
Don't worry as well about not fitting in on tattle life as i often feel like that as well because i'm by nature a bit of a loner...
It is what it is and we can't all be extroverts or full of confidence so don't worry about it accept yourself and make your peace if you can but be kind to yourself if you are feeling low and understand that it will pass and that with things the way they are its completely normal.
Also (although i'm a parent) plenty of people on here aren't (its not mumsnet thank god!!)
and basically we are all just going through many diffrent kinds of struggles and yours are just as relevant.
You have nothing to apologise for but thank you for being considerate of others but also practice being considerate towards yourself as well.

 

[Flyingbaby]

I need this thread!

currently my toddler is awake and has been since 4.30am the white noise batteries died and he woke up screaming! So I get up in the cold and dark to rummage around downstairs to try and find some more! I have to go to work today / my husband doesn’t hes bleeping happily snoring away (which I don’t believe is real - he definitely woke up aswell but pretended to be asleep) he sleeps though it all then moans if he hads to get up at 6!!!!! He only has to look after the little one for a few hours today while I’ve been awake since the crack of dawn!

he also will not clear up ANYTHING because it’s so hardto open the dishwasher or put the dirty nappy in the bin. Somehow I manage to look after a toddler and clean the house do the washing and produce tea on the table when he comes home! I will have nothing when I get back!

It fucks me off that I’m awake and he’s asleep when I have to get up in half hr to go to work even though I’ve repeatedly knee’d him to wake up

he also comes to bed stupidly late and moans he’s tired

his whole sleep attitude since the baby has been born is greedy and it well and truly pisses me off

My whinge is about crap people in general, I’ve made it even more an effort to check in on people due to covid etc and I’m 100% sure if I didn’t check in on people no one would even check in with me

No one has bothered with me either
I’ve worked constantly throughout and in an environment where I am in contact with thousands of people who do not wear masks correctly most of the time
They have all been furloughed and keep going out on jolly’s to the garden centre or non essential shop and it’s bleeping me off!!!

 

[Pinkblush]

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I enjoy contributing to Tattle, I have never really felt like I have fitted in. Maybe it is my age, and not being on the same wavelength as everybody else. I don't have children, so I can't really empathise with the parents on Tattle. Communication has never been my strong point anyway.

I'm sure its a common feeling for a lot of tattlers. I lurked for months before posting a comment. Judging from some of the comments I'd say tattle is made up of lots of different people of all ages and orientations and lots of people without children contribute too. I think one of the things that makes tattle intersting is that its made up of people on different wavelengths. Please don't feel like you don't fit in. I always enjoy your posts

 

[Clurrr123]

I don’t think I’ve ever posted on here before but when I saw this thread I couldn’t resist getting this off my chest.

I’m on my 2 weeks Christmas break from work and the other day received a message from a colleague saying our MD had text her saying he wants everyone to get a COVID test before returning to work. When she replied to tell him you can’t get an nhs test unless you have symptoms he came back with yes you can, you just go on the website and say you have one of the symptoms and you can get a test. He is basically telling us we have to lie and get a test which I am not comfortable doing. I finished work on the 21st and have only been to my parents house on Christmas Day and to the supermarket once, I haven’t got or had any symptoms and therefore am not willing to waste nhs resources. Now I’m really anxious about going back to work and can’t really relax and enjoy the rest of my break because I keep thinking about it all. I’ve done my research and know I am within my rights to say I’m not doing it but the MD has a history of once he doesn’t like someone doing everything he can to find a way to get rid of them.

The worst part is my colleague who he’s been contacting (because she’s the only one he has a number for and hasn’t bothered going into the office to get contact details for everyone else to contact them directly) is heavily pregnant and he’s really stressed her out with the whole thing. He claims it’s really important for everyone’s peace of mind that we all get tested before we go back to the office but he hasn’t told her to work from home. In fact we had some big changes at work this year and all he’s done is pile more work onto her !

Sorry this is so long, feels good to rant about it though (and I think my poor boyfriend is sick of me going on)

Also I just want to add I’m aware that I’m super lucky to still have my job and I know a lot of people have way worse problems at the moment.

 

[lemonlime]

I so wanted to slap my friend who clearly thinks hypochondriasis has an on/off switch and one can simply "stop worrying" as they please. I am not thinking the way I do because I enjoy it. These past couple of months had me unravel and lose my routine and my control. I drive myself sick with anxiety over my personal concerns on top of Covid and everything else, I do not need to hear a condescending laugh and snide comments because I can't control the way my brain is functioning at the moment. I am not an idiot, logically I know that my concerns are unlikely to be the actual case but knowing things and actually being able to accept those things don't necessarily come easily to me. Next time she bangs on about her phobia, I so want to say something bitchy right back but unfortunately I was raised better than that. /rant

 

[Mulholland Drive]

Working in IT as I do, I am constantly amazed at how much drama occurs when a social media site temporarily goes offline, and users can't log on!

Off they hop to one of their other half-a-dozen social media sites to have a good old moan and whinge about Facebook - for example - being offline, and they "urgently need to upload" something or other, and "my life is over!" and "Facebook is tit. I've moving to Twitter from now on!" (even though it's the first time in a very time since Fb last became unavailable) And shedloads more drama and faux tears/anger

And from an IT pov, it rankles even more when users ring up customer support lines and ask "how much longer?" or "when will it be back online?" or "they're taking forever to get it back. It's not good enough: I've been waiting for 30 minutes now....."

The problem for the support desk guys is if they say "another 1 hour", then that's an instant red flag when it doesn't happen. But if they don't say anything it makes them look impotent and clueless, but they have to take all the tit from customers anyway.

And relax

 

[JLXRD]

TW for being sick in case anyone doesn’t like that.

As I said in my opening post, I have a bad back and cannot move very much. This morning it is horrendous however I have also managed to be up throughout the night with what now seems to be a sickness bug.

But because I can’t walk very well I can’t get to the bathroom very quickly to be sick, que being sick getting out of bed, on the floor (sorry if I’m grossing you all out.)

The pressure from the act of being sick is also super painful for my back so essentially I am having a bleeping great time.

Unsure if I have ever been more miserable to be honest, I have had the thing where I wish I appreciated not being ill meant to have ten days holiday from work after today so I also have so much work to finish off and I just cba entirely

 

[leviosa]

TW for being sick in case anyone doesn’t like that.

As I said in my opening post, I have a bad back and cannot move very much. This morning it is horrendous however I have also managed to be up throughout the night with what now seems to be a sickness bug.

But because I can’t walk very well I can’t get to the bathroom very quickly to be sick, que being sick getting out of bed, on the floor (sorry if I’m grossing you all out.)

The pressure from the act of being sick is also super painful for my back so essentially I am having a bleeping great time.

Unsure if I have ever been more miserable to be honest, I have had the thing where I wish I appreciated not being ill meant to have ten days holiday from work after today so I also have so much work to finish off and I just cba entirely

Urgh, you poor thing. I have a bit of a phobia about being sick, and the thought of this just sounds like the worst thing in the world. I hope you feel better soon!!

I have had honestly a really crappy year. Quite apart from COVID. I got furloughed (I know that sounds like a luxury but due to my brain being how it is, the routine of work was keeping me sane-ish) and then unfurloughed couple months later but put onto night shifts. My nan died earlier in the year which was horrible as it was, but then I had to see my mum at her funeral who doesn't talk to me so that was awful. My marriage nearly split up due to my husband chatting to other women. I've struggled with agoraphobia for years now and getting my job was the one thing that really pushed me out the door - working from home now terrifies me that once all this is over I won't be able to go out again.

Oh well! Roll on 2021. It certainly can't be as horrid as this year, I should hope!

 

[LaurieLaurie]

My moan is that my friend constantly texts me when her husband is away (armed forces) saying she’s lonely/bored, and I’m busy working so text her when I’m free. When the husband comes back , understandably she spends time with him/her kids but if I needed her to chat (been feeling particularly low the past couple of days) she wouldn’t reply. Yet when it’s the other way round, the nice person I am replies and offers help. I just don’t like the unevenness of our friendship. Haven’t seen her in 2 years (she lives in Scotland) yet she was down near me in Summer visiting family, didn’t tell me she was visiting my way or offer to meet up (socially distanced of course).

I dunno it just upsets me I guess.

Stop replying.

 

[Rockin' Robin]

I don't think your whinging far from it but your maybe being a bit hard on yourself.
Its normal to have doubts about things or to be worried about potential risks of your job or to your health or that of others.
Its called being responsible and being fair minded and taking the time to make the right decision and there is nothing wrong with that.
I think we can all feel pushed and pulled in many different directions at the moment and sometimes its hard to know if we are doing tbe right thing or not but we just have to try to do what we think is right at any given moment.
So try not to over think it or beat yourself up!
Don't worry as well about not fitting in on tattle life as i often feel like that as well because i'm by nature a bit of a loner...
It is what it is and we can't all be extroverts or full of confidence so don't worry about it accept yourself and make your peace if you can but be kind to yourself if you are feeling low and understand that it will pass and that with things the way they are its completely normal.
Also (although i'm a parent) plenty of people on here aren't (its not mumsnet thank god!!)
and basically we are all just going through many diffrent kinds of struggles and yours are just as relevant.
You have nothing to apologise for but thank you for being considerate of others but also practice being considerate towards yourself as well.

Thank you for your kind words.

I'm sure its a common feeling for a lot of tattlers. I lurked for months before posting a comment. Judging from some of the comments I'd say tattle is made up of lots of different people of all ages and orientations and lots of people without children contribute too. I think one of the things that makes tattle intersting is that its made up of people on different wavelengths. Please don't feel like you don't fit in. I always enjoy your posts

Thank you, that means a lot to me.
This is what is so good about Tattle, it is a supportive community, we all need it at the moment.

 

[Pixipoppy]

WHY ARE THERE SO MANY BIKES ON THE ROAD TODAY

 

[ClockworkDolly]

I wasn't sure where to post this, I thought about posting on the secret opinions thread, but what I have to say may sound like self pity.
I am feeling really negative at the moment, it began yesterday morning when they announced that the Oxford vaccine has been approved. I felt a little pressurised into ringing my Doctor's surgery, to ask if I could be made a priority, because of the nature of my work.
My place of employment has had a recent outbreak of Covid. Before this happened the staff were offered the opportunity to have the first vaccine that was available, most of us did not take them up on the offer. I really don't want something which may cause horrible side effects. Infact the more people talk about it, the less I want to have it. But there are vulnerable people to consider.

If I may go off on a tangent, this is where the self pity comes into play. Whilst I enjoy contributing to Tattle, I have never really felt like I have fitted in. Maybe it is my age, and not being on the same wavelength as everybody else. I don't have children, so I can't really empathise with the parents on Tattle. Communication has never been my strong point anyway.
My apoIogies to anyone of a delicate disposition, I think that is enough whinging for now!

Hey, there’s no need to feel left out on here.

I don’t have children either and I am also an older member of Tattle (55) but I’m also a newer member in that I only joined back in August of this year. Dear Rochelle Humes (bless her) brought me to Tattle.

I am sure there are lots of threads you could join in on and your contributions would be welcomed.

 

[Fenella]

I’m so sorry that so many of us are having tough times (although I guess it’s to be expected)

caveat to mine- I love my kids a lot and enjoy their company. I’m also glad that both me and husband have work and have stayed financially stable, I know we are ok compared to so many.

but I’m just so mentally exhausted by constantly having to think because of covid. Always having to think about everyday things and rules and distances etc (I know I’m not alone).

The kids were isolating before Christmas so we had to do homeschool, then Christmas hols and now another 2 weeks of homeschool as they can’t go back and it’s just so much I have to support between work and the housework etc. It just feels like I don’t have any room in my brain to exist anymore. little things like cooking the dinner wrong or dropping something make me feel so frustrated as I just don’t have any ‘oh well’ reserves any more.

my husband is really good when he can be but his work is so demanding. My work while we are in the higher tiers is so boring and, to be honest, non essential but I have to be there which makes me resentful that I’m having to struggle. But then I feel guilty because I’m lucky to still be getting paid and I feel like I can’t moan.

the debt I mentioned earlier is starting to weigh me down as well. I hope this year we can really make some headway in to tackling it.

 

[MaxieMoo]

I wasn't sure where to post this, I thought about posting on the secret opinions thread, but what I have to say may sound like self pity.
I am feeling really negative at the moment, it began yesterday morning when they announced that the Oxford vaccine has been approved. I felt a little pressurised into ringing my Doctor's surgery, to ask if I could be made a priority, because of the nature of my work.
My place of employment has had a recent outbreak of Covid. Before this happened the staff were offered the opportunity to have the first vaccine that was available, most of us did not take them up on the offer. I really don't want something which may cause horrible side effects. Infact the more people talk about it, the less I want to have it. But there are vulnerable people to consider.

If I may go off on a tangent, this is where the self pity comes into play. Whilst I enjoy contributing to Tattle, I have never really felt like I have fitted in. Maybe it is my age, and not being on the same wavelength as everybody else. I don't have children, so I can't really empathise with the parents on Tattle. Communication has never been my strong point anyway.
My apoIogies to anyone of a delicate disposition, I think that is enough whinging for now!

I've always enjoyed your posts

 

[Rockin' Robin]

Hey, there’s no need to feel left out on here.

I don’t have children either and I am also an older member of Tattle (55) but I’m also a newer member in that I only joined back in August of this year. Dear Rochelle Humes (bless her) brought me to Tattle.

I am sure there are lots of threads you could join in on and your contributions would be welcomed.

Thanks for that. I think you joined Tattle a few days before me.

I've always enjoyed your posts

Thank you. I'm feeling better today.