Blueblue123
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I believe RB did know especially because he text one victim apologising but I kind of see where you're coming from.I just thought maybe there was so much ~something~ (testosterone, adrenaline, I don't know) going through his body that when it came to those specific events, he maybe wasn't aware.
This is why it's been annoying me that people centre the conversation of rape allegations around how it destroys the life of a man. Because all people care about is how bad it must be for a man to be accused but they don't examine the behaviour that led to that.
So it means some men genuinely don't learn when behaviour has gone too far.
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I had to educate my ex that he had sex with me against my will. I thought it was pretty obvious, I said no I wasn't in the mood, let's watch TV instead, refused to go up to his room (he ended up carrying me up the stairs), every piece of clothing he tried to remove I put back on, I think I may have even had my hands covering my groin at one point. The way you do when you're desperate for a wee.
But because we were dating, had sex before and I wasn't in any distress he thought I was "playing hard to get".
When I told him what he did, he seemed more disturbed at what I was accusing him of rather than how it made me feel.
Years later he got in touch to apologise again and said he wished he redo us having sex, except this time it would be consensual. No... I meant what I said about not wanting sex. He should have been wishing to relive that day but instead, actually listen to what I was saying.
I had to educate my ex that he had sex with me against my will. I thought it was pretty obvious, I said no I wasn't in the mood, let's watch TV instead, refused to go up to his room (he ended up carrying me up the stairs), every piece of clothing he tried to remove I put back on, I think I may have even had my hands covering my groin at one point. The way you do when you're desperate for a wee.
But because we were dating, had sex before and I wasn't in any distress he thought I was "playing hard to get".
When I told him what he did, he seemed more disturbed at what I was accusing him of rather than how it made me feel.
Years later he got in touch to apologise again and said he wished he redo us having sex, except this time it would be consensual. No... I meant what I said about not wanting sex. He should have been wishing to relive that day but instead, actually listen to what I was saying.