I agree with this. There’s a very good reason I’m sure that she reacted to Ioan’s yelling at the TV.Kindly disagree it was an overreact, I believe it is reflective of the home environment. If you're raised or have past experiences where loud voices = danger, you will react that way.
In my childhood, raised voices were rare, but they always meant anger that was wrongly expressed. They meant wrath and broken things and drunkenness and regret the next morning.
Now, if my very sweet husband raises his voice about something he's quite passionate about, even if he's not angry, I experience fight or flight physical sensations. It's easier to handle as an adult (and my husband understands so works to modulate his energy) because I can go into another room, calm down, and communicate. When I was Ella's age I didn't have that self control or ability. I would just freeze and cry.
I think this speaks to Alice's lack of emotional regulation as a parent. It's insane to think the behavior we saw in the restraining order evidence started out of the blue when Ioan left. I would bet many cheese strings that she was verbally abusive their entire childhoods, which lead to crying at raised voices.
I get it. I grew up in a very shouty angry tense eggshells home, and to this day if I’m around men watching sports I’m on pins and can’t bear it. The tension of waiting for the sudden loud screaming. I avoid bars when sports are shown. And I feel very tense if I’m on a train with a bunch of drunk, rowdy people.
Also… I’m sure others will disagree but I think even without a history, many little girls would feel scared of their otherwise mild-mannered daddy suddenly shouting loudly and excitedly. I think that’s normal. Ioan didn’t do anything wrong. I’m sure there’s history behind it knowing Alice but even if so it’s normal.