Thank you for summing up the three things I am really good at as well!A big positive for me is everyone wants me on their quiz team. Related to that, I'm great at small talk even though I hate it because I know about lots of things in superficial detail but love finding out more. I'm also good at customer service/complaints because I can read micro expressions and defuse situations before anyone else even thinks they are situations in need of careful handling.
I get it. Take it steady thought. Like I always say to mine, The untidy does eventually lead to tidy though!!I'm overcommitting myself to work so I don't have to think about Christmas. Husband wants me to have a massive clear out of the house over the holidays and I know I can't do it effectively without being what looks like 'untidy' as I go. Which will attract comments, and sap my motivation halfway through.
I was stupidly going to say could you not turn it into like business and sell stuff on vinted etc if you need to buy. But then I remember where I am posting and what I would do in that scenario.I am massively struggling to control my spending atm, alternating between designer purchases and discounters, and the house is a hoarders paradiseI don’t know how to switch it off, I can’t tolerate stimulants so can’t medicate, but my husband is miserable, this can’t go on
I was on an SSRI for about 6 years, it didn’t help with these behaviours sadly, I was living a cluttered life back then tooI was stupidly going to say could you not turn it into like business and sell stuff on vinted etc if you need to buy. But then I remember where I am posting and what I would do in that scenario.
It sounds daft but could you take anything like anti depressants, I’m not medicated yet with stimulants but fluoxetine has calmed down some of my compulsive/addictive behaviours
My personal hunch with this, as someone with ASD and ADHD, is that anyone's brain gets overstimulated eventually and it happens far faster for autistic people because there are processing issues, but with ADHD it's more about the executive functioning and our wildly out of calibration attention (it's not attention deficit is it really, it's more inappropriate, locked on attention?!) soooo if you are attempting to focus on doing the thing whilst there are other things screaming for your attention like bright lights, feeling physically uncomfortable, intermittent noise then you're basically wrangling a puppy in street food market.Just thinking out loud about overlaps between adhd and autism. I‘ve looked into the definition and diagnostic criteria for autism, and I’m pretty sure it doesn’t apply to me.
But, I’m really starting to realise how sensitive I am with sensory issues. I’ve been doing some work in a different place recently and honestly feel like I’m going crazy because the lights are too bright, its too warm, and there’s no fresh air, and it’s impossible to change any of these things. Oh and there‘s too much noise.
It makes it so hard for me to focus on anything, and it just leaves me feeling exhausted and overwhelmed.
ETA. And I hate being like this, it makes me feel like I’m being a princess, or can’t just pull myself together, but it really does affect me in such a debilitating way.
Single most useful piece of relationship advice I've ever been given is a reworking of Hanlon's razor:Secondly I know he’s quite private but is usually pretty open with me, or seems to be.
a family member of his has told me some quite serious stuff that’s been happening and he hasn’t told me at all.
I don’t know if it’s an oversight as he’s busy and maybe stressed or he just wants to be private but I think with the stupid fb rsd and then this , it’s really triggered me today.
Try removing all of your autofill, PayPal, Google and Apple wallets etc so that you have to find your card and input the whole number/expiry date etc every single time you buy something online.I am massively struggling to control my spending atm, alternating between designer purchases and discounters, and the house is a hoarders paradiseI don’t know how to switch it off, I can’t tolerate stimulants so can’t medicate, but my husband is miserable, this can’t go on
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