@Littleelf Happy Birthday
Happy 30th Birthday! Sorry to hear you're having such a rubbish day, I hope it gets betterThat its my 30th birthday today and nobody has messaged me a happy birthday except for my mum feel very unloved today. Just goes to show what great friends I have doesn't it!!! Even my closest friends who ive know so for many years haven't bothered.
To top if off im spending all afternoon sat in hospital for a couple of appointments on my own
I've got some flooooofy things (duvet cover, jacket, slippers, that teddy bear bedding) and I also have an ASD family member who has to have things "feeling" a certain way or it disrupts them...... so I've discovered, if you do not ever ever use conditioner, but do use around half the washing powder (never use liquid washing stuff, always powder) they come out fluffy and snuggle as bunniesI paid a lot for a duvet cover because it is supposed to be amazingly soft. It is very rough and stiff - not at all like the ad description. I reached out to the company and they recommended I wash it using vinegar and baking soda and then wash it again with a mild detergent. I don’t own my own washer and dryer unit
Happy birthday lovely. Hopefully they did come good in the endThat its my 30th birthday today and nobody has messaged me a happy birthday except for my mum feel very unloved today. Just goes to show what great friends I have doesn't it!!! Even my closest friends who ive know so for many years haven't bothered.
To top if off im spending all afternoon sat in hospital for a couple of appointments on my own
Ooh, interesting. I’ve always, always used liquid. What brands do you like most?I've got some flooooofy things (duvet cover, jacket, slippers, that teddy bear bedding) and I also have an ASD family member who has to have things "feeling" a certain way or it disrupts them...... so I've discovered, if you do not ever ever use conditioner, but do use around half the washing powder (never use liquid washing stuff, always powder) they come out fluffy and snuggle as bunnies
Happy 30th Birthday @Littleelf
By the way, this reminded me - one year, I got so mad at my siblings for not wishing me a happy birthday first thing in the morning. It was 1pm and no one had wished me a happy birthday. I started getting upset and told them they were being rude and insensitive on my birthday (lol). Turns out they were preparing a kid gesture for me in the background and had to tell me about it prematurely because I made a scene. I felt really stupid in the moment.Happy 30th birthday!
For what's worth, it's probably best to receive genuine birthday wishes than random ones from people who are just sending wishes for the sake of it. You never know, the day is not over yet! Perhaps you'll get some nice gestures towards the end of the day!
I have those magnetic chargers they are a godsend, so much easier for me and the kidsLoose connection on my charger and can't charge my phone. I'm having to fiddle about with it for ages until it connects
Oh really. I have not heard of them. I'll check that out right now. ThanksI have those magnetic chargers they are a godsend, so much easier for me and the kids
all time fav (oddly) is aldi almat bio (again, only a smaller amount)Ooh, interesting. I’ve always, always used liquid. What brands do you like most?
Oh no, I live in the US and we don’t have any of these brands I’m happy to learn that it’s not just some rare product though. I’ll start experimenting.all time fav (oddly) is aldi almat bio (again, only a smaller amount)
I've also used Persil bio and Ariel bio, oh and a waitrose essential one which has a baby grow on a washing line (can't recall the actual name).
All of those worked brill (the aldi smells lovely and the scent lasts for weeks).
I bet you have really wonderful stuff in the US too, yes try a few things to see which works best for you (scent wise and allergy wise).Oh no, I live in the US and we don’t have any of these brands I’m happy to learn that it’s not just some rare product though. I’ll start experimenting.
I feel like this at times too. I just want some peace.Sometimes I think I just want to run, get on a train and go. Just a fantasy for getting away from the stress of everyday but I find myself spending more and more time in this fantasy.
Thank you so, so much. This is actually my second Rodeo in terms of getting an autistic child through secondary school but my eldest went to a different school and the SEN staff there were amazing. It was hard but the brilliant communication between us made it so much easier.I'm annoyed because 10 years ago, I was going through what @TwooTwooTwitTwitTwoo has mentioned above and it hasn't got better for others in that time
What do I wish I could tell my younger self? Don't rely on SEN teachers/TA's because they can and do get war weary and lose some of their compassion, care and understanding as years go on. Find a teacher/TA that your child magnetizes naturally towards and ask if they can be their support on difficult days/melt downs.
Ask for a laminated set of cards (keep them small like a bank card) which say things like "I need to leave class right now", " I am feeling overwhelmed and need a moment of your time privately" and so on. My children's school made these and spoke to all staff about what to do when this was shown.
Ask for one person on a direct email/phone that you can talk to regarding your child and explain that homework is overwhelming. The school can then either allow your child to have some support at school to do it with help, or at least go over it so they understand what is required,
Lastly, a huge hug for you (and any other parent/guardian/supporter reading this privately) this won't always be this way, keep supporting your child, let nobody put them down, ASD, Asperger's, Autistic folk are brilliant, not in standard (hate normal) ways, but in ways we don't always know or see straight away. When their wings finally unfold and they reach their full potential, you'll know every tear, every battle, every sleepless night was worth it (always share with someone, it helps to do that, never feel ashamed or that you can't) best wishes .