I’m annoyed at how upset I am about my best friend. We tend to have a lot of the same interests (same music tastes, travelling) and do a lot of things together. I’ve booked for us to do something next month and I just don’t feel like she actually wants to do it (zero mention of it even though it’s like 3 weeks away). Meanwhile she’s off doing stuff with someone who she’s friends with from work, and almost slyly not mentioning it until it’s actually happened. That part is making me feel like
tit given that when I’ve done things with a different group of pals, she’s always quick to mention how she isn’t a fan of the person I’m most friendliest with in that group.
I’ve met this friend she’s friends with at work and I don’t particularly like her (more so keep it civil cause they’re friends), but I’ve never really made a comment about it because I wouldn’t ever want her to feel awkward (I mean I felt awkward when she passive aggressively commented on someone).
It’s like I’m suddenly on the back burner, on the outside when the things she’s been doing with this other person she’d once upon a time have mentioned to me and we’d have done them. I don’t even get considered and then she’ll message saying “I’d love to go back there”…. What, with me? As a second option?
I was really looking forward to the thing we’re doing next month, I wanted to suggest we make a long weekend of it and was planning on finding a cute bnb close to where the event is happening but as I don’t feel any excitement from her I just feel like I’m gonna look a fool suggesting it or possibly she feels obliged to do it?
I’m annoyed at how in my head I am when I really I know I should just mention that it’s starting to play on my mind and get me down. I always feel like doing so is gonna play into this other persons hands and my friend will side with them basically leaving me rendered useless.
Totally
tit considering I’ve known my friend for over 20 years and also even more sad that we’ve basically lived in each others pockets so long and I feel like I can’t say anything
Sorry if this isn’t the best place to put this, I just need to get it off my chest somewhere lol