I probably won't read it then! Prayers for him though. I get sleep paralysis although not as much as I used to, where I struggle to breathe and have to force myself to wake up. Think it started when I was a kid, as if my face was pressed into the cushion of the sofa. If it happened for real I really believe I'd bite my wrists to avoid suffocation.
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Sorry for your loss. Don't know what else to say.
- losing my partner, he is my absolute rock and some days I take him for granted.
- something bad happening to my kids. Serious illness, mental health struggles, accident, someone taking them, them being bullied, them being taken advantage of, them getting pregnant as teenagers, growing up and not living a happy and comfortable life (not necessarily financially rich, but not struggling either). I have a lot of anxiety around this, I think it’s projection because I myself have struggled with many of these things and want better for them.
- I’m also scared of my kids becoming bullies. I was bullied as a child and would never stand for my kids doing it. Not that I think they would, but of course everyone says that about their kids. I take it seriously, if another parent or teacher comes to me and says my kid did or said something to theirs that was mean, hopefully I’m doing enough. Another one that causes me a lot of anxiety.
- something happening to my cat. I think the worst thing would be if he got hurt when he’s out and about and he just didn’t come home.
- my gran dying. Don’t think the family will be able to stand it. There’s already cracks and rifts, she’s like the glue.
- cancer - lost my granddad to cancer in 2015 and it was one of the worst experiences of my life. If it’s not treatable end my misery please.
- dropping dead suddenly. Happened to a family member at a relatively young age and I’ve been scared of it happening to me ever since. It was a huge shock at the time
- needles make me feel physically ill. Injections I can just about cope with if I don’t look at the needle and it’s over quickly, but blood tests are a real struggle because they take longer. During my last pregnancy, I had to have more blood tests than usual, and it didn’t help me get used to them at all. It was a massive mental hurdle every time. I can’t bring myself to give blood or anything like that, I think I’d actually vomit/faint. And I’d rather not talk about that one time I had to have a needle in the back of my hand during child birth (forget the proper name for it now)
- this one sounds pathetic and it stems from social anxiety, but I’m secretly scared of people in real life disliking me? Like, I know everyone is not everyone else’s cup of tea, there’s people I don’t like after all and I’m not exactly flush with friends, but I try to be pleasant in person if not a little shy and awkward. It’s something I am working on, I don’t actually want loads of friends as I like a quiet-ish life
so why should I care if people like me or not? They can think what they like! I go through phases where I care less but can never fully let go. Something in me is looking for approval, I think. Work in progress for sure, it will be so freeing when I crack it. Probably will make socialising easier in a way.
I didn’t realise I was so scared of life until I started typing this post
- something bad happening to my kids. Serious illness, mental health struggles, accident, someone taking them, them being bullied, them being taken advantage of, them getting pregnant as teenagers, growing up and not living a happy and comfortable life (not necessarily financially rich, but not struggling either). I have a lot of anxiety around this, I think it’s projection because I myself have struggled with many of these things and want better for them.
- I’m also scared of my kids becoming bullies. I was bullied as a child and would never stand for my kids doing it. Not that I think they would, but of course everyone says that about their kids. I take it seriously, if another parent or teacher comes to me and says my kid did or said something to theirs that was mean, hopefully I’m doing enough. Another one that causes me a lot of anxiety.
- something happening to my cat. I think the worst thing would be if he got hurt when he’s out and about and he just didn’t come home.
- my gran dying. Don’t think the family will be able to stand it. There’s already cracks and rifts, she’s like the glue.
- cancer - lost my granddad to cancer in 2015 and it was one of the worst experiences of my life. If it’s not treatable end my misery please.
- dropping dead suddenly. Happened to a family member at a relatively young age and I’ve been scared of it happening to me ever since. It was a huge shock at the time
- needles make me feel physically ill. Injections I can just about cope with if I don’t look at the needle and it’s over quickly, but blood tests are a real struggle because they take longer. During my last pregnancy, I had to have more blood tests than usual, and it didn’t help me get used to them at all. It was a massive mental hurdle every time. I can’t bring myself to give blood or anything like that, I think I’d actually vomit/faint. And I’d rather not talk about that one time I had to have a needle in the back of my hand during child birth (forget the proper name for it now)
- this one sounds pathetic and it stems from social anxiety, but I’m secretly scared of people in real life disliking me? Like, I know everyone is not everyone else’s cup of tea, there’s people I don’t like after all and I’m not exactly flush with friends, but I try to be pleasant in person if not a little shy and awkward. It’s something I am working on, I don’t actually want loads of friends as I like a quiet-ish life
so why should I care if people like me or not? They can think what they like! I go through phases where I care less but can never fully let go. Something in me is looking for approval, I think. Work in progress for sure, it will be so freeing when I crack it. Probably will make socialising easier in a way.I didn’t realise I was so scared of life until I started typing this post
Awwww I’m EXACTLY the same with my cats
So sorry for your loss. Pancreatic cancer is awful. It took my grandad (maternal) 8 weeks after diagnosis. And I had an aunt on my dad's side die from it too.
Anything happening to my two dogs 
I don’t have kids it’s just my husband and I and our two cockers and honestly they are my world my heart hurts when I think about bad things happening to them, especially with all this dog snatching going on sounds so silly but I honestly get so anxious if they’re ever left alone it’s all I think about and sometimes I’ll cry all night thinking about when they’ll die. It sounds so stupid writing it out like this I know! I’ve grown up with lots of pets so I know the pain of losing a pet but I think this is because they’re the first pets that I’ve ever had as my own they just mean the world to me
to be honest I’m a wreck I’m scared of everything
I don’t have kids it’s just my husband and I and our two cockers and honestly they are my world my heart hurts when I think about bad things happening to them, especially with all this dog snatching going on sounds so silly but I honestly get so anxious if they’re ever left alone it’s all I think about and sometimes I’ll cry all night thinking about when they’ll die. It sounds so stupid writing it out like this I know! I’ve grown up with lots of pets so I know the pain of losing a pet but I think this is because they’re the first pets that I’ve ever had as my own they just mean the world to me to be honest I’m a wreck I’m scared of everything
Wasps. Life ruining fear of the blighters. Have managed to work up to not freaking when I see a bee, I’ll let them do their thing. However, a wasp and I start hyperventilating, sweating, palms going clammy etc. Just cannot take them. In honesty, I would rather have multiple spiders ON me than a wasp near me.
I work in a care home in the dementia ward and it’s very hard work
One lady has literally had her brain wiped and she isn’t old
She doesn’t remember how to drink or eat
She just looks right through you
Saying her families names does nothing to trigger the brain
It’s so very sad
I come away some days full of sadness
But I do my best to give them a lovely life
I actually have a horrifying fear of stairs with gaps in. I literally picture myself slipping and my foot being stuck and amputated.
It literally horrifies me. Why can’t people just make a solid staircase FFS.
It literally horrifies me. Why can’t people just make a solid staircase FFS.
This also, Wasps honestly horrify me. I also have an anxiety / panic attack. I locked myself in my bedroom and called my mam to come to my house and get rid. Happy adulting! But yes, the hyper ventilating, the heart race, the sweaty palms I just can’t cope. I was always told dont move they won’t sting you! Lies! They will sting because they’re dickheads with wings with no actual purpose! I’ve been stung 4 times for just going about my business. I hate them!
He is so adorable
- loosing someone or cancer in my immediate family / my child. I’ve never experienced a close death so I’m scared the day I do as I don’t know how I’d cope with it.
- spiders. Completely irrational
- trying new foods. Force fed as a child so now have a big issue with food textures, can’t try new foods and I’m a fussy eater
- wasps. Firemen in primary school let us try the hose against a fence, there was a wasps next so a bunch of us got stung a few times so now I’m panicky around them
- spiders. Completely irrational
- trying new foods. Force fed as a child so now have a big issue with food textures, can’t try new foods and I’m a fussy eater
- wasps. Firemen in primary school let us try the hose against a fence, there was a wasps next so a bunch of us got stung a few times so now I’m panicky around them
Every now and then I get really scared that we will get evicted from our rented house, there’s no reason for this, it’s just something that pops into my head occasionally. We’ve lived here a few years and the landlord has kept our rent the same since we moved in. Looking at rental prices now is shocking, we’d have to move to a totally different area if we were to get kicked out, move our kids to a different school etc. I’d be devastated. It’s fine moving areas if you’re doing it through choice but I feel like we’ve made a life here and would hate to have it taken away. Thems the breaks when you’re stuck renting I guess.
Dying. I'm not scared of the process of dying, I just don't want to. I get cold sweats just thinking that I only have a finite time being alive. I'm just sort of hoping the scientists will come up with some sort of life extending solution before I get too old.
So inevitably I'm also terrified of getting older, I feel like crying every birthday.
My cat dying. I love him more than almost anything in the world.
So inevitably I'm also terrified of getting older, I feel like crying every birthday.
My cat dying. I love him more than almost anything in the world.
Someone else that I love dying alone. It happened to my dad, and if I’d made one more call, thought a bit more, done anything to try and get in touch with him the night it happened he might not have died and he wouldn’t have been alone.
Also, growing old alone.
Also, growing old alone.
I am basically terrified of health issues, either for myself or my family/friends, I am an anxious person already and the pandemic has made it much worse, I remember at the height of it just hearing constant ambulance sirens, it was just awful.
I am also terrified of being in a plane crash, I usually have to self medicate with alcohol on flights to calm myself down.
Also as other people have said anything happening to my cat, I live alone just with her so it would destroy me. I live in a flat with cladding issues with no cat door (I am not allowed to install one) so the idea of a fire and her trapped inside makes me panic every time I am not here
I am also terrified of being in a plane crash, I usually have to self medicate with alcohol on flights to calm myself down.
Also as other people have said anything happening to my cat, I live alone just with her so it would destroy me. I live in a flat with cladding issues with no cat door (I am not allowed to install one) so the idea of a fire and her trapped inside makes me panic every time I am not here
Anything happening to my daughter and husband. I simply could not go on.
Losing my cats, they are my babies. We have 3 and adopted our first one when I was in a very dark place with MH problems. He became my crutch, and he's still bonded to my much more than my husband and daughter.
Other random things, spiders, needles, blood, pain, heights and enclosed spaces @DCICassieStuart - I should NOT have read up on John Edward Jones, it set off my heart racing.
Losing my cats, they are my babies. We have 3 and adopted our first one when I was in a very dark place with MH problems. He became my crutch, and he's still bonded to my much more than my husband and daughter.
Other random things, spiders, needles, blood, pain, heights and enclosed spaces @DCICassieStuart - I should NOT have read up on John Edward Jones, it set off my heart racing.
I've got 2 spaniels and I'm terrified of them being stolen. I have a baby monitor in the kitchen as it's the other end of the house to our bedroom and often lie awake listening out........ bastard hubby won't let them sleep upstairs. I honestly think I'd go mad if it ever happened and literally never leave them unless I can't manage not to. They come to work with me, and are never less than a few metres from my side 24/7.
Having worked in care, I'm terrified of a medical incident that leaves you either paralysed or unable to self care. I'd rather be dead. Dying doesn't scare me at all.
Having worked in care, I'm terrified of a medical incident that leaves you either paralysed or unable to self care. I'd rather be dead. Dying doesn't scare me at all.
Oh, it's just horrible, isn't it
