So when you arrive at mine and afterwards when I arrive at yours it’s an immediate play in each other’s wardrobes!! Immediately! Swoon...(that was me swooning)
Always in our thoughts. Sending love .. and bags and bags and bags of warm wishes@Milking Keynes I’m ok thank you for checking on me x Feeling very vulnerable and emotional so taking one day at a time. If I don’t, I keep thinking about what ifs and so and so.
PS- Loving all the bags and shoes collections
@Milking Keynes I’m ok thank you for checking on me x Feeling very vulnerable and emotional so taking one day at a time. If I don’t, I keep thinking about what ifs and so and so.
PS- Loving all the bags and shoes collections
Oh, I love this and I agree completely. Heartache is just like grief - the way it comes in waves and is so all-consuming. It’s also so deeply personal that it’s hard to share because it can only be felt by one heart. @Hi there you are doing nothing wrong - you are allowing yourself time, that’s all. One month. Your decision can be whatever you want it to be but you must allow yourself one month. As @Oops said, distraction is key. Casper is a real comfort too. Take your time - be vulnerable. Also, spoil yourself a little bit. Buy yourself something lovely and unnecessary, sometimes frivolous is necessary and sing. Sing, sing, sing. I myself was rarely without a hairbrush in my hand during my single days and beyond to be honest, so yes, I second @Oops and I really wish you all the very best and know you can always talk here. We are nothing if not listeners.You have been on my mind too. I read a few of your posts over on Feng Shui today.
If it helps I lost the love of my life 32 years ago. He was perfect in every way. However, he wasn’t right for me no matter how right I tried to see him. It was the most crippling event in my life. Had I stayed with him ALL my attention and All my thought and effort would have gone into him. My best advice to you is to try to rebuild yourself as soon as possible and there are many ways to do this. Distraction is essential. It’s your focus on him that is causing your feelings to be so dreadful. Give him an hour every day and then every time he comes into your mind after that hour shoo him out until tomorrow. It is impossible to think of 2 things at the same time. You have your lovely Casper and your home. Focus on them both since both will be rewarding. You can do this with the will to practice doing this. Also, sing! Sing at the top of your voice. You can do singing tutorials on YouTube. Singing is a life saver. Please give it a try and let us know how it goes. When you are breathing deeper you feel better and you will breathe deeper when you sing. Stand up, roll your shoulders back and down and sing from your diaphragm. The resonance and reverberation this causes a healing frequency. Me, mi, mo, mooooo. The deeper you go the better you feel. If you put your hand on the back of your neck and over your heart at the same time as you sing you will feel the resonance. DOOOOOOO Try it...
Can I just say when the man I wanted to spend every hour of every day with - dumped me - I was lost and angry and I couldn’t believe the world was still turning - my break-up song was Troy by Sinéad O’Connor. I still think the lyrics are powerful.You have been on my mind too. I read a few of your posts over on Feng Shui today.
If it helps I lost the love of my life 32 years ago. He was perfect in every way. However, he wasn’t right for me no matter how right I tried to see him. It was the most crippling event in my life. Had I stayed with him ALL my attention and All my thought and effort would have gone into him. My best advice to you is to try to rebuild yourself as soon as possible and there are many ways to do this. Distraction is essential. It’s your focus on him that is causing your feelings to be so dreadful. Give him an hour every day and then every time he comes into your mind after that hour shoo him out until tomorrow. It is impossible to think of 2 things at the same time. You have your lovely Casper and your home. Focus on them both since both will be rewarding. You can do this with the will to practice doing this. Also, sing! Sing at the top of your voice. You can do singing tutorials on YouTube. Singing is a life saver. Please give it a try and let us know how it goes. When you are breathing deeper you feel better and you will breathe deeper when you sing. Stand up, roll your shoulders back and down and sing from your diaphragm. The resonance and reverberation this causes a healing frequency. Me, mi, mo, mooooo. The deeper you go the better you feel. If you put your hand on the back of your neck and over your heart at the same time as you sing you will feel the resonance. DOOOOOOO Try it...
Actually, shades of WB again, @Oops with ‘No Second Troy’. Sorry - just with the Sinéad O’Connor reference to her song Troy. All these years later, I never tire of that song and she wrote it aged seventeen. Incredible.Oh, I love this and I agree completely. Heartache is just like grief - the way it comes in waves and is so all-consuming. It’s also so deeply personal that it’s hard to share because it can only be felt by one heart. @Hi there you are doing nothing wrong - you are allowing yourself time, that’s all. One month. Your decision can be whatever you want it to be but you must allow yourself one month. As @Oops said, distraction is key. Casper is a real comfort too. Take your time - be vulnerable. Also, spoil yourself a little bit. Buy yourself something lovely and unnecessary, sometimes frivolous is necessary and sing. Sing, sing, sing. I myself was rarely without a hairbrush in my hand during my single days and beyond to be honest, so yes, I second @Oops and I really wish you all the very best and know you can always talk here. We are nothing if not listeners.
Can I just say when the man I wanted to spend every hour of every day with - dumped me - I was lost and angry and I couldn’t believe the world was still turning - my break-up song was Troy by Sinéad O’Connor. I still think the lyrics are powerful.
Oh my God, the connection in this group is so amazing - I can’t believe it - Sacrifice by Sinead omg I believe honestly Elton John/Bernie Taupin could not have imagined that song more beautifully sung than by Sinéad - her version incredible and @Hi there - you are so amazing to me - I love you - please keep us updated
Sinéad is one in a million, Hypnotic is the word. I have been to many of her concerts and she is wonderful live. She brings such emotion to Irish ballads that they take on a completely different dimension. I was at Tesco in Dun Laoghaire and she was ahead of me in the queue - then, I was at Kite’s restaurant in Ballsbridge and she was at a table beside me! She has aged badly but then she was so spectacularly beautiful - it was really hard not to stare. Irish people never go up to someone famous, though, it is considered very uncool. I was once sitting next to Bono in the Horseshoe bar in The Shelbourne and everyone acted like they didn’t know who he was! I actually see him driving his Masarati around quite a bit - but my sister-in-law, who is a New Yorker, started screaming out the car window at him - I was mortified!
She was so pretty in her heyday, her eyes were stunning and if a sort haircut ever suited someone 100% it was Sinèad.
She’s back!Hellllooooooo - echo - echo...
All is quiet on The Western Front...Just having a tumbleweed moment.
Are you in there dears? X
(I saw a film once of Sarah Fergusson in the food hall in Harrods and there was a biscuit tin with the Queen Mother’s head on it and in front of the cameras she knocked on the lid and said “Are you in there dear?’’).
Good morning, @Oops! Ha - I love that Sarah Ferguson story. I think the Lilibet thing is dreadful. Reminds me of my psycho-narc older sister who modelled her engagement ring on my mothers ring - a unique design - then went on to never speak to her again for the next twenty years. Hijack something deeply personal from the very person you are hurting.Oh that sounds too awful! I think just SO many of us have suffered at the hands of Narcissists and never understood it when it was happening. It can have a dehumanising effect that might sometimes last a lifetime. There is a lovely woman called Melanie Tonia Evans in Australia who specialises in treatment. She is a great friend of my friend in NZ who is also a much respected therapist.She’s back!
So very true. Nothing authentic about these people, they are works of fiction. I cannot deal with that woman (remember I had her bananas as my avatar because of her daft banana messages), as she reminds 100% of my opportunistic sister. I could write a book but suffice to say - after the way she behaved at my father’s funeral.... she arrived into the Yacht Club where the post-service reception was held - took over a table of twenty with people we had never seen before, from some born-again christian group she had joined and me and some relatives had nowhere to sit! I had to go and have a cry in the Ladies before shuffling the relatives to a balcony area. Imagine?
End of - is right! Not meaning to be a Debbie downer but the Lilibet thing just killed me. And the Queen recently bereaved and so stoic. Gets my goat, to be honest. Anyway, let’s forget about these people. They deserve not a moment more!
I'm not even British but the "Lilibet" issue really annoyed me !!! There is just something about MM I cannot stand.
Tomorrow is a public holiday (bank holiday) in South Africa 
and I intend on doing a "Lydia" and slothing around in my pjs ...
