it really is.It's terrible how slow the days are moving when you are waiting to get some reassurance right? I hope everything goes smoothly for you and you can continue seeing strong heartbeat. Are your checkups more often now because of the previous experience?
I'm so upset with the way my nurse has been talking to me this past week. I found out I'm pregnant last Wednesday immediately after my MC last month, no period in between. My MC happened while I was traveling so the whole thing was dealt with abroad / private, I only had a checkup at my doctor last Tuesday and that was supposed to be my first pregnancy scan at 10 weeks. When I called my doctor a day after my scan to tell I got a positive again she was rude to me and told me that it's probably nothing because my hormones are still confused. When I told her my pregnancy tests were negative almost immediately after MC but are now positive again she reluctantly ordered a blood test for me, which I did on Friday at 4w.
Now she's scarring me that hcg 57 is way too low and should be at least 200 to confirm pregnancy (?) and that maybe it's a "leftover" from previous pregnancy. But all of the charts I found on the internet say anything between 10-400 is normal or at least 50-100 for 4w. I wonder what she'll say tomorrow but I just HATEEEEE the condescending way in which she's trying to convince me I'm not even pregnant. And I'm sensitive enough as it is.
I'm just dreading to reach a 6w mark (for now) so I can keep the pregnancy longer then the last time. Then the first ultrasound, then NIPT. But the days are dragging so much! And I hate how all the joy went out from something that was supposed to be the happiest part of the life. I'm just a ball of anxiety.
I did so much research on this because I developed OCD from the loss and trauma and my compulsion was googling.Love this thread idea. I had a miscarriage about 5 weeks ago, think I ovulated around the 17/18th may so I'm now in the two week wait and symptom spotting like crazy! lol. Looking back at my symptoms for the last pregnancy, they're pretty similar so I'm hoping for this cycle
I've been reading about being more fertile after a MC (don't think it's been scientifically proven) so I think I'm pinning all hopes on that. Xx
Yeah I think there's definitely truth to that, it makes sense doesn't it. I really hope so xI did so much research on this because I developed OCD from the loss and trauma and my compulsion was googling.
itās not quite the case, itās because after a loss people are usually really keen to try again so theyāll time better, have better habits, be armed with more information etc. there is evidence however that the outcome of falling pregnant after a loss is often improved š©·
Yeah I think they are generally just lacking empathy when dealing with situations like this, I know this is a routine for them and they see a lot worse every day so probably an early loss to them is just some generic occurrence, but it's hard to explain until you experience it yourself. I can't believe how much it affected me and I only knew I was pregnant for two weeks! Sometimes I feel bad because of my obsessing, like I don't have a right to be so upset so early (I know all feelings are valid but still feel a little silly at times).it really is.
so they claimed they would see me more often and offer more scans.. that hasnāt really happened. Iāve had an NHS scan at 5.5 weeks and 7.5 and they claimed theyād scan me again at 10 but theyāve refused as theyāre āhappyā with my progression! Iāve decided to go private instead
I had the exact same experience with rude nurses, just a slightly different situ. I had bleeding in this pregnancy, quite significant and it looked like it could have been ectopic. EPU wouldnāt scan me at first and insisted on doing hormones first. I KNEW I was at a certain point but they kept fobbing me off and saying they would have to check my levels first. Theyāre so dismissive of your situation. I get some people can get things wrong but thereās no need to be so rude. Iāve never heard that either- I have been told things that are not medically correct by the nurses so I would take no notice of her.
itās awful how what should be the happiest time of your life is just filled with constant doubts and worries and the unknown. I always say I could cope better if I just knew how it would turn out. Itās the not knowing that sends me crazy
I could have written this myself, I felt the same when I had a MC. I was only about 5 weeks but I felt so silly being so upset because I hadn't even seen anything on a scan or anything, just lots and lots of positive pregnancy tests. I was reading about women who had losses 12+weeks and kept trying to tell myself I was "lucky". It's really hard.Yeah I think they are generally just lacking empathy when dealing with situations like this, I know this is a routine for them and they see a lot worse every day so probably an early loss to them is just some generic occurrence, but it's hard to explain until you experience it yourself. I can't believe how much it affected me and I only knew I was pregnant for two weeks! Sometimes I feel bad because of my obsessing, like I don't have a right to be so upset so early (I know all feelings are valid but still feel a little silly at times).
Now I'm thinking if maybe we rushed into another cycle too fast, at first it was just an obsession to see a + again but now I'm not sure if I'm emotionally ready. Especially because the first time it felt so "meant to be", it felt so right and exciting and this time I've been spotting for days, I hate my new due date (january), the joy is gone - I just feel so detached from it. The moment I started spotting I deleted the pregnancy from my app lol, preparing for the worst.
Sorry to rant here, I told my friends about the loss but not about a new pregnancy yet. And it feels so lonely.
Thatās excellent news! So pleased for you!I got my HCG results back, it was 450 at 4w4d! It should double every 2 days and I started with 57 4 days ago so Iām really pleased with it.The nurse finally admitted I am indeed pregnant
and they scheduled my first ultrasound at 7 weeks already because the doctorās going on a holiday after so I guess Iām lucky hehe. Ohhh this made me feel soooo much better, yesterday I was so down I didnāt know what to do with myself.
Iām still spotting tho so Iām thinking I should maybe cancel my tennis practice tomorrow and rest? I donāt want to completely stop but maybe just until the spotting stops because itās really intense and my heart rate goes through the roof.Iām scared to do anything that could make the risk higher. š„²