Morning Ladies, normally I'd never mention my personal life on here but I don't know to do. My husband is a Vet, he was special forces infantry. He deals with PTSD. Occasionally it'll flare up (I don't know how else to describe it). I can feel the tension and anxiety coming from him. I feel emotions from anyone around me most of the time but with him it's intense. I'm sure I don't even know an iota of the pain he is in but I feel so helpless to know he's feeling this way and I can't do anything. I'm kind and understanding of course but I'm still helpless. He's gone to the VA numerous times to speak with someone and they always just write a script and send him on his way. Then they'll set up an appointment for a therapy group usually 4+ weeks out and by the time it gets here he doesn't want to go. I suggested a private psychologist outside the VA but he doesn't seem interested in that. He's such a teddy with me and I hate seeing him try to manage this anger and frustration that comes from his past experiences from service. Does anyone have any advice?
I come from a big military family, with some very high ranking government / family members. I would like to add to that I myself have C-PTSD (compound / complex PTSD most extreme case) And I have had to learn to deal with it for most my life.
I know these flareups that you’re talking about… The tension in the anxiety, you can tell he’s just not right, he seems diss interested in all the normal things and possibly even insomnia, extreme anger outbursts etc.
first of all I commend you for being an incredible wife and standing by your husband. It is not easy to go through this as a spouse. Truly though, you standing by your husband side is the greatest gift right now you could probably give him. The VA, more or less is worthless… Hate to say it but it’s the truth. They love to push pills and that’s about it. I know this may be a little taboo but have you tried CBD? Moreover, if you have an even more open mind or are able to try it, legal cannabis may help even more. I’m dead serious. If he doesn’t want to smoke there are 1 million ways for him “ingest it”.
If you or him are against cannabis for whatever reason and THC, CBD is a great alternative without the THC (the part that gets you “high”).
CBDdistillery.com has great gummies, as does CBDmd.com
They won’t make him feel high or weird… If anything just calm and relaxed and more himself. That’s the best I got. Exercise also helps, eating right, reducing caffeine intake and if he’s up for it going to see a therapist. I hope things get better for both you and your husband… God speed & thank you for your families service
Thank you for your family’s service. (His being in the military and yours for being an amazing military spouse) I don’t know where you live, so I don’t know your level of Covid restrictions, but maybe he can look into something to channel his anger and frustration? Like maybe joining a martial arts class, or a boxing gym? Are there specific things that he finds to be calming, like working on a car, doing home renovation? maybe help him find groups that aren’t set up by the VA and it’s just a bunch of other service men and women who deal with the same frustration from the VA? Maybe even get involved in a Dog Rescue or spend time at an animal shelter? I know therapy dogs are expensive, but have you considered getting your husband’s name on a list?
Hang in there, I hope something comes along your way soon. Sending you positive vibes.
These are all some great recommendations! However in my experience, military members who have PTSD don’t wanna talk about their problems too publicly or in groups. They are men in our bullshit society has taught them they have to be these big strong supernatural providers or else they are weak and have failed. It is a very conflicting place to be as a man.
We as a society need to do better. Treat our men and women better. Especially those who serve in the military.
There’s a big difference between the Covid vaccine and vaccines that have been tested for years. There’s a reason why it takes so long for them to be developed. I work in healthcare and there’s no way in hell I would volunteer to be the first person to get any vaccine
I am not saying you’re wrong at all… But what I’ve been hearing from my healthcare friends is that the reason this vaccine was rushed through was because they had the political power to do so. There wasn’t so much bureaucratic red tape, because Covid has shut the world down. Therefore they found a way to come together, and crank this vaccine out. What are your thoughts on this topic? I am interested to hear all sides. Thank you.
tara nannied for an extremely rich family that i know in Morristown ... twin 4 year olds boy/girl , 10 yr old girl and an 8 year old boy I saw her back into a sidewalk and fence in their car last year at daycare drop off lol
Since corona they let her go.
Thank you for the tea! So you mean to tell us that Tara taking nonstop Instagram videos of the kids she’s nannying didn’t end well for her!?!? Lol
you don’t say! Lol
Omgggggg I’m laughing so hard - all of these people (Maloney/Epstein) are complete idiots. How do you go from nanny and all data watching your nieces and nephews for free? How does she even make her bills? Oh well… None of my business LOL