I'm really surprised she's been referred so easily to be honest, especially as you haven't raised concerns. My 3.5 year old was referred a couple of months ago after me practically begging both them and the HV for help, and his nursery assessed him as having the speech of a 12-17 month old so was/is significantly behind. The HV wouldn't even help at all and just fobbed me off telling me to do nursery rhymes etc. If you aren't happy with the referral then you can get them to withdraw it but it also wouldn't do any harm in attending. They might assess her and say she doesn't require it.Hope we’re all well? Just after some advice - had our HV appt earlier and she’s referred my 2 year old for a speech assessment. Mentioned it to nursery and they agreed they felt she was a little behind but not concerningly so and were going to discuss at parents morning in a couple of weeks. They both said nothing to be concerned about etc, and I’m no expert but she doesn’t seem behind her little friends the same age, but the fact they’ve made the referral suggests it could be a problem. She seems ok to me - has quite an extensive vocabulary but just struggles to use the words in context sometimes and say longer sentences…but she’s 2?I dunno but now I am worried so any experiences/advice would be helpful!
I think that’s what’s bothering me - it’s so hard to get a referral for anything, so to say it’s not a concern but also make the referral seems a bit contradictory? At the end of the day, we’ll go to the assessment and see what they say and then work on it however they advise, I don’t mind (probably the wrong word) if there is an issue but it just seems a bit vague
I’m currently 37 weeks with baby 2, so can’t advise as to what my oldest will be like, but she was a huge mummy’s girl and I have found she seems to have shifted to want her dad as much (if not more sometimes) not sure if it’s just he’s had more time and energy or if she’s picked up that things are going to change a little and she’s definitely less clingy to me (which is sad but also not) x
Almost all little ones are closest to their mum - that is biologically normal behaviour. All mine have still been breastfeeding and cosleeping with me until a few weeks before their new baby sibling appeared. They all transitioned beautifully, never an issue at all. I can honestly say I have never heard of anyone IRL who has had an issue with older children once a newborn arrives. Toddlers just adjust wonderfully. All mine have been approx 2.5 when the new baby arrived
It could be that the referral is a better safe than sorry type of deal. Here, a lot of kids get referred and because the waiting lists are so long they often no longer need the referral by the time the appointment comes. But for those that do, they are in the system and ready to be seen. Rather than waiting and then referring later and having help delayed.Hope we’re all well? Just after some advice - had our HV appt earlier and she’s referred my 2 year old for a speech assessment. Mentioned it to nursery and they agreed they felt she was a little behind but not concerningly so and were going to discuss at parents morning in a couple of weeks. They both said nothing to be concerned about etc, and I’m no expert but she doesn’t seem behind her little friends the same age, but the fact they’ve made the referral suggests it could be a problem. She seems ok to me - has quite an extensive vocabulary but just struggles to use the words in context sometimes and say longer sentences…but she’s 2?
I have none first hand, but have witnessed my sister with her first born that was also 2 when she had her second, she adapted and to a certain extent was fascinated with her new brother, don’t get me wrong she had her moments in the beginning, almost reverted back to being a baby, was very short lived and has almost got on with being the big sister!
Honestly, I found it a 6 year age gap much harder than I did a 3 year and 2.3mon age gap. Both my middle boys have been mummies boys who coped really well when welcoming the new baby (they are now daddies boys, but YOLO)
I am 8months pregnant with number 2 and my daughter (just turned 2) has become increasingly clingy to me (always a mummy’s girl but this is off the charts), my husband isn’t even allowed to put her to bed which he has been doing for the last year no issues. The lady that owns her daycare has a PHD in early childhood behaviour so gave me loads of tips: give her loads of jobs to do-she’ll soon get bored of helping me and hopefully gain some independence;tell her I’m too busy for xyz but daddy will help and I’m just next door; don’t let her sit on my bump(!) but let her sit really close and keep her secure; reinforce that I’m a person not her possession eg when out with friends making sure she is told that mummy is talking to her friends; calling her out on her crocodile tears. I’m not worried about her when baby arrives as I think she’ll adjust really quickly but I do feel very guilty at the moment. My advice is try tackling it now, but honestly he will be fine, they adjust to things so quickly!
We had the same at our HV app. I was concerned about her speech, she was saying lots of singular words but not pulling anything together at all ie ‘drink please’ would just be ‘drink’ or ‘please’Hope we’re all well? Just after some advice - had our HV appt earlier and she’s referred my 2 year old for a speech assessment. Mentioned it to nursery and they agreed they felt she was a little behind but not concerningly so and were going to discuss at parents morning in a couple of weeks. They both said nothing to be concerned about etc, and I’m no expert but she doesn’t seem behind her little friends the same age, but the fact they’ve made the referral suggests it could be a problem. She seems ok to me - has quite an extensive vocabulary but just struggles to use the words in context sometimes and say longer sentences…but she’s 2?
I think it’s similar - although she will say sentences but 2 words will be clear and the rest is babble, so I can understand what she wants because I spent so much time with her but I guess the HV couldn’t so much. She’ll also use the wrong word for things e.g if she wants something open she’ll say door, because she knows you open a door and clearly in her head that’s the same thing as open, if that makes sense? She does now say open, but it’s that sort of sometimes using the words in the wrong context, never occurred to me at this age it could indicate a problem but now they e mentioned it I have noticed she does babble a lot and use words in the wrong context. I think I’ve just never noticed because I usually understand what she means!
How long has it been going on for? Has he had a bad poo and he’s scared of going? Could it be hurting when he poos?
About a week? Started last week at daycare, so I wonder if something happened but the teachers will never say/probably wouldn’t pick up on any small nuances that may cause that.
Really, really normal. I find it takes a good week of you just watching constantly and at the first sign of pooping you rush them there, so they relearn how it feels to do it in the toilet.
Gosh that must have been horrible to have sprung on you! I’m sure your local library has some good books you could use.
Oh man it’s so triggering ay. My 3 year old is also one that behaviour seems to get worse with different shows (I’ve heard Peppa pig is a bit of a c***) so we haven’t even gone there! But paw patrol is currently having a break in our house as the tantrums and general mood after it were just unreal.Oh my god, I thought the terrible twos had hit us bad but feck me it’s so much worse now. She asked for some grapes, so I cut some up in a bowl, she apparently didn’t want them in a bowl or cut up and so winged the bowl across the room and screamed. I turned peppa off because I’m sure it makes her 10x worse so she threw the remote at the tv
Luckily only lasted about 3 minutes before she picked all of the grapes back up and came over for a cuddle and said sorry but I really struggle to deal with tantrums like that!
Mine were a little down for the next day but were fine after. It wasn't too bad. Some calpol in them and they were fine.
The effects of it are often felt 10 days later, which I believe is due to the MMR. For some reason it takes a little longer to work its way in and around. But I’ve never had any issues with them, even at the 10 day mark.
