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He slept through!! 7.15-6am. Feel so refreshed today!! I didn’t bother doing the dream feed, thank you for asking @Jellybean093
Fingers crossed for the same again tonight.
Ah! Fab news! Hopefully this is the start of sleeping through again!
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We have an idea where we want but I could be dreaming. Looking around Hampton Hill or thereabouts. We used to live close to Richmond so would love to go back to that area-ish

you are so right kids always surprise us. Also would love not to have to pay for nursery fees for any longer than I have to 😂
Oh god, the days for ‘free’ childcare is the best. Although I always manage to spend the money elsewhere!!
 
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Hi everyone :)

A few weeks ago I posted about my daughter not eating at childminder etc. Well unfortunately we are still in the same boat, if not WORSE :(

She still doesn't eat all day there, yet when I pick her up she is ravenous and eats her lunchbox in the car! Someone asked previously if she had had a choking incident and she did, but this was months ago. It did affect her and she wouldn't eat properly for a few days, but then she went back to normal and ate there fine over the summer months. Now she's refusing to eat there again. She does have sore throats a lot (we have a pending ENT referral) but she eats fine at home still, almost back to normal.
She's been going to this childminder for 18 months, and suddenly in the last 2/3 weeks she's been SCREAMING and crying at drop off and it apparently lasts most of the day. On the days she doesn't go, she constantly talks about not wanting to go back, she spends the weekend begging me not to send her. When I ask her why, she just says she doesn't want to see the lady who runs it or see her friends. Yet when I suggested a playdate with her best friend from there, she got so excited and keeps asking me when the playdate is.

I just don't know what to do. It's breaking my heart seeing her so upset at the idea of going, and I can't stand another 11 months of this before she goes to school! But I also don't want to pull her out and put her in a new setting for it to still happen?
Her nana is still in the hospice so this may all still be affecting her. But if that's the case, how do I help her? :(
 
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Hi everyone! I’ve never posted here before but have read all your posts and the advice you all give out is so helpful, I’m just looking for a bit of advice and was wondering if any of you lovely lady’s could help.

So I have a 3 year old son, he’s autistic and non verbal and really limited understanding. He is currently still in nappies and can not tell me when he has filled them so I am really trying to start toilet training. I’m just wondering if anyone knows the best way to go about this with a child like mine? I’ve ordered a little potty training pack with stickers and stuff in his favourite characters, I’ve got a potty and a seat and steps for the toilet and I’ve got him little underpants too. I just don’t know where to start when I know he might not be able to understand 😢

Thank you for reading 🩷
 
Hi everyone! I’ve never posted here before but have read all your posts and the advice you all give out is so helpful, I’m just looking for a bit of advice and was wondering if any of you lovely lady’s could help.

So I have a 3 year old son, he’s autistic and non verbal and really limited understanding. He is currently still in nappies and can not tell me when he has filled them so I am really trying to start toilet training. I’m just wondering if anyone knows the best way to go about this with a child like mine? I’ve ordered a little potty training pack with stickers and stuff in his favourite characters, I’ve got a potty and a seat and steps for the toilet and I’ve got him little underpants too. I just don’t know where to start when I know he might not be able to understand 😢

Thank you for reading 🩷
I don't have much advice personally but Autism Speaks have a few bits/helpful advice regarding toilet training 😊
May be worth a look there! 😊
 
Hi everyone :)

A few weeks ago I posted about my daughter not eating at childminder etc. Well unfortunately we are still in the same boat, if not WORSE :(

She still doesn't eat all day there, yet when I pick her up she is ravenous and eats her lunchbox in the car! Someone asked previously if she had had a choking incident and she did, but this was months ago. It did affect her and she wouldn't eat properly for a few days, but then she went back to normal and ate there fine over the summer months. Now she's refusing to eat there again. She does have sore throats a lot (we have a pending ENT referral) but she eats fine at home still, almost back to normal.
She's been going to this childminder for 18 months, and suddenly in the last 2/3 weeks she's been SCREAMING and crying at drop off and it apparently lasts most of the day. On the days she doesn't go, she constantly talks about not wanting to go back, she spends the weekend begging me not to send her. When I ask her why, she just says she doesn't want to see the lady who runs it or see her friends. Yet when I suggested a playdate with her best friend from there, she got so excited and keeps asking me when the playdate is.

I just don't know what to do. It's breaking my heart seeing her so upset at the idea of going, and I can't stand another 11 months of this before she goes to school! But I also don't want to pull her out and put her in a new setting for it to still happen?
Her nana is still in the hospice so this may all still be affecting her. But if that's the case, how do I help her? :(
Personally I would be moving her asap. Whatever the issue is there, it is clearly affecting her if she’s worrying about it when not there. You won’t know if it will be any better but it’s worth a try. I know how tough it is when your child struggles with their childcare setting. It really takes a toll on you both. I did move mine and it was the best decision I ever made.
 
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This might be a niche situation but wondering if anyone else really struggled with owning a dog after their toddler hit the 2 year mark? My little one is 2 next month and we have an 18 month old Vizlsa and the two of them together are incredibly hard work. Getting out the door for a walk takes about 20 minutes, toddler loses his mind being in the pram for 2 long so road walks are difficult, especially as still trying to train the dog to walk nicely. Off lead walks are out the window unless he’s in childcare as he has to pick up every rock and stick and moves so slowly, and then the dog gets bored and runs off, becomes very stressful. Throw in another pregnancy, I’m really starting to worry about how I will cope with 2 children and a high energy dog. Not sure if it’s hormones making me feel like this but starting to really struggle! Just wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation and how they managed. We already have help with a dog walker but the cost of that really does add up, and I take on most of it as husband works long long hours.
 
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This might be a niche situation but wondering if anyone else really struggled with owning a dog after their toddler hit the 2 year mark? My little one is 2 next month and we have an 18 month old Vizlsa and the two of them together are incredibly hard work. Getting out the door for a walk takes about 20 minutes, toddler loses his mind being in the pram for 2 long so road walks are difficult, especially as still trying to train the dog to walk nicely. Off lead walks are out the window unless he’s in childcare as he has to pick up every rock and stick and moves so slowly, and then the dog gets bored and runs off, becomes very stressful. Throw in another pregnancy, I’m really starting to worry about how I will cope with 2 children and a high energy dog. Not sure if it’s hormones making me feel like this but starting to really struggle! Just wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation and how they managed. We already have help with a dog walker but the cost of that really does add up, and I take on most of it as husband works long long hours.
Yep!!! Literally exact the same here, we have a toddler, 2 spaniels and I’m pregnant. Road walks are stressful with the pram/walking toddler, plus the dogs don’t actually get a lot out of them, so I take them to a huge field with a tennis racket and tennis balls, lob the balls for the dogs, or let them go sniff (to be fair their recall is good and the field is quiet so no danger of them running off), then the toddler can potter around at her own pace. Alternatively if she’s napping in the car I reverse the car to the back of the field, sit in the boot and lob the balls from there. Some days we don’t get out so me/OH road walk them so they’ve had something and on the weekend we try and get them out for a proper walk and sniff without the toddler too. It’s actually really tough haha, they’re much harder work than the toddler for sure! Hoping once she has a bike or something it’ll get a little easier
 
This might be a niche situation but wondering if anyone else really struggled with owning a dog after their toddler hit the 2 year mark? My little one is 2 next month and we have an 18 month old Vizlsa and the two of them together are incredibly hard work. Getting out the door for a walk takes about 20 minutes, toddler loses his mind being in the pram for 2 long so road walks are difficult, especially as still trying to train the dog to walk nicely. Off lead walks are out the window unless he’s in childcare as he has to pick up every rock and stick and moves so slowly, and then the dog gets bored and runs off, becomes very stressful. Throw in another pregnancy, I’m really starting to worry about how I will cope with 2 children and a high energy dog. Not sure if it’s hormones making me feel like this but starting to really struggle! Just wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation and how they managed. We already have help with a dog walker but the cost of that really does add up, and I take on most of it as husband works long long hours.
Yes! We had two dogs when our eldest was born, and over the 10 years until the second was put down in January, we found it very hard to meet everyone’s needs. Dog walks were done by one adult twice a day (or once as the dogs got old) because it was just not easy doing it with toddlers and young kids. The kids even at 5/6 couldn’t walk far enough for a “proper” dog walk - we had labs so they needed a good few miles.
We did our best, and tbh it was mostly taken on by my husband who would walk them every night after the kids were in bed (and in the morning too when I used to work). Not ideal, but the best we could do.
I wouldn’t get another dog while we still have young kids. We just can’t meet everyone’s needs properly.
 
Hi everyone! I’ve never posted here before but have read all your posts and the advice you all give out is so helpful, I’m just looking for a bit of advice and was wondering if any of you lovely lady’s could help.

So I have a 3 year old son, he’s autistic and non verbal and really limited understanding. He is currently still in nappies and can not tell me when he has filled them so I am really trying to start toilet training. I’m just wondering if anyone knows the best way to go about this with a child like mine? I’ve ordered a little potty training pack with stickers and stuff in his favourite characters, I’ve got a potty and a seat and steps for the toilet and I’ve got him little underpants too. I just don’t know where to start when I know he might not be able to understand 😢

Thank you for reading 🩷
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Hi everyone! I’ve never posted here before but have read all your posts and the advice you all give out is so helpful, I’m just looking for a bit of advice and was wondering if any of you lovely lady’s could help.

So I have a 3 year old son, he’s autistic and non verbal and really limited understanding. He is currently still in nappies and can not tell me when he has filled them so I am really trying to start toilet training. I’m just wondering if anyone knows the best way to go about this with a child like mine? I’ve ordered a little potty training pack with stickers and stuff in his favourite characters, I’ve got a potty and a seat and steps for the toilet and I’ve got him little underpants too. I just don’t know where to start when I know he might not be able to understand 😢

Thank you for reading 🩷
Hello, I don’t have any direct experience but i recommend looking into a neurodiverse specific approach . My sister has a boy with Down’s syndrome and it is a slower process for sure. But like any child patience from the parent is probably one of the biggest tips. Sorry I can’t be more help
 
Is anyone else viewing schools at the moment? Feel like I tour one school really like it but then go to another and it confuses my head. Think the school I prefer is out of catchment and over subscribed so realistically think we’ve prob got no chance. I guess I need to be positive about my daughter attending our catchment school, there were bits I loved about it, which appears under subscribed so a very good chance she will be going there.
 
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Is anyone else viewing schools at the moment? Feel like I tour one school really like it but then go to another and it confuses my head. Think the school I prefer is out of catchment and over subscribed so realistically think we’ve prob got no chance. I guess I need to be positive about my daughter attending our catchment school, there were bits I loved about it, which appears under subscribed so a very good chance she will be going there.
Viewing primary and secondary schools with my eldest was honestly the most stressful thing ever 😂 we moved when she started secondary, which was also when my son started primary, but I knew the school and we were in catchment so we didn’t view it. The younger ones will all follow suit with him
 
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Any ideas what to give a 2year old for breakfast, I currently alternate between cereal, fruit and toast with a pan au chocolate to keep her going before hand
 
Any ideas what to give a 2year old for breakfast, I currently alternate between cereal, fruit and toast with a pan au chocolate to keep her going before hand
Pancakes... porridge... fried egg/scrambled egg on toast. Omlette. Baked oats
 
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Any ideas what to give a 2year old for breakfast, I currently alternate between cereal, fruit and toast with a pan au chocolate to keep her going before hand
Our go to breakfast are:
Pancakes
French toast
Porridge
Cereal
Toast
Croissants
Scrambled egg and toast

There is always fruit with it, and then whatever toppings they like for the various bits. If it’s toast there is usually yoghurt as well
 
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Mine will only eat porridge 🤦‍♀️ he generally eats ok ish but isn’t great at trying new things (guess this is normal) how do I try and expand his diet - is it best to focus on say a couple of new foods and offer them all the time or just be a bit more relaxed / normal and just offer a range of stuff eg fruit with breakfast, different veg at dinner etc. he just refuses so much and won’t even try stuff. Snacks are difficult as he gets hungry but I don’t want to give him crisps and biscuits all day obviously !

Would you just offer different things and if he refuses leave it and wait to offer something again at next meal / snack?

I don’t want him going hungry but I know it’s unlikely he’d allow himself to starve !
 
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Mine will only eat porridge 🤦‍♀️ he generally eats ok ish but isn’t great at trying new things (guess this is normal) how do I try and expand his diet - is it best to focus on say a couple of new foods and offer them all the time or just be a bit more relaxed / normal and just offer a range of stuff eg fruit with breakfast, different veg at dinner etc. he just refuses so much and won’t even try stuff. Snacks are difficult as he gets hungry but I don’t want to give him crisps and biscuits all day obviously !

Would you just offer different things and if he refuses leave it and wait to offer something again at next meal / snack?

I don’t want him going hungry but I know it’s unlikely he’d allow himself to starve !
The was I work is to always offer something he likes, and then you can offer new or non-preferred foods alongside it.
So if he likes porridge, serve him porridge with fruit. If he likes crisps, serve a small portion of crisps with yoghurt and some grapes for example.
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Also porridge is a fab thing to eat! I add a generous amount of this in to ours for an added kick of nutrients, and some of mine like it with peanut butter. I also add this in to our pancake mix as well.
 
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Currently pregnant with baby number 2. For those with two or more kiddos did you buy a present from baby for your other kiddos?

Also, wee man will be almost 3. We need to figure out a new travel system for new wee one as we lost some bits from the one we bought for wee man. Can anyone recommend something that would be suitable for both a newborn and almost 3 year old please?
 
Currently pregnant with baby number 2. For those with two or more kiddos did you buy a present from baby for your other kiddos?

Also, wee man will be almost 3. We need to figure out a new travel system for new wee one as we lost some bits from the one we bought for wee man. Can anyone recommend something that would be suitable for both a newborn and almost 3 year old please?
Present wise we did with our second for our eldest, but tbh she wasn’t really fussed at all. So we never did it again with the others. People always bring them bits and bobs when they visit so they end up with loads anyway.
 
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Currently pregnant with baby number 2. For those with two or more kiddos did you buy a present from baby for your other kiddos?

Also, wee man will be almost 3. We need to figure out a new travel system for new wee one as we lost some bits from the one we bought for wee man. Can anyone recommend something that would be suitable for both a newborn and almost 3 year old please?
We had a very similar age gap, she'd just turned 3. We got a buggy board for the pushchair instead. Would that be a better option than spending out on a double?
Although she only used it a couple of times really, walked the rest
 
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