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I know it’s hard not to though. Especially when there is 2 year olds who’ve managed it at nursery. But I think he’ll be ok I’ve got the may half term off as well so can try then if we’re still in them. I’ll be glad when I don’t have to buy them tho anymore. He’s in pampers cos I can’t get any other size 8s and I want to cry each week at the price 🙈
Tesco do size 8 and aldi do "nighttime" pants for older kids which are exactly the same as normal pull ups
 
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Controversial question now.
Is 2 years old young to be potty trained? He turned 2 on Saturday and the last few days he’s really mastered the potty, he’s only had one accident and that was when we were out.
I just acted on the signs he was showing me and now I’m worrying it’s early.
My Nan made a sarky comment saying ‘wow he’s young to be doing that’
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I’m slightly smug because he was a premature baby, he was always later than any other baby the same age and my neice was born 4 days before he was and she has done EVERYTHING first, and this is the only thing hes done before her so I’m slightly smug deep down 🤣🤣
Not too early at all, all my older 3 potty trained between 2y 1month and 2y 3 months. I also am surprised at your nan, usually older people think potty training should be done younger as it used to be in “the olden days”.
And I enjoy your smugness 🤣 that’s absolutely how I’d feel too!!

We still have my almost 2yo to go with potty training so I am sure all our best laid plans with the older 3 will not apply and he will be a law unto himself.
 
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Not too early at all, all my older 3 potty trained between 2y 1month and 2y 3 months. I also am surprised at your nan, usually older people think potty training should be done younger as it used to be in “the olden days”.
And I enjoy your smugness 🤣 that’s absolutely how I’d feel too!!

We still have my almost 2yo to go with potty training so I am sure all our best laid plans with the older 3 will not apply and he will be a law unto himself.
It just feels like an amazing accomplishment for everyone involved doesn’t it. I heard so many horror stories about it and was dreading it but he managed to get the hang of it pretty quickly so I’m really surprised tbh!
It’s an awesome feeling when things go well in parenting 😍😍😍
 
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It just feels like an amazing accomplishment for everyone involved doesn’t it. I heard so many horror stories about it and was dreading it but he managed to get the hang of it pretty quickly so I’m really surprised tbh!
It’s an awesome feeling when things go well in parenting 😍😍😍
Enjoy the feeling!
My third was like him, I went to the supermarket one morning and when I got back my husband said “oh she uses the toilet now” and that was that 🤣 some of the just get it, and want to do it, and it’s great!
 
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I feel like I'm always in here complaining about sleep but I'm at my wits end and don't know what to do 😭
So we've gone from waking once or twice a night, which I thought was probably nightmares, to waking every hour - honestly it's worse than when she was a newborn. It's like she wakes up, realises she's alone and just runs to her gate hysterical. We get no time alone in the evenings now as one of us has to go and calm her down constantly and I'm just beside myself. It's really getting me down. I just don't know how to deal with it, when she was a baby I would let her just cry it out, but that's harder to do now she's in a bed 😭
 
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I feel like I'm always in here complaining about sleep but I'm at my wits end and don't know what to do 😭
So we've gone from waking once or twice a night, which I thought was probably nightmares, to waking every hour - honestly it's worse than when she was a newborn. It's like she wakes up, realises she's alone and just runs to her gate hysterical. We get no time alone in the evenings now as one of us has to go and calm her down constantly and I'm just beside myself. It's really getting me down. I just don't know how to deal with it, when she was a baby I would let her just cry it out, but that's harder to do now she's in a bed 😭
How do you do bedtime?
Are you there until she falls asleep?
 
My 3yo has suddenly started with the nightmares again. She woke up about an hour after she’d gone to sleep last night hysterically crying, I don’t think she even woke up when I went into her because I had to pick her up and cuddle her to calm her. She still has her Ollie owl she’s had since a baby so I turned that light on and lullaby and then she laid back down and was asleep again.

It’s having a knock on effect in the day, she’s so moody, everything is no and she’s always been a mummy’s girl but now she’s even more clingy. I’m trying to be understanding because she’s obviously going through something but she’s hard work at the moment.

She also had her first ever time out with her child minder this week for snatching toys and shouting at the childminder when she tried to discuss it. Then the mum guilt starts because I’m thinking she doesn’t know how to share as an only child and how I’d love to give her a sibling but not financially an option for us. Sorry gone off on a bit of a long rant there 😬
 
My 3yo has suddenly started with the nightmares again. She woke up about an hour after she’d gone to sleep last night hysterically crying, I don’t think she even woke up when I went into her because I had to pick her up and cuddle her to calm her. She still has her Ollie owl she’s had since a baby so I turned that light on and lullaby and then she laid back down and was asleep again.

It’s having a knock on effect in the day, she’s so moody, everything is no and she’s always been a mummy’s girl but now she’s even more clingy. I’m trying to be understanding because she’s obviously going through something but she’s hard work at the moment.

She also had her first ever time out with her child minder this week for snatching toys and shouting at the childminder when she tried to discuss it. Then the mum guilt starts because I’m thinking she doesn’t know how to share as an only child and how I’d love to give her a sibling but not financially an option for us. Sorry gone off on a bit of a long rant there 😬
Children don't learn/understand about sharing properly until 3 and a half/4 years old.
A lot of children are an only child until that age. My oldest was an only child until he was 5.
My 5 year old still snatches at times and she's got 2 siblings.
Certainly nothing to feel guilty about.
I would also imagine the time out was more so for the shouting too rather than the snatching.

Can you get her a night light that's on constantly?
 
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I'm sure I read in a Sarah Ockenwell-Smith book that children truly don't understand sharing or have the same empathy adults do until they're at least 5/6. Personally I wouldn't say that's across the board as my 5yo has always been quite empathetic towards others. But I'd agree with the sharing. To be honest I know some adults that are rubbish at that too!

Just spent an hour wrestling the 2yo down for a nap. He's not quite ready to drop a nap yet but he still needs one especially if he hasn't napped on days with the childminder. But he was very grumpy about it this morning - screaming, kicking, throwing his sleeping bag about. Ended up crying himself to sleep. One of those times that makes you feel a great parent, you know 😞 Hiding in my bedroom now having a little cry as I feel like utter crap right now.
 
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Mine has just gone to bed now he’s been up since 4 am. I just hope he bloody sleeps through tonight. He’s had a full day at nursery and they’ve done some outdoor activities this afternoon so he should be tired
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I feel like I'm always in here complaining about sleep but I'm at my wits end and don't know what to do 😭
So we've gone from waking once or twice a night, which I thought was probably nightmares, to waking every hour - honestly it's worse than when she was a newborn. It's like she wakes up, realises she's alone and just runs to her gate hysterical. We get no time alone in the evenings now as one of us has to go and calm her down constantly and I'm just beside myself. It's really getting me down. I just don't know how to deal with it, when she was a baby I would let her just cry it out, but that's harder to do now she's in a bed 😭
Mine can be like this. Hence why he sleeps in my bed. He started at 10 months screaming crying and wouldn’t be alone. Even now if he gets up in a morning and I’m downstairs he gets really upset. Panicky and crying it’s horrible
I don’t really have any advice other than you probably will have to sit with her. Mine used to wake up once every few hours If I was downstairs in the evening and I’d just go up lie with him and sneak out when he was down again. Some just don’t like being alone I’m afraid and just want comfort. She won’t do it forever
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I'm sure I read in a Sarah Ockenwell-Smith book that children truly don't understand sharing or have the same empathy adults do until they're at least 5/6. Personally I wouldn't say that's across the board as my 5yo has always been quite empathetic towards others. But I'd agree with the sharing. To be honest I know some adults that are rubbish at that too!

Just spent an hour wrestling the 2yo down for a nap. He's not quite ready to drop a nap yet but he still needs one especially if he hasn't napped on days with the childminder. But he was very grumpy about it this morning - screaming, kicking, throwing his sleeping bag about. Ended up crying himself to sleep. One of those times that makes you feel a great parent, you know 😞 Hiding in my bedroom now having a little cry as I feel like utter crap right now.
I’m no professional but I would say a two year old wouldn’t need a nap at 1045? Or whatever time it was you started. Maybe that’s why you had to wrestle. I’d try a nap after lunch 12-45 until 2? Something like that.
 
I'm sure I read in a Sarah Ockenwell-Smith book that children truly don't understand sharing or have the same empathy adults do until they're at least 5/6. Personally I wouldn't say that's across the board as my 5yo has always been quite empathetic towards others. But I'd agree with the sharing. To be honest I know some adults that are rubbish at that too!

Just spent an hour wrestling the 2yo down for a nap. He's not quite ready to drop a nap yet but he still needs one especially if he hasn't napped on days with the childminder. But he was very grumpy about it this morning - screaming, kicking, throwing his sleeping bag about. Ended up crying himself to sleep. One of those times that makes you feel a great parent, you know 😞 Hiding in my bedroom now having a little cry as I feel like utter crap right now.
I agree with Stawberry! My then 2 year old had a nap from 12-2pm then when she kept waking up at 5am is was time to cut the nap down so eventually she was on 1 hour and in summer it was gone x
 
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I agree with Stawberry! My then 2 year old had a nap from 12-2pm then when she kept waking up at 5am is was time to cut the nap down so eventually she was on 1 hour and in summer it was gone x
Mine used to nap 1ish!! Mine was similar to that also he cut his nap down when he started doing full days at nursery ages ago.
I’m praying for a good night sleep tonight.
 
So glad to see people on this thread with 3+ kids who aren’t potty trained yet. When mine was about 3, her nursery said they didn’t think she was ready. She’ll happily sit on the toilet/potty but doesn’t actually do anything. The annoying thing is she says she has and I’m like no, there’s nothing in the bowl! I think she tells me she needs a wee once she’s already done one. Will try properly when the weather gets a bit warmer 🤦‍♀️
 
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@strawberrysunshine_x Sorry I didn't see your reply until I saw @al255 's reply if that makes sense.

Fridays are the only days he gets a proper nap in his cot and sometimes he plays catch up for the days he doesn't nap or just has a 20 minute snooze in the car. He's also frequently awake at 5.30-6am and usually very keen to go for a nap at 10.30am on Fridays. But perhaps today I mis-read the signals today and will try taking him for a later nap next week.

A nap ending at 2pm would be a bit dicey as I've got the school run at 2.30-3.30. Doing that with a grumpy toddler is definitely not fun!
 
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@strawberrysunshine_x Sorry I didn't see your reply until I saw @al255 's reply if that makes sense.

Fridays are the only days he gets a proper nap in his cot and sometimes he plays catch up for the days he doesn't nap or just has a 20 minute snooze in the car. He's also frequently awake at 5.30-6am and usually very keen to go for a nap at 10.30am on Fridays. But perhaps today I mis-read the signals today and will try taking him for a later nap next week.

A nap ending at 2pm would be a bit dicey as I've got the school run at 2.30-3.30. Doing that with a grumpy toddler is definitely not fun!
It’s so hard isn’t it trying to decide whats best for them. Especially when they are grumpy. Does he not get chance to nap properly during the week. Try nap for 1130 see how that goes.
 
Really struggling with my 3.5 year old and her behaviour. It’s just the two of us at home and she attends nursery full time 4 days a week (and has done since she was 10 months).

She doesn’t listen to me. At all. It’s like I’m not in the room. Ignores everything I say. Lashes out if she can’t get her own way. A few moments ago she put a cat toy on my leg and the cat immediately jumped on my legs with his claws out, she does this all the time knowing what the cat will do. She throws things and hits me during these rages too. I don’t get where she’s learning it, I monitor her screen time, I tend to follow a gentle parenting style (where possible). I don’t know how to stop the meltdown/rage episodes once they start. It’s getting where I’m scared to take her anywhere through fear of it happening in public😭
 
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