If they’re no longer stretching,presumably that means the term time bills should go down? As it was 22 hours or thereabouts stretched and now it’s 30. Appreciate this may not be likely but could you save the difference between what you were paying when it was stretched and what you’re paying during term time now and then use that to top up the shortfall in the holidays? It might not help a lot but maybe will give you a little stash to help a bit
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They make the 30 hours so complicated and the whole UC payment paid in arrears, which I believe they are changing?
Can you speak to the nursery and ask if you can come up with a payment plan? I know people have done this before. Or can you get an advance from UC?
They are term time only but when they stretch them, it equals to about 22 hours a week, not 30.
Where as now they're not stretching them, your normal monthly bills should be going down as those free hours will be split back across the rest of the term time
If she’s settled there, I would put extra money into your government childcare account during the months where you can claim the 30 funded hours and then use this in the summer months. Eg work out how much it would’ve been per week with stretched hours, deposit that into the childcare account so it’s a regular amount you can factor in, then by the time the summer comes around there will be surplus.Not sure if this is the right thread but figured we are all parents and would love others opinions.
I work full time (single/lone/sole parent), and my daughters nursery have just upped their daily prices by £9. They claim to have rang other nurseries in the area and matched them. It's now £62 per day.
I claim the 30 free hours for my daughter, and my monthly bill (sometimes it's a 5 weekly bill) is usually around £495, with the 30 hours taken into account.
However the nursery no longer stretch the funded hours through the summer holidays, meaning my July/August bill is going to be huge. Last year wasn't too bad as it was prior to this huge increase (well, still a shocking amount to pay!!), but this year it's going to be £1,180. She will start school in September 2024 so I still have another 18 months of this. She has been at this nursery since December 2021, prior to that I was part time and she went to a local childminder.
My question to you all is: Would you move her to a nursery where they stretch the hours, allowing me to keep costs lower all year? She is very settled where she is and has so many friends, plus a great bond with staff members. But I simply do not know how I will afford these summer bills. It may seem easy for some to save for, but for me on just my wage and very little UC, it will cripple me.
I am so stuck on what to do
Having said that - we had to move my daughters childcare twice in one year, once because we moved house and the next time because we weren’t happy with the provision. At each place she was happy and had friends yet at each new place has settled quickly and made friends again. So if this is significantly going to impact your ability to pay for childcare, then moving your child isn’t the end of the world. They will make friends again
Sunday and Mondays bedtimes were terrible!! 815 he went to sleep last night. Kicking off and just wouldn’t stay in bed
He’s asleep now
& no complaints … bloody clocks !!!
He’s asleep now
& no complaints … bloody clocks !!!Since my 3 y/o had her flu nasal spray in October she’s hardly been as cough/cold/chest type bugs from nursery .. the nurse who did it told me it can help them not pick up as many colds (not sure how true it is..) but she seems to have less!Another cough/cold for little miss. When the duck does it end
Thanks everyone for the advice re the duvet. Second fleece PJs from Primark. Both of my kids run hot so we tend to use those when we're having a PJ day at home or swap them at bedtime.
Cot bed duvet ordered and hopefully arriving by the end of this week. Thankfully the kids' bedroom tends to stay about 18-20C as we're in a new build. And Mini Biscuit is wearing warmer PJs
Cot bed duvet ordered and hopefully arriving by the end of this week. Thankfully the kids' bedroom tends to stay about 18-20C as we're in a new build. And Mini Biscuit is wearing warmer PJs
The arrears UC thing is only for those who need childcare costs from the first month to help them get back into work x
Of course it is
they can’t make anything helpful, can they. Hopefully they still to their word over the new childcare stuff xHad a little parents meeting with nursery yesterday, expected to be in and out in 15 minutes, that it just would be a general update as all parents are getting them. Ended up being an hour and the headteacher saying that though they love having my little boy, he’s very bright and has lovely manners, they have concerns about his ability to concentrate and follow instructions and to regulate and manage his emotions. They’re putting a support plan in place to hopefully help him and she mentioned getting my HV involved to do a learning assessment??
To be honest I was completely blindsided, they always say at collection each day that’s he’s had a great day, any minor issues are spoken about. I’m in panic mode now and terrified something is wrong. But the boy they describe - can’t concentrate, can’t listen to instructions, struggles to manage his emotions - isn’t the boy I recognise from home. He is well behaved with me, listens to instructions out in public, will stay with me and hold my hand etc. We play together at home, jigsaws, read books, play cars and dinosaurs etc. Ok his attention span is a bit short but he’s only 3 and a half. And he is high energy and likes to be active but not hyperactive. He sometimes can be a bit dramatic with his feelings, but again what toddler isn’t?
I’m just imagining the worst and feel so upset about it all. I know it’s good the nursery is giving him extra support and maybe it won’t come to anything but I’m just heartbroken atm
To be honest I was completely blindsided, they always say at collection each day that’s he’s had a great day, any minor issues are spoken about. I’m in panic mode now and terrified something is wrong. But the boy they describe - can’t concentrate, can’t listen to instructions, struggles to manage his emotions - isn’t the boy I recognise from home. He is well behaved with me, listens to instructions out in public, will stay with me and hold my hand etc. We play together at home, jigsaws, read books, play cars and dinosaurs etc. Ok his attention span is a bit short but he’s only 3 and a half. And he is high energy and likes to be active but not hyperactive. He sometimes can be a bit dramatic with his feelings, but again what toddler isn’t?
I’m just imagining the worst and feel so upset about it all. I know it’s good the nursery is giving him extra support and maybe it won’t come to anything but I’m just heartbroken atm
How long has he been going to the nursery? This was my experience with my three year old who sounds exactly the same. She started in sept for two afternoons a week and refused to do anything like go to the toilet or wash hands. I’d pick her up and would get feedback, she was hitting, and got little comments about how cross she’d get. We had a meeting and I filled out a questionnaire at home and they did for while she was there and they were completely different. We parked any support as I had a baby in January but actually after Christmas break she went back and has been completely fine and more like the child she is at home. So really it sorted itself.
Can you have another meeting and say you don’t feel it’s necessary just yet as he is completely different at home and if YOU, his MOTHER!! Had any concerns you’d be straight to tell them and get some support. XxHad a little parents meeting with nursery yesterday, expected to be in and out in 15 minutes, that it just would be a general update as all parents are getting them. Ended up being an hour and the headteacher saying that though they love having my little boy, he’s very bright and has lovely manners, they have concerns about his ability to concentrate and follow instructions and to regulate and manage his emotions. They’re putting a support plan in place to hopefully help him and she mentioned getting my HV involved to do a learning assessment??
To be honest I was completely blindsided, they always say at collection each day that’s he’s had a great day, any minor issues are spoken about. I’m in panic mode now and terrified something is wrong. But the boy they describe - can’t concentrate, can’t listen to instructions, struggles to manage his emotions - isn’t the boy I recognise from home. He is well behaved with me, listens to instructions out in public, will stay with me and hold my hand etc. We play together at home, jigsaws, read books, play cars and dinosaurs etc. Ok his attention span is a bit short but he’s only 3 and a half. And he is high energy and likes to be active but not hyperactive. He sometimes can be a bit dramatic with his feelings, but again what toddler isn’t?
I’m just imagining the worst and feel so upset about it all. I know it’s good the nursery is giving him extra support and maybe it won’t come to anything but I’m just heartbroken atm
What do you mean imagining the worst? It seems like they just want to see if he needs a little extra help and maybe some one-to-one targeted support by the sounds of it.Had a little parents meeting with nursery yesterday, expected to be in and out in 15 minutes, that it just would be a general update as all parents are getting them. Ended up being an hour and the headteacher saying that though they love having my little boy, he’s very bright and has lovely manners, they have concerns about his ability to concentrate and follow instructions and to regulate and manage his emotions. They’re putting a support plan in place to hopefully help him and she mentioned getting my HV involved to do a learning assessment??
To be honest I was completely blindsided, they always say at collection each day that’s he’s had a great day, any minor issues are spoken about. I’m in panic mode now and terrified something is wrong. But the boy they describe - can’t concentrate, can’t listen to instructions, struggles to manage his emotions - isn’t the boy I recognise from home. He is well behaved with me, listens to instructions out in public, will stay with me and hold my hand etc. We play together at home, jigsaws, read books, play cars and dinosaurs etc. Ok his attention span is a bit short but he’s only 3 and a half. And he is high energy and likes to be active but not hyperactive. He sometimes can be a bit dramatic with his feelings, but again what toddler isn’t?
I’m just imagining the worst and feel so upset about it all. I know it’s good the nursery is giving him extra support and maybe it won’t come to anything but I’m just heartbroken atm
My son has difficulty concentrating, doesn’t always listen to instructions and struggles to manage his emotions at nursery too. He is also like that at home to a degree, but obviously nursery is more structured and they have to do certain things at certain times which some kids can struggle with. Since my son has been supported by the SEN team at nursery he has made big improvements in all areas. I don’t think it’s the anything to panic about.
There's nothing to worry about. It doesn't change who he is, it doesn't change anything apart from he can get support at nursery if he needs it. Nursery and home are very very different environments.Had a little parents meeting with nursery yesterday, expected to be in and out in 15 minutes, that it just would be a general update as all parents are getting them. Ended up being an hour and the headteacher saying that though they love having my little boy, he’s very bright and has lovely manners, they have concerns about his ability to concentrate and follow instructions and to regulate and manage his emotions. They’re putting a support plan in place to hopefully help him and she mentioned getting my HV involved to do a learning assessment??
To be honest I was completely blindsided, they always say at collection each day that’s he’s had a great day, any minor issues are spoken about. I’m in panic mode now and terrified something is wrong. But the boy they describe - can’t concentrate, can’t listen to instructions, struggles to manage his emotions - isn’t the boy I recognise from home. He is well behaved with me, listens to instructions out in public, will stay with me and hold my hand etc. We play together at home, jigsaws, read books, play cars and dinosaurs etc. Ok his attention span is a bit short but he’s only 3 and a half. And he is high energy and likes to be active but not hyperactive. He sometimes can be a bit dramatic with his feelings, but again what toddler isn’t?
I’m just imagining the worst and feel so upset about it all. I know it’s good the nursery is giving him extra support and maybe it won’t come to anything but I’m just heartbroken atm
I'm pretty sure my 5 year old is mildly autistic and we believe also has adhd. It doesn't change who she is. That's just her. If we can get her support of she needs it, that's all I care about
You really don’t need to be heartbroken. My little boy is similar to this and they took me in for a meeting and told me they think he has additional needs ( not saying yours does btw) but it’s a good thing they are wanting to help and a support plan is also a really good thing to have. It’ll help him a lot. Some kids just need extra support when they are away from home.Had a little parents meeting with nursery yesterday, expected to be in and out in 15 minutes, that it just would be a general update as all parents are getting them. Ended up being an hour and the headteacher saying that though they love having my little boy, he’s very bright and has lovely manners, they have concerns about his ability to concentrate and follow instructions and to regulate and manage his emotions. They’re putting a support plan in place to hopefully help him and she mentioned getting my HV involved to do a learning assessment??
To be honest I was completely blindsided, they always say at collection each day that’s he’s had a great day, any minor issues are spoken about. I’m in panic mode now and terrified something is wrong. But the boy they describe - can’t concentrate, can’t listen to instructions, struggles to manage his emotions - isn’t the boy I recognise from home. He is well behaved with me, listens to instructions out in public, will stay with me and hold my hand etc. We play together at home, jigsaws, read books, play cars and dinosaurs etc. Ok his attention span is a bit short but he’s only 3 and a half. And he is high energy and likes to be active but not hyperactive. He sometimes can be a bit dramatic with his feelings, but again what toddler isn’t?
I’m just imagining the worst and feel so upset about it all. I know it’s good the nursery is giving him extra support and maybe it won’t come to anything but I’m just heartbroken atm
Mine is being assessed for things at the min but we’re grateful for the help and want him to get all the help he needs from nursery. Similar to yours mine struggles with adults at nursery and also doesn’t like to sit still.
you really don’t need to be heartbroken. With the plan in place he will be able to get the help he needs and he will enjoy nursery.
I can understand you feeling blind sided as I was the same and I just thought he needed time to catch up so I was caught off guard. But it’s worked out well and he’s getting the help he needs. Absolutely nothing to be heartbroken about honey. He’ll be fine!! Some kids just need a bit of extra help please don’t be upset
remember all kids are different and do things at their own pace
She's had the flu spray and it's not made a difference - gutted!
On that note, she'll be 3 and 4 months next week, and I haven't heard anything about her preschool jabs. Should I have heard by now or do you think the process starts once she hits that age?
We didn't hear anything until she'd already got past that age.She's had the flu spray and it's not made a difference - gutted!
On that note, she'll be 3 and 4 months next week, and I haven't heard anything about her preschool jabs. Should I have heard by now or do you think the process starts once she hits that age?
I called about them and they said they don't send them out until they hit that age.
She's had the flu spray and it's not made a difference - gutted!
On that note, she'll be 3 and 4 months next week, and I haven't heard anything about her preschool jabs. Should I have heard by now or do you think the process starts once she hits that age?
I got this in an email from NHS start for life, maybe call your GP and they can advise when it’ll be scheduled?
A week before my son turned 3yrs and 4 months we got a text message from the GP asking us to call and book. Maybe give them a call if you haven’t heard anything by next week?She's had the flu spray and it's not made a difference - gutted!
On that note, she'll be 3 and 4 months next week, and I haven't heard anything about her preschool jabs. Should I have heard by now or do you think the process starts once she hits that age?
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