Thanks for all the replies. She’s only been going two months and I know it’s meant to take at least 6 months to settle so I am trying not to jump the gun. I know she is struggling with the idea of the new baby which is making it worse but I think there is something not right for her at the preschool.
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Sounds like you have a good gut instinct there, you just know if it’s not right for your child
I will mention that my son who had been going to daycare since he was 9 months old had a really hard time at drop off when I was pregnant and at the stage he had been going for over a year!
My daughter is 3 in Jan. she hates going to nursery at the moment, and she’s been going since she was 7 months 
nothings changed,m, she’s just super clingy at the moment and god forbid I’m not next to her she goes off on one. She’s also hating getting dressed / undressed. She doesn’t like any of it and she doesn’t want to wear clothes 
being a single mum is draining some days, especially this morning when she was up at 5:30am and she wouldn’t do anything I asked. She went to nursery with no socks & shoes on cos I gave up battling with her, I have to pin her down limb by limb and get her clothes on, and the same with brushing her teeth!
nothings changed,m, she’s just super clingy at the moment and god forbid I’m not next to her she goes off on one. She’s also hating getting dressed / undressed. She doesn’t like any of it and she doesn’t want to wear clothes being a single mum is draining some days, especially this morning when she was up at 5:30am and she wouldn’t do anything I asked. She went to nursery with no socks & shoes on cos I gave up battling with her, I have to pin her down limb by limb and get her clothes on, and the same with brushing her teeth!
I'd follow your instinct, however, I would say to either keep her there until after the baby is born, or try to get her in another before you have the baby.
Although, with not much time left, I'm sure that would be difficult.
Purely because if you take her out now, and then put her in when you've had the baby, a lot of kids don't react well to that. (from previous experience working in a nursery) because they know Mum is at home with the baby and they're missing out.
So they tend to be a bit more emotional even when they've been going for a while, nevermind adding in a new setting and new routine for them at the same time
Thank you, I’m going to see what’s said at the meeting then make a decision from there. I thought I’d done all the research and visited lots of preschools. They gave a big talk about child development and there are some lovely ladies there.I'd follow your instinct, however, I would say to either keep her there until after the baby is born, or try to get her in another before you have the baby.
Although, with not much time left, I'm sure that would be difficult.
Purely because if you take her out now, and then put her in when you've had the baby, a lot of kids don't react well to that. (from previous experience working in a nursery) because they know Mum is at home with the baby and they're missing out.
So they tend to be a bit more emotional even when they've been going for a while, nevermind adding in a new setting and new routine for them at the same time
I’m probably extra sensitive but some comments made at pick up recently have really annoyed me. One lady came out saying “she’s refusing to use the toilet, to wear her spare knickers, to wash her hands and oh doesn’t she get cross”. She’s three?! And if there are concerns why is knowing talking to me about it. The week before I had a phone call with her keyworker and she wasn’t majorly concerned. I guess they are now
A nursery can be the nicest looking one with the nicest people, outstanding rating but still might not be what's best for the childThank you, I’m going to see what’s said at the meeting then make a decision from there. I thought I’d done all the research and visited lots of preschools. They gave a big talk about child development and there are some lovely ladies there.
I’m probably extra sensitive but some comments made at pick up recently have really annoyed me. One lady came out saying “she’s refusing to use the toilet, to wear her spare knickers, to wash her hands and oh doesn’t she get cross”. She’s three?! And if there are concerns why is knowing talking to me about it. The week before I had a phone call with her keyworker and she wasn’t majorly concerned. I guess they are now
Some kids probably absolutely love it.
Same as if you were to change her over and she loves it, there will be others that don't.
I'd get annoyed with the comments too.
My partners Mum makes comments like that constantly and I hate it.
So I would definitley be getting annoyed!
So annoying isn’t it. Everyone expects little girls to be all smiles and sunshine for everyone, even strangers. Not my daughter her looks could killA nursery can be the nicest looking one with the nicest people, outstanding rating but still might not be what's best for the child
Some kids probably absolutely love it.
Same as if you were to change her over and she loves it, there will be others that don't.
I'd get annoyed with the comments too.
My partners Mum makes comments like that constantly and I hate it.
So I would definitley be getting annoyed!
So the 3yo is really poorly 
he was saying he had a sore ear on Friday and kept falling over, so I took him to the doctors and he was ‘fine’. I got the ‘If he gets worse come back’ so to me, that means there’s something there he just doesn’t want to give him anything. I can always tell when my kids are ill by their eyes, and every time I look at home I want to cry because he’s really not happy. He’s got a cough, snotty nose and his temp is very up and down without calpol/nurofen. I’ve just seen his tongue, and it is pure white, so don’t know whether to take him back up, but I know I’ll be fobbed off with viral. My sister said RSV is really high this year, and now I’m panicking as he had bronchiolitis when he was a couple of months old
he was saying he had a sore ear on Friday and kept falling over, so I took him to the doctors and he was ‘fine’. I got the ‘If he gets worse come back’ so to me, that means there’s something there he just doesn’t want to give him anything. I can always tell when my kids are ill by their eyes, and every time I look at home I want to cry because he’s really not happy. He’s got a cough, snotty nose and his temp is very up and down without calpol/nurofen. I’ve just seen his tongue, and it is pure white, so don’t know whether to take him back up, but I know I’ll be fobbed off with viral. My sister said RSV is really high this year, and now I’m panicking as he had bronchiolitis when he was a couple of months old 
Take him up. Not to worry you but babyGG was in A&E yesterday after being sent up by GP. He’s been diagnosed as having bronchiolitis, he’s come out in a massive viral rash all over his body which actually looks like I’ve scalded him with boiling water, temp without meds, very congested now with gunky eyes, but he also has the white tongue but the registrar we saw yesterday did say it very in line with what they’re seeing this year. Hope hes ok xSo the 3yo is really poorly
Thank you! I’ve checked his breathing and he isn’t sucking in his ribs, but I will definitely contact them. I might ask my mum to ask around the hospital as she works in one. Baby is ratty also and I feel he is getting a temp
xIf he's falling over, I'd say it's possibly an ear infection?Thank you! I’ve checked his breathing and he isn’t sucking in his ribs, but I will definitely contact them. I might ask my mum to ask around the hospital as she works in one. Baby is ratty also and I feel he is getting a temp
Fingers crossed it isn't nothing worse
That’s why I took him GP and he said his ear was clearIf he's falling over, I'd say it's possibly an ear infection?
Fingers crossed it isn't nothing worse
don’t take any chances and go and get him seen xxSo the 3yo is really poorly
I just need to rant! I’m fed up. I’m stressed!!!!
Mini A has been testing my patience so much. This morning she woke up and wouldn’t go on the potty or toilet for a wee, so her bladder was full. I picked her up and tried to get her to do a wee with me holding her but she said no. She refused to get dressed, again I had to pin her down. She wouldn’t come downstairs with me so I left her in the dark in my bedroom and said I’m going to make some breakfast and a drink if you want some with mummy come down. She said no. So I went downstairs and carried on, I then went back upstairs to check on her and she’d done a wee in my bed. So I made her help me strip the bottom sheet and she carried it to the washer with her wet knickers and trousers. I then put her on the naughty step and she sobbed! Then I had another battle with getting her dressed and then into the car, she cried going into nursery as well and at this point I was crying cos I was so angry/stressed/pissed off with it all. I just spent the first hour of my morning shouting at her and being annoyed cos she’s making it difficult. Taking her things away doesn’t help, she just says ok mummy and doesn’t get annoyed by them?! I took the iPad away and she said bye bye iPad. Didn’t care one bit. I’m fully aware it’s her age and her key worker even told me to bring her to nursery in her pjs and they’ll sort it.
The whole hour before work is so so stressful and it’s getting me upset as I am sick of going to work stressed out and upset cos of her behaviour. She’s the same for her dad, and my dad!
does anyone have any advice? I know it’s just a phase but I’m at the end of my teather and it’s even more difficult dealing with it on my own in a morning
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A&E was absolutely full of kids with either respiratory symptoms or ongoing D&V, so now I’m paranoid that once this eases up he’s going to end up with a sickness bug tooThank you! I’ve checked his breathing and he isn’t sucking in his ribs, but I will definitely contact them. I might ask my mum to ask around the hospital as she works in one. Baby is ratty also and I feel he is getting a temp
xI’m sorry I don’t have any advice as I’m going through the same thing. I did preschool drop off this afternoon and the worker had to carry her in and she was crying for me it was awful. I know this is the reality for lots of parents but this is the first time I’ve had to do that. The parent liaison officer is so lovely she took me in her office and made me a tea while I cried. We had a bit of a chat and she said there are concerns as there is so much refusal and they can’t find a way around it. She’s given me a questionnaire to do at home and they’re going to do one and see how it matches up and go from there as they think there could be some underlying sensory issues but I’m not sure about that.don’t take any chances and go and get him seen xx
I just need to rant! I’m fed up. I’m stressed!!!!
Mini A has been testing my patience so much. This morning she woke up and wouldn’t go on the potty or toilet for a wee, so her bladder was full. I picked her up and tried to get her to do a wee with me holding her but she said no. She refused to get dressed, again I had to pin her down. She wouldn’t come downstairs with me so I left her in the dark in my bedroom and said I’m going to make some breakfast and a drink if you want some with mummy come down. She said no. So I went downstairs and carried on, I then went back upstairs to check on her and she’d done a wee in my bed. So I made her help me strip the bottom sheet and she carried it to the washer with her wet knickers and trousers. I then put her on the naughty step and she sobbed! Then I had another battle with getting her dressed and then into the car, she cried going into nursery as well and at this point I was crying cos I was so angry/stressed/pissed off with it all. I just spent the first hour of my morning shouting at her and being annoyed cos she’s making it difficult. Taking her things away doesn’t help, she just says ok mummy and doesn’t get annoyed by them?! I took the iPad away and she said bye bye iPad. Didn’t care one bit. I’m fully aware it’s her age and her key worker even told me to bring her to nursery in her pjs and they’ll sort it.
The whole hour before work is so so stressful and it’s getting me upset as I am sick of going to work stressed out and upset cos of her behaviour. She’s the same for her dad, and my dad!
does anyone have any advice? I know it’s just a phase but I’m at the end of my teather and it’s even more difficult dealing with it on my own in a morning
Just wanted to say you aren’t alone and it’s really really hard
I’m so angry with my doctors. The 3yo has an ear infection. In the same ear he complained about on Friday, which prompted my visit on the same day. FOUR days he’s obviously been in pain with his ear. He has been so poorly 
Is this normal after potty training do they act out like thisdon’t take any chances and go and get him seen xx
I just need to rant! I’m fed up. I’m stressed!!!!
Mini A has been testing my patience so much. This morning she woke up and wouldn’t go on the potty or toilet for a wee, so her bladder was full. I picked her up and tried to get her to do a wee with me holding her but she said no. She refused to get dressed, again I had to pin her down. She wouldn’t come downstairs with me so I left her in the dark in my bedroom and said I’m going to make some breakfast and a drink if you want some with mummy come down. She said no. So I went downstairs and carried on, I then went back upstairs to check on her and she’d done a wee in my bed. So I made her help me strip the bottom sheet and she carried it to the washer with her wet knickers and trousers. I then put her on the naughty step and she sobbed! Then I had another battle with getting her dressed and then into the car, she cried going into nursery as well and at this point I was crying cos I was so angry/stressed/pissed off with it all. I just spent the first hour of my morning shouting at her and being annoyed cos she’s making it difficult. Taking her things away doesn’t help, she just says ok mummy and doesn’t get annoyed by them?! I took the iPad away and she said bye bye iPad. Didn’t care one bit. I’m fully aware it’s her age and her key worker even told me to bring her to nursery in her pjs and they’ll sort it.
The whole hour before work is so so stressful and it’s getting me upset as I am sick of going to work stressed out and upset cos of her behaviour. She’s the same for her dad, and my dad!
does anyone have any advice? I know it’s just a phase but I’m at the end of my teather and it’s even more difficult dealing with it on my own in a morning
. If so I’d rather mine stayed in nappies haha. Joking aside do nursery have any advice?? I know it’s so hard but try not to get wound up cos I don’t think it helps you at all I’d take nursery up on their offer for now and take her in pjs. Hope you’re ok. Kids are NOT easy are theyNursery just said it’s her age. Her key worker who we see both mornings told me to bring her to nursery in her pjs if she’s fighting to get dressed with me and they’ll do it. They all have kids and understand how hard it is! I’ve had a tit day. I just hate battling with her over stuff like this, there’s no rhyme or reason why she doesn’t want to get dressed! She’s the same for bedtime however tonight i didn’t look or speak to her whilst she was kicking off and I told her bath, teeth, pjs then tv and she can’t have the tv until it’s all done & if she battles she’s going on the naughty step.Is this normal after potty training do they act out like this
I’m just gunna get strict now. I have it in me
I’m just finding it hard atm!!!!! Every stage poses a new set of challenges 
I know nothing can prepare you for it either !!! Hope you’re ok and tomorrow is a better day. Mine does struggle when i try and get him dressed sometimes. But it doesn’t last long. and my fella said when he gets him ready for pre school ( I’m usually at work so he takes him) he runs off and he has to try loads. It is infuriating. They all do something to get to us don’t theyNursery just said it’s her age. Her key worker who we see both mornings told me to bring her to nursery in her pjs if she’s fighting to get dressed with me and they’ll do it. They all have kids and understand how hard it is! I’ve had a tit day. I just hate battling with her over stuff like this, there’s no rhyme or reason why she doesn’t want to get dressed! She’s the same for bedtime however tonight i didn’t look or speak to her whilst she was kicking off and I told her bath, teeth, pjs then tv and she can’t have the tv until it’s all done & if she battles she’s going on the naughty step.
I’m just gunna get strict now. I have it in me
.3yo's are such arseholes, honestly. Well, I think it actually started when she was about 2 and three quarters.
But she tries to make a fight out of everything, she told me this morning when she was refusing to brush her teeth "I get to choose what I do, I can do whatever I want all the time". I was like
I have no idea where this attitude has come from!
It's exhausting though when you feel like every moment is a battle and all you do is nag.
But she tries to make a fight out of everything, she told me this morning when she was refusing to brush her teeth "I get to choose what I do, I can do whatever I want all the time". I was like
I have no idea where this attitude has come from! It's exhausting though when you feel like every moment is a battle and all you do is nag.
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