Like @WhatABore said, it will be universal credits. However, if you are not entitled to this, there is the tax free childcare option, so for every £8 you put in, the gov put in £2. Saved us when my 6 year old was in preschool
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You may be able to get help with childcare costs f you are eligible for universal credit. It might be worth applying
Thank you ladies, I’m not eligible for UC but the tax free childcare may be something I can apply for. I’ll have a look when my daughter is in preschool tomorrow.
You should qualify for some free hours I think?
Hi everyone, just looking for advice from anyone who has been through similar.
My little boy is 2.5 and has been fully potty trained for 2 months now - he’s done amazing and I’m so proud of him, but there’s one issue - he will only go on the potty and not the toilet, he’s really scared of it.
At nursery today he had an accident as well as he couldn’t get to the potty on time, which I expected as this was his first day back since being potty trained but I’m nervous it’s going to make him regress.
Any advice on how to make him not scared of toilets will be much appreciated, haha!
My little boy is 2.5 and has been fully potty trained for 2 months now - he’s done amazing and I’m so proud of him, but there’s one issue - he will only go on the potty and not the toilet, he’s really scared of it.
At nursery today he had an accident as well as he couldn’t get to the potty on time, which I expected as this was his first day back since being potty trained but I’m nervous it’s going to make him regress.
Any advice on how to make him not scared of toilets will be much appreciated, haha!
My friend’s son only peed on a potty for a long time. They had to give the potty to Santa
toilets are very big, and the drop down in to them is scary for kids. Have you got a good sturdy toddler toilet seat for him?Oh bless, I may have to use that one this Christmas!! I do but he’s just adamant it’s potty or nothing, it’s so tough as I’m trying to be firm but I don’t want to scare him off it completely bless him. I even lift him on and hold him but he’s just so scared of it!My friend’s son only peed on a potty for a long time. They had to give the potty to Santa
Can he sit and watch you go to the toilet? Show him it’s not scary, if he’s afraid of it? Have you tried a different toilet seat? Not sure the one you have, but we have a ladder type one with handles x
Can you buy one of the ones with steps up and a little seat?
And also let him flush the toilet every time you empty the potty?
A lot of time, they're scared of the flush too!
*edit to say one like this. My mum had one at her house and my son would want to go toilet even when he didn't need it, just to use the steps
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that’s a fab idea thank you! I hadn’t thought of the flush xCan you buy one of the ones with steps up and a little seat?
And also let him flush the toilet every time you empty the potty?
A lot of time, they're scared of the flush too!
*edit to say one like this. My mum had one at her house and my son would want to go toilet even when he didn't need it, just to use the steps
I just have a bog standard one so will look at one with ladders. It may tempt him in
She doesn’t get free hours until January.
The one @WhatABore just screen shot is what we have! The seat is a lot smaller and cushioned, so it doesn’t feel as though you’re going to fall down!that’s a fab idea thank you! I hadn’t thought of the flush x
I just have a bog standard one so will look at one with ladders. It may tempt him in
Hi all,
I’m thinking of getting rid of the monitor. This week has been AWFUL for sleep. My daugher(nearly 3) keeps crying out in her sleep and I think it’s night terrors or a bad dream, she’s always done it but some weeks are worse than others
, turning the monitor down onto the lowest level doesn’t really help it’s right next to my head.
For instance last night I went into re settle her so many times and in the end I stopped getting up and just shushed her through the monitor. I’m just sick of getting broken sleep, if I left my door open and her door open a little bit I could hear her if she’s fully screaming and like really wanting me. She wouldn’t ever come into my bedroom unless she’s woken up and is up for the day anyway. I’m just such a worrier but I’m just wondering what age were your kids when you got rid of the monitor? (I think I’ll still use it for naps and then when I’m going to sleep at night turn it off? Hmmmm)
I’m thinking of getting rid of the monitor. This week has been AWFUL for sleep. My daugher(nearly 3) keeps crying out in her sleep and I think it’s night terrors or a bad dream, she’s always done it but some weeks are worse than others
, turning the monitor down onto the lowest level doesn’t really help it’s right next to my head.For instance last night I went into re settle her so many times and in the end I stopped getting up and just shushed her through the monitor. I’m just sick of getting broken sleep, if I left my door open and her door open a little bit I could hear her if she’s fully screaming and like really wanting me. She wouldn’t ever come into my bedroom unless she’s woken up and is up for the day anyway. I’m just such a worrier but I’m just wondering what age were your kids when you got rid of the monitor? (I think I’ll still use it for naps and then when I’m going to sleep at night turn it off? Hmmmm)
We got rid of it around 3 i think it was.Hi all,
I’m thinking of getting rid of the monitor. This week has been AWFUL for sleep. My daugher(nearly 3) keeps crying out in her sleep and I think it’s night terrors or a bad dream, she’s always done it but some weeks are worse than others
For instance last night I went into re settle her so many times and in the end I stopped getting up and just shushed her through the monitor. I’m just sick of getting broken sleep, if I left my door open and her door open a little bit I could hear her if she’s fully screaming and like really wanting me. She wouldn’t ever come into my bedroom unless she’s woken up and is up for the day anyway. I’m just such a worrier but I’m just wondering what age were your kids when you got rid of the monitor? (I think I’ll still use it for naps and then when I’m going to sleep at night turn it off? Hmmmm)
I wouldn't advise leaving the door open though as it massively lowers your chances of surviving a house fire if one were to happen
I know but there’s no way I can hear her unless my door is open, she’s at the other side of our house in a sense and the doors are thick🫣 (my door I mean, not hers)We got rid of it around 3 i think it was.
I wouldn't advise leaving the door open though as it massively lowers your chances of surviving a house fire if one were to happen
Hello fellow mamas. I don’t know if I’m asking or help or just need some words of encouragement. My daughter is 3 and a couple of months, been potty trained a few months with accidents only very rarely.
We moved house about a month ago and now we’ve also just moved her from the nursery she went to for 2 years to a preschool as she got an early place. So lots of change in a short space of time and she’s quite unsettled.
She’s usually great at home with using the toilet, and we haven’t used potty’s for ages. But she had 2 accidents yesterday in preschool and had to come home. They expect them to be able to go into the bathroom themselves and she’s a bit scared I think. The toilets are the little small ones so she won’t have a problem getting on but she’s just not used to going on her own. Once she gets very anxious about things it’s hard to get her past it.
We both work full time so her not being able to stay the full day is going to be a major problem for us as we’ve no family to help or anything so of course now we’re stressed which she’s probably picking up on. Any advice on what I could do to help her settle? I’ve just dropped her in this morning and feel like I can’t just assume that’s her in for the day (well until 3pm)
We moved house about a month ago and now we’ve also just moved her from the nursery she went to for 2 years to a preschool as she got an early place. So lots of change in a short space of time and she’s quite unsettled.
She’s usually great at home with using the toilet, and we haven’t used potty’s for ages. But she had 2 accidents yesterday in preschool and had to come home. They expect them to be able to go into the bathroom themselves and she’s a bit scared I think. The toilets are the little small ones so she won’t have a problem getting on but she’s just not used to going on her own. Once she gets very anxious about things it’s hard to get her past it.
We both work full time so her not being able to stay the full day is going to be a major problem for us as we’ve no family to help or anything so of course now we’re stressed which she’s probably picking up on. Any advice on what I could do to help her settle? I’ve just dropped her in this morning and feel like I can’t just assume that’s her in for the day (well until 3pm)
can you speak to the pre school and just make them aware you can’t get her over accidents and they can try and support you in it rather then ringing you to come and get her? (I presume it’s cos it’s a poo??) Is there a way you can at pick up time go into the toilets (obviously empty) with her and her key worker and show her that it’s ok?
I think reassurance from you will help. I agree with all the change in a short period of time x don’t be too hard on yourself xx
My Little one isn’t potty trained yet but I would assume that they’d help at nursery? Is this a common thing in nurseries ?? They help at my sons nursery? Can you not ask them to support her ? Surely they should accommodate her and make her feel better ?? Sorry you’re going through a bad time. How was she when you dropped her off ? Does she like going.
ETA he is in a pre school
That is so little for them to be going to the toilet on their own
especially when they don’t know the settingMy 3 yo has been at the same preschool since January, potty trained not long after and they put him on the potty yesterday, even though he uses the toilet. Ended up wetting himself when we got home
Oh bless her heart, it seems ridiculous to send her home! Like others have said she’s still so little. My boy is 2.5 and goes to preschool one day a week and will just use the potty as he is also scared of toilets and their fine with that, could you ask to take her potty in?
In regards to helping her settle I’m sure you already do but just keep talking to her about preschool, e.g on a Saturday tell her she’s going to preschool on Monday or whatever day and be really positive about it, and just keep reminding her every day about it. That’s what I do with my boy and it’s really helped him settle.
Is there also another mum you can invite over for play dates when you get a chance and that way she can make some solid friendships?
it’s so hard though, thinking of you and I really hope that things improve for you soon lovely x
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