Toddler Advice Thread #2

[watermelon sugar]

My toddler isn’t eating as good in the heat either. He had his breakfast which is cereal and fruit as normal then lunch & dinner just failed dramatically. He’s been snacking on fruit and picnic food all day. And loads of cucumber batons they are handy even I’ve nibbled a few, proper refreshing

 

[GlennCoco]

Our nearly 4 year old is the same. She ate her breakfast but nursery said she wouldn't even entertain her lunch. She had the snacks and dessert though and then picked at her tea. I dont really mind when it's this hot coz I go a bit off my food too. I'm just obsessed with making sure she drinks enough

 

[Jellybean093]

The only good thing about this heat is my daughter being ready to potty train. We’re on day three of being bare bottom. We’ve had mostly success with wees on the potty, some accidents but definitely getting there. She’s able to recognise she needs a poo and when she starts then runs to the potty. I know they take longer.
My question is what’s a reasonable timeframe to move onto pants and going outside? I’m planning on staying home for the next two days as it’s so hot anyway. But obviously have to go back out into the world at some point. Any tips or tricks for the next stage?

My nearly 3 yo has been naked since about 18 months. He always had accidents, he wasn’t ready, I didn’t enforce it, he just loves being free I think he was about 2yrs 4/5months and I put pants on him, and it just clicked. I didn’t stay home, we’ve always gone out with extra clothes. There has been times where he’s been caught short, but he holds his wee really well
I would say just do it. You will have one moment, shopping in primark where they need a wee NOW, but in my case, and I’ve done potty training 3 times, it doesn’t happen that often

 

[xoxo GG]

The only good thing about this heat is my daughter being ready to potty train. We’re on day three of being bare bottom. We’ve had mostly success with wees on the potty, some accidents but definitely getting there. She’s able to recognise she needs a poo and when she starts then runs to the potty. I know they take longer.
My question is what’s a reasonable timeframe to move onto pants and going outside? I’m planning on staying home for the next two days as it’s so hot anyway. But obviously have to go back out into the world at some point. Any tips or tricks for the next stage?

We introduced pants on day 4 to get her used to something being there because I’ll be honest we did find it set her back slightly but I just had to bite the bullet. I’d say only the first day we had a few more accidents but we did practice pulling them up and down as she found pulling them up at the front easy but the back would get rolled up.

We have a little travel potty that I have in the car now that I do still take with us if we’re out for the day or a longer time because she is verrrry easily distracted and will avoid going for a wee through fear of missing out then only says when she’s desperate x

 

[jackieweaver’sauthority]

We introduced pants on day 4 to get her used to something being there because I’ll be honest we did find it set her back slightly but I just had to bite the bullet. I’d say only the first day we had a few more accidents but we did practice pulling them up and down as she found pulling them up at the front easy but the back would get rolled up.

We have a little travel potty that I have in the car now that I do still take with us if we’re out for the day or a longer time because she is verrrry easily distracted and will avoid going for a wee through fear of missing out then only says when she’s desperate x

That’s what I thought with the pants and where we will be home it gives her a bit more time to get used to them and practice. She does the same with her trousers!

I have a travel potty but confused when to use it. I don’t drive so guessing I might have to pull it out on the cycling track when I take her to our big park but that feels so open and not private. I’ve never seen anyone use them in a park before but lots of playgrounds her do not have toilets, so I’ll have to use it then.

 

[WhatABore]

That’s what I thought with the pants and where we will be home it gives her a bit more time to get used to them and practice. She does the same with her trousers!

I have a travel potty but confused when to use it. I don’t drive so guessing I might have to pull it out on the cycling track when I take her to our big park but that feels so open and not private. I’ve never seen anyone use them in a park before but lots of playgrounds her do not have toilets, so I’ll have to use it then.

We've never used a travel potty. It's always been a behind a Bush trick
I do think a potty would've been easier than holding her to sit and pee
So much easier with a boy haha

 

[jackieweaver’sauthority]

We've never used a travel potty. It's always been a behind a Bush trick
I do think a potty would've been easier than holding her to sit and pee
So much easier with a boy haha

Oh she’d never have that tbf the cycle track is lined with stinging nettles so I couldn’t do that even if she’d let me.
I do have memories of having to have a squat in between parked cars

 

[Jellybean093]

We've never used a travel potty. It's always been a behind a Bush trick
I do think a potty would've been easier than holding her to sit and pee
So much easier with a boy haha

Neither of my boys stand to wee, and my toddler was freaked when I tried to make him hover the first few times 🫠

 

[LunaLovegood]

Hey everyone this is the lowest part and very top of my daughter's bottom. The doctors call it a double crack (wtf does that mean??) Anyway she been getting very annoyed at it scratches it. We clean it everytime we change her.
Anyone had this on their child?
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My son has one of these little indents above his bum. They said it’s a sacral dimple and that as long as you can see the bottom of it, it’s nothing to worry about. In kids with spina bifida it goes all the way through o the spine (I think). It’s never really bothered him but the HV did say to just be mindful of keeping it clean which you are obviously doing. So no advice really just wanted to say we have one here too!

 

[BlueRose]

My son has one of these little indents above his bum. They said it’s a sacral dimple and that as long as you can see the bottom of it, it’s nothing to worry about. In kids with spina bifida it goes all the way through o the spine (I think). It’s never really bothered him but the HV did say to just be mindful of keeping it clean which you are obviously doing. So no advice really just wanted to say we have one here too!

Yes when she was born their said spina bifida. She had to be checked everyday on back. Currently she keeps falling down now & again but we but that down to tiredness. My neighbour (a medic) said she fine. But she scratches the hell out her upper back all the time & being doing it since she could bend her arm behind her back. Again she apparently fine..

 

[WhatABore]

Neither of my boys stand to wee, and my toddler was freaked when I tried to make him hover the first few times 🫠

My 4yo thinks it's great to the point she went through a stage of saying she needed to pee when in the car when she didn't
She then thinks its funny to try and aim for your shoes.

 

[Buzzybee43]

Hi all, new to this thread and so happy to find it! Please direct me if this has already been discussed I haven’t read the previous threads, but desperately looking for advice on promoting positive behaviour in my very nearly three year old!
Most of the time she is fine, can play independently and is sociable with other children (plays alongside but happy to join in with other more confident children) however we have crucial times that drive me insane. (For context we also have a nearly one year old so these times I have to share my time between them both)

- brushing teeth or brushing hair
- going to bed and staying in bed (she is no longer in a cot)
- staying at the dinner table when eating
- pushing or hitting her brother

I have tried lots of different methods - ignoring the bad behaviour, referring positively to good behaviours when they happen, we did have a reward chart for a little time for teeth brushing. Anyway basically I am asking is this just a phase and does anyone have any hacks to help me get through it and remain sane?

 

[WhatABore]

Hi all, new to this thread and so happy to find it! Please direct me if this has already been discussed I haven’t read the previous threads, but desperately looking for advice on promoting positive behaviour in my very nearly three year old!
Most of the time she is fine, can play independently and is sociable with other children (plays alongside but happy to join in with other more confident children) however we have crucial times that drive me insane. (For context we also have a nearly one year old so these times I have to share my time between them both)

- brushing teeth or brushing hair
- going to bed and staying in bed (she is no longer in a cot)
- staying at the dinner table when eating
- pushing or hitting her brother

I have tried lots of different methods - ignoring the bad behaviour, referring positively to good behaviours when they happen, we did have a reward chart for a little time for teeth brushing. Anyway basically I am asking is this just a phase and does anyone have any hacks to help me get through it and remain sane?

Brushing teeth, she went though a stage of being silly constantly, so we started putting on the duggee teeth brushing video whilst brushing.

Going to bed and staying in bed, a gro clock.

Staying at the dinner table when eating, I don't have much advice as she gets up a lot but once told, she will come sit back down. Its a constant repeat but she has never sat still!

Pushing and hitting, all you can do is to remove her from the situation and remind her about kind hands.


Probably not the best advice but it's the best I've got

 

[Jellybean093]

Hi all, new to this thread and so happy to find it! Please direct me if this has already been discussed I haven’t read the previous threads, but desperately looking for advice on promoting positive behaviour in my very nearly three year old!
Most of the time she is fine, can play independently and is sociable with other children (plays alongside but happy to join in with other more confident children) however we have crucial times that drive me insane. (For context we also have a nearly one year old so these times I have to share my time between them both)

- brushing teeth or brushing hair
- going to bed and staying in bed (she is no longer in a cot)
- staying at the dinner table when eating
- pushing or hitting her brother

I have tried lots of different methods - ignoring the bad behaviour, referring positively to good behaviours when they happen, we did have a reward chart for a little time for teeth brushing. Anyway basically I am asking is this just a phase and does anyone have any hacks to help me get through it and remain sane?

You are me. We have the same problems

- teeth brushing - he loves doing it himself, but obviously I want to do it, so I tell him to count to 20 and then he can do it
- since we got rid of dummy and bottle, about 3 weeks, he constantly gets out of bed. My eldest found him standing outside his bedroom door last night. He finally settled when big bro went to bed
- he’s NEVER say still at the table when eating at home. He has been a nightmare with food. Eating and sitting still
- he hits his older brother and is (understandably) jealous of his baby brother

I have nothing to offer, but just know there will be plenty of us going through the same thing, as toddlers are tough and little devils in disguise

 

[Magnolia4]

Hi all, new to this thread and so happy to find it! Please direct me if this has already been discussed I haven’t read the previous threads, but desperately looking for advice on promoting positive behaviour in my very nearly three year old!
Most of the time she is fine, can play independently and is sociable with other children (plays alongside but happy to join in with other more confident children) however we have crucial times that drive me insane. (For context we also have a nearly one year old so these times I have to share my time between them both)

- brushing teeth or brushing hair
- going to bed and staying in bed (she is no longer in a cot)
- staying at the dinner table when eating
- pushing or hitting her brother

I have tried lots of different methods - ignoring the bad behaviour, referring positively to good behaviours when they happen, we did have a reward chart for a little time for teeth brushing. Anyway basically I am asking is this just a phase and does anyone have any hacks to help me get through it and remain sane?

Regarding teeth brushing something that works for us (daughter just turned 2) is to let her do it herself first and go in afterwards to check that she has brushed properly (aka brush the teeth properly ourselves ). It usually works a treat, everybody’s happy

 

[Buzzybee43]

Brushing teeth, she went though a stage of being silly constantly, so we started putting on the duggee teeth brushing video whilst brushing.

Going to bed and staying in bed, a gro clock.

Staying at the dinner table when eating, I don't have much advice as she gets up a lot but once told, she will come sit back down. Its a constant repeat but she has never sat still!

Pushing and hitting, all you can do is to remove her from the situation and remind her about kind hands.


Probably not the best advice but it's the best I've got

We tried the hey duggee this morning and it worked! Hope the novelty doesn’t wear off too soon Thank you!

You are me. We have the same problems

- teeth brushing - he loves doing it himself, but obviously I want to do it, so I tell him to count to 20 and then he can do it
- since we got rid of dummy and bottle, about 3 weeks, he constantly gets out of bed. My eldest found him standing outside his bedroom door last night. He finally settled when big bro went to bed
- he’s NEVER say still at the table when eating at home. He has been a nightmare with food. Eating and sitting still
- he hits his older brother and is (understandably) jealous of his baby brother

I have nothing to offer, but just know there will be plenty of us going through the same thing, as toddlers are tough and little devils in disguise

Solidarity does help a bit!

 

[Jellybean093]

We tried the hey duggee this morning and it worked! Hope the novelty doesn’t wear off too soon Thank you!


Solidarity does help a bit!

You are not alone x

 

[Megatron1298]

We tried the hey duggee this morning and it worked! Hope the novelty doesn’t wear off too soon Thank you!


Solidarity does help a bit!

Yep we use hey duggee as well. Sometimes we read during tooth brushing but when all else fails it’s hey duggee. And he still won’t let us do it so we just have to deal with him chewing the tooth brush and hope that’s doing enough (low key dreading our first dentist appointment)

 

[al255]

I got told by the HV that when they have milk teeth it’s not majorly important to brush them every day etc (like adult teeth) but it’s about the action and putting it into a routine. I’ve got to admit some days I forget to do her teeth but some weeks I do them every day oops

 

[Jellybean093]

I got told by the HV that when they have milk teeth it’s not majorly important to brush them every day etc (like adult teeth) but it’s about the action and putting it into a routine. I’ve got to admit some days I forget to do her teeth but some weeks I do them every day oops

Oh, I don’t really get into the habit of brushing their teeth religiously until they are about 3. I do try and remember, but, life!