Surely they must be giving up the moving abroad idea? Him leaving the navy and giving up his pension is a crazy thing to do after the years he’s served.
Why not just accept that circumstances dictate a different path, and make peace with it? Make the most of the life you have, rather than resent it? It’s a nice life, if only she could get over the trauma she feels when he’s away. WHY does she find it so hard? Why is she not aware there are millions of mums doing this too?
She has chosen all these non essential things to do that she cites daily as being stressful commitments, including now going back to full time working. Her job seems very flexible for full time - she was doing stories from the park after school pickup the other day! She needs to take some responsibility for building a life full of things she finds difficult, resenting them, daily sharing of performative stress about them, and somehow blaming her husband and the military for the fact that she finds her privileged comfortable life difficult because she fills it with unnecessary commitments!