My mum is the same. She never put the effort in when I was little and wonders why now we are not close and I don't want to see her. She has a terrible temper and can go off on one shouting / slamming doors / being physically aggressive over the littlest things. She can't control it either and she's not allowed in my dad's house because she once went over there and started slamming doors when she got agitated. i'm not a doctor but I think she has MH issues. Well I know she has as she was diagnosed as a manic depressive (I think that's bipolar now but I have no idea). She's switch from rage to crying so quickly. One time she pushed me over because I interrupted her phone conversation and I hurt myself quite badly and she started crying saying she was a bad mum.I also think my Mum has undiagnosed MH issues. We're chalk and cheese, but unfortunately I have got her temper and we row all the time. I can't tell her anything because she says I'm 'lucky' and makes me feel guilty for having a life. It's very draining and toxic to be around. I hate that I can't confide in my Mum about things or share things with her. I get a bit envious when I see Mum and the daughters being close because that could never be me and her.
Both my mum and Nan are like this. You can’t say there’s anything wrong with you because both of them have had the same issue but 100 times worse.Annoying little things like making something about this. It can be something simple like me saying “oh I didn’t sleep the best last night” and it’ll be all “oh I’m the same, I was awake at 3am and 4am and 5am”
It’s not a bloody competition!
mine is like this too. Or she’ll use it to manipulate me. If I say I’m upset about something, she uses it as a moment to tell me how much of a good mother she is. Drives me nutsAnnoying little things like making something about them. It can be something simple like me saying “oh I didn’t sleep the best last night” and it’ll be all “oh I’m the same, I was awake at 3am and 4am and 5am”
It’s not a bloody competition!
this is really sinister and at the very least neglectful. i'm really sorry you and your 6 old self experienced that. that's fucking awful. this hurt my heart imagining this. no wonder you're still scared of the dark! not only is it creepy as fuck but you've got that traumatic memory on top now (the body never forgets!)Excessive cleaning. Your plate would be taken away, washed up and put away before you'd even finished eating. House would be spotless and wouldn't be allowed anything downstairs.
One vivid memory is when I was about 6, (I was also scared of the dark for reference). I'd had a tantrum about something, what 6 year old doesn't, and they picked me up and threw me outside the front. It was pitch black and the middle of winter. I was hysterically screaming and crying, knocking on the door begging to be let back in.
We had a long winding driveway which had tall bushes either side. The wind and the fact I was scared and hysterical and 6! I was sure I could see someone in the bushes. It was terrifying. I was left out there for about an hour then dragged in and sent to bed.
I'm still scared of the dark and I'm 32, I can't sit in the kitchen alone with the lights on and it dark outside as we don't have blinds on the back doors, I always think someone is going to be there. I won't take stuff to the dustbin or get anything from the car if it's dark and I definitely won't answer the door in the dark!
I've spoken to them about it before and they just try and laugh it off.
I could never be that horrible to my children. I'm sure because of how strict my parents were, I am overly soft on my own children!
i think smoking in the car is absolutley rancidMy parents were just lovely. I have no complaints apart from the fact that I tended to suffer with car-sickness, and they, both smokers, would light up in the car on our Sunday drives, with typically all the windows shut. It really made me feel extra nauseous. When I complained, I was told to stop being so crabid!
same! and then i'll feel guilty and walk on eggshells because she can't put her ego aside to accept help that she actually really wants and needsMy mum is such a martyr. Moans how much she does indoors but when I go there to help, (I’ve been moved out a few years) I get moaned at.
i'm so so so sorryMy mother's boyfriend abused me for 3 years, when I told her she cried for 3 days, never once hugged me or asked if I was ok and then after all that she got back with him for a short while.
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