TheNurseMum #8

[Cady1954]

What did we say about this emotional black mail ‍ this is just the start of it ladies and gents

No Kaytee we didn't love him. You loved him and for that we are so sorry for your loss. His memory doesn't need to be kept alive because he is YOUR son and as his Mother you will never forget him. All your thousands of followers think fondly of them but do not need to keep his memory alive. This is just your pathetic excuse to make more money out of your poor dead child. Shame on you.

 

[Abettermumma]

The arguing feels like there’s a lot of new people to tattle who just don’t quite *get* it..

The partying in the cemetery knocks me sick. Imagine going to pay your respects and being in the plot next to that fucking carnival circus where people are drinking etc. I reckon it won’t be long before a complaint is raised with her and she has to scale back the tack decor..

 

[mrstakeaway]

I reported it as it definitely is cutting it close in some comments. Its disappointing to see its deemed acceptable, tbh. Judging her guilt and implying blame is really awful.

no sorry. If your willing to be on this site and pick apart others how can there be an invisible line? Your happy to slate other people but not Kaytee? Double standards here

 

[lou36]

I do feel so sorry for her and the loss of her beautiful boy but a part of me feels like she is playing a game to gain financially from the awful awful situation

 

[doingtherightthing]

I’ve been a lurker on these threads but I’ve finally snapped…

I cannot understand why, within a short period since J passing is her first instinct to set up a business?
Most would be either privately grieving or even, set up charity fundraising events such as a ball, marathon etc. Why is her first point of call to set up a business with only 10% going to charity? If it’s not about the money, why not a bigger portion of the money?
Why are the products on sale useful to all SEN parents/children such as feeding tools, bibs, sensory play toys & books etc. As beautiful as J was, it is massively inappropriate for random strangers to be walking around with print of a little boy who frankly, should be allowed to rest in peace. He will never be forgotten by his family nor by the people who invested emotionally or financially in his little life but, for his images to be on merchandise is tasteless.

Why not use the rest of the GFM and donate it to the charities that need it rather than go travelling - I’d understand if she had missed out of that side of life whilst caring for J but let’s face it, she didn’t miss out. The reality is, Kaytee probably led a more active lifestyle than most parents ever get to.

I don’t know about anyone else but I absolutely despite anyone who sees it as normal to be crying then recorded it for social media. If she’s grieving for her boy, surely she should be focusing on that, not filming and uploading it for the gram? To me, it’s just a way of ensuring that her followers stay invested in her. It’s emotional blackmail.

As for his grave. I find it tacky. His own bedroom wasn’t as colourful and full of balloons and toys etc. To me, a graveyard is a peaceful place for those to rest, for their loved ones to mourn and seek solice and comfort. Why could she not set up a garden or an allotment for him so she decorate that how she likes and have a chippy tea or a party? I find it disrespectful to anyone else laid to rest in there and for their loved ones who will be drowning in their own grief but have to watch her party with her pals. There is a time and place for everything but that’s not it. She could still make his space beautiful but in my opinion that’s too much and it’s all for show, if she wasn’t on the gram and so known, why would his grave look like.

I feel, their is a space for grief management on the gram, it’s needed. However, the moment you monetise it, is the moment I’m done and out of there. The NurseMum, Ash & Saf and even FTEN (Elle) all made money out of the loss of a child but all seem to think they are untouchable to critics because they are grieving parents. Sorry but there are millions of parents grieving that use their platforms for the good and not to make money as an influencer. Are you selling products here or your soul? If you’re selling both? Your intentions were never genuine.

 

[GobShyte64]

15th May - He was in hospital, but didnt say why.
16th May - had a pulmonary oedema diagnosis, treated and then got dehydrated.
18th May - Back home.
23rd May - Her birthday. Or she posts about her birthday. She visited GOSH for a pre op anaesthetic chat & said they had to go in the next day (24th) for an iron infusion.
26th May - He has a cardiac arrest. They put him on a ECMO when they got there. Then he was reliant on life support. She said he was gonna have a CT scan on his head but didnt say why.
28th May - The CT scan showed no brain activity & machines were turned off.

This is just from her instagram, her posts/grid thing.

I don't understand why she took a picture of an empty room full of machines, etc. It's tragic that Jaxon has gone but I can't believe in his death, she still thought to take a picture of the empty room full of machines for the gram.

 

[Basicbasic]

One of the saddest sights was seeing j made to perform for ads. She had him pretending to eat McCain's fries when he was peg fed. He advertised pull ups when it was clear he was incontinent. Shame on the companies who paid for the total exploitation of a very poorly little boy.

 

[Cady1954]

The more I think about it the more I feel that when J passed the account should have died as well. The account was there because of J and was meant to raise awareness. However, all it was used for was to keep her in designer trainers and fake teeth. She's an absolute disgrace. She is not intellectually stupid she qualified as a nurse. Go out and get a job and stop using your dead son to fund your pathetic over the top lifestyle.

 

[SquishyMallow]

That’s extreme & too far, imho

Your more than entitled to your opinion. As am I.
She put him through a feeding clinic (from overseas as every medical professional here linked to his care objected) which resulted in his weight becoming critical - the poor boy had a heart condition, I’m no dr but I can only imagine the strain that would’ve had on his heart.
She admitted to stopping/changing medication of her own accord, no consultation, just decided it didn’t suit their care plan anymore. She admitted she pushed for discharge from the hospital (more than once) - surely if the Drs are saying hold off, they say it with good reason. Why push it.
His peg was raw and inflamed and infected yet in clips from time when in his Dads care he’d got it healed and healthy.
I’m not saying ‘she did it’ I’m saying she made some incredibly poor choices and decisions which I believe had a massive impact on J

 

[dailyfaillurker]

Ok well having seen the shop now I don’t think we have to worry so much about her exploiting that lovely boy, the stuff is hideous. As I said before she will get a few goodwill sales tonight but this just isn’t a brand that’s going to go global. I’m going to donate £10 to GOSH tonight in Jaxon’s memory.

 

[Sendparent]

I think, genuinely, she has no idea how to generate income without him. Every plan she
had was so deeply tied up with his disability.

What alarms me is she seems to be grieving the loss of an income stream too. If your partner dies, theres going to be financial stress alongside the grieving especially if they were the breadwinner, worrying about bills and feeding the kids, paying funeral costs etc. It's unusual to have a parent grieve the loss of a child and have financial worries. J was the breadwinner, he is the one that people filled up the pot for, it now looks like she is trying to work out how she can keep begging so people fill up her pot. I find it concerning that the main impression I get is she is grieving the income loss first. She said what kept her going in the first few days was finding out she had the right to buy and trying to get a mortgage. That's an odd to do within the first few days of losing your child. She went away to cornwall and did aff links because people had apparently dm'd her. Who would message someone who's just lost a child and gone away with her immediate family to grieve and ask about her trainers? Js benefits have or will stop, but she made far more out if him through insta and donations. She wants multiple income streams and it feels like she has sat down and thought of new ways to make money by using J.

 

[AfroCircus]

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Nah this made me feel super uncomfortable. Like she's imagining the ghost of poor J lingering on his own at home, turning the TV and lights on. Time to go home to baby? Ok so why did you leave him? What the actual fuck. I know it's just some random occurrences but if my son had just passed away I wouldnt be sharing stuff like this so flippantly. Whoopsie, better go home to the ghost of my dead son. Jesus.

 

[Hinchy’s Tamagotchi]

She’s trying to expand her repertoire as some sort of grief influencer (cough Ellie..) now she can’t be used for family ads..

It does seem like ‘grief influencers’ are becoming a thing now, there’s a few that spring to mind. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with talking about grief, it’s probably something that should be talked about more, but I find the idea of profiting out of it a bit grim.

 

[Barkin Mad]

I believe when Jaxon was first born and he was diagnosed with quite a lot of health problems & at the time he was allowed home a brand new home he was entitled to so many hours of Carers, but as Jaxon grew and at times thrived plus some of his medication stabilised he’s needs weren’t as high as they was when he was first born, she abused the carers used them as babysitters to go out get pissed come back drunk and even named and shamed a few of the Night Carers on her Instagram she went on tv saying that she needs xyz to keep herself & son alive? Kathleen stopped certain medications to make her life easier she also paid a feeding school which was Not Recommended by any of the health professionals involved with J & starved him more less, J dad was involved throughout his life yet Kathleen made out he wasn’t she also left Jaxon in a respite home to go on Holiday out of the Country with her new fella. The thing that annoys me the most is that she thought she knew better than any other highly qualified doctors specialists nurses at GOSH, QMC or any other health professional and was never happy with their advise or diagnoses she always had to complain or ask for 2nd 3rd 4th opinion and even when it was the same outcome as she was previously told she would then seek a private health professionals who she slagged off moaned about the cost & her time when they agreed with Gosh

 

[Cady1954]

I donated to her go fund me after J died. I don't wish bad on her at all and would never want to be in her shoes but some of her behaviour and attitude lately makes me uncomfortable. I don't care how she spends her 40+ k if it gets her through the next few months/years but the website and products are tacky and over priced and that money will soon be gone with the lavish lifestyle she likes to live.

I would not donate one penny to her. Why? Thousands of people lose their kids every day and have to carry on without digital begging? Each to their own and I don't mean to tell you how to spend your money but she is a beggar pure and simple.

 

[Kirsty21]

Ahhhhh hii again everyone I’ve bloody missed this thread I thought it would never be reopened. Kathleen keeps going on about jaxons colours, is anyone else confused by this? He was never in bright coloured clothes!!

 

[Subway]

Don’t you think this is in really bad taste? I understand people finding the grave etc tacky and I get it about the shop. But she’s clearly in a very bad place and how is picking it over here helping anyone? Saying someone is to blame for their child’s death with no evidence is very harsh. You may think things about his health based on her posts but you don’t know anything categorically. Things may be more complicated than she portrays them on Instagram but you are not coming out of this well either.

 

[Admiralbow]

She didn’t deserve Jaxon, simple as that. He deserved a mum who would’ve done everything for HIM, everything was to benefit herself - free money through go fund me’s, nice car, ridiculous amount of benefits, housing, holidays that weren’t for him, carers, because she couldn’t be arsed waking through the night. It’s absolutely disgusting how people praise her for being so inspiring - she has literally made money off her kid for 3 years and now he has devastatingly passed, she’s still trying to make money through him. She should’ve done the right thing and deleted her profile, and let the poor boy rest in peace.
She even fucking starved her kid, and that was so “brave” of her, shipped him off to school whenever she could… the only person who was brave was JAXON, he dealt with so much in his little life. If people think she is so inspiring, strong and amazing then stop the world as I want to get off - she’s a disgrace.

 

[Cady1954]

She should move to Devon and work with that other scammer PTWM

 

[Sendparent]

Spoiler: TW

This might be one of the times when people might think she felt guilt, but she follows it with saying J was like that before the feeding school and we always blame ourselves for things that aren't in our control.

J was not like that before the feeding school and she was the only one who had control of this situation. GOSH and his team at his local hospital told her not to do this. She had control, the choice was up to her and she paid thousands to do it. He wasn't fit enough to go over to Austria, that should have been a red flag not to do it but she pushed for him to so the online programme where she is in the UK and the doctors are in Austria. That was even more risky. That should have been another red flag.

Before the feeding school she was claiming he vomited up to 50 times a day. (He would have been in hospital if that was the case) After the feeding school ended she justified making him do it by slipping up and saying J vomited on average once a day (not 50 like she claimed to the media and when she was fundraising) she said during the 56 days he did the feeding programme he only vomited 6 times.
That post is still there. She was then upset he was rushed into hospital and the first thing the doctors did was put him on feeds which made him vomit. She was almost blaming the hospital for putting him back on feeds. I've hid his face, mods can remove if they wish, she has never hid his face and has chosen to share him like this but mods are more than welcome to remove. From these pics you can see why the hospital put him straight onto feeds, you can also understand that if he was starving it might explain why he only vomited 6 times in 56 days. As a nurse you would hope that would have been another red flag, not something to justify why it was good to take him off his feeds and to moan about the hospital putting him back on.

She used to say the feeding school cost double what it did until it the true cost was put on here and then she started saying the right price. There was also a meet up in this country for the feeding plan, she was going to it to find out information properly but said it had been cancelled so went out instead but other SEN parents off insta attended it as it wasn't cancelled whatsoever. Not 100% but I think all those that went chose not to risk it.

Honestly, the feeding programme broke my heart. He was fading away before our eyes and looked so ill.

When she made him lick an oven chip for an Ad I honestly wanted to slap her. Sorry if thats too harsh but I felt sick with worry for that little boy. The weeks leading up to his passing I felt ill and like something really bad was coming.

The other thing that anyone new to this thread should know is that she lied a lot about being a sole carer to J. It just wasnt true. She led people to believe his dad was no where in the picture and had pretty much abandoned him when he had him lots. Weekends. Any time he was in GOSH he was one who stayed with him. She always used it as an excuse to stay in a fancy hotel and go out.

She also hid the fact she was engaged from all her followers. Which was just so she could play the role of poor single mother. She had more help than most people. His dad. His family. Her family. Carers. School. Her fiance. Honestly it was like any time she had to spend alone with him was begrudged.

That photo she is using of J on the slide for her souvenirs people might remember her posting them to her stories at the time. Unless they were following the threads before they wont know what was going on at that point.

People had said she never took him to the park or play area, few days later she takes him. Then we all suspected J wasn't actually with her, she started sharing pics/clips of him that looked pre-recorded, put up pre-recorded ads and tried to make it look like he was with her. His dad dropped her in it by saying he had had J for 10 days. There was no need to hide him going to stay with his daddy, but she didn't like people clocking on to the fact she had 60 hours a week of carers, 35 hours of school, 5 hours estimate for the school transport, her mum had him once a week for a few hours and J's dad had him at weekends often.