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Thenursemum #3 Last Christmas you paid for my Amazon Cart but the very next day Kiera’s were taken away.
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It really is shocking when you consider the financial package she has, and how it is all awarded for her benefit entirely and not j. Locally she's very well known in CHC and agency circles and I suspect they're scared to be honest with her actual entitlement. I was reading a post from another sen mum in Insta today and she was worrying about having 2 nights carers for her very very poorly 2 year old and this support being withdrawn, and how hard it was to get 2 nights and she accepted it could be withdrawn. Kaytee knows exactly how to fill in the forms and manipulate the system to get over awarded whilst others are struggling to cope. It's actually very sad.
Arghhhhh I’ve just caught up reading through this entire new thread. The oncology stories were sickening, but it’s almost as though she just thinks because she’s Kaytee she can just say exactly what she wants, and what I didn’t get was why there wasn’t any backlash, I’ve got two children, both with a syndrome, we’ve spent time in hospital and I’m always grateful for the care we’ve received, I can’t imagine EVER feeling jealous of any parent of child on a oncology ward, in fact the bloody opposite, how can you begrudge a seriously ill child anything. I’ve never been on an oncology ward, but when passing one my heart has just always gone out to the parents and children. But again I’ve never understood how she can believe J is entitled to carers, I know children severely disabled whose parents are providing round the clock care, who don’t qualify. As I said I have two children of my own who have severe learning disabilities, both incontinent, and wake well all night, but it honestly would not cross my mind to think I would be entitled to carers, I understand that there are children far more worthy than my own, and it’s absolutely fair we don’t have carers. I’ve got to say though I do think professionals will be watching her closely, there will be eyes on her. And I know professionals will be watching her Instagram. However I also believe she’s a narcissist and believes she’s untouchable. Why has she still got so many adoring comments though, I just wish people would wake up and see her for what she really is, also surely using your disabled child’s go fund me money for you own use is a crime ???!!!!
Because most of them are mothers. When yoh see a sick child, it tugs on heart strings. As mothers, you sympathise. I have noticed....not many send parents seem to comment so its clear to other send parents that its not right xx
I can believe that about the biggest fight being the Education Health Care Plan. It's one of the worst fights you can have and soul destroying too. I've wondered about jaxons EHCP, kaytee hasnt talked about his EHCP which makes me think she hasnt had to fight for things on it which then makes me wonder why not when Notts are really bad when it comes to EHCPs. She either has an amazing EHCP and has been given everything without fighting for it or she hasnt got a clue about them and doesnt bother fighting for what should be on there, because when hes at school hes not her problem.I agree with you 100%
The issues surrounding money and Kayteee are pretty clear,she scams the system for her narcissistic gains very rarely does she have her son at the centre point of decision making .
Yes,even her driving lessons and test were funded by a charity and she was given a brand new Vauxhall. She dedicated one single mention in her stories as thanks when she collected that car. The way she lied about the Mercedes was sickening she said something along the lines of ‘ I could only get a Merc as it was the closest garage from the hospital and I had half an hour to choose it,ya de yar de yah’ no mention that it was actually THE most luxury model on motorbility and the GLA was coming off motorbility for a while or that the ‘Sunroof for J’ cost £4,500 or £4k down payment. I noticed a screen in front of J the other day, it wouldn’t surprise me if she paid another £1,500 to have that extra fitted.Zero gratitude for the tens of thousands of pounds of car and lessons but when an influencer sent her a tit load of make up she was hashtaging Charlotte Tilbury,Benefit and Givenchy and thanking over and over again the generosity of being sent beauty products
I have been thinking about my friends neighbors all day and what I forgot to write was the biggest fight the lady has had was with her LEA to gain the appropriate ECHP so the children receive the best educational support possible. I thought back to when J started nursery and she was more concerned that he attended ‘private nursery’ as opposed to a setting that would meet his needs. Remember her naming and shaming the nurseries that were unable to offer him a place? They should sue her for defamation!
She also couldn’t believe she wouldn’t get 30 hours a week free nursery on top of her 60 of Kiera’s she was fuming she couldn’t have 30 free hours a weekShe is so so out of touch with reality...he gets transport to and from school,surely that is what the Merc is intended for?
I posted them both on here the other day
I'm curious why she doesnt talk about his school and EHCP that much. I think the council have bent over backwards to keep her sweet since she and her mp went on TV and have probably gave him a really good one. He had a EHCP when she was fundraising for the chair, the director of childrens services released a statement saying they were funding nursery and all equipment he needed there.
100% there was never any question he would not get that chair funded. At the exact same time I was waiting for a chair request for my child and the OT does say it may get rejected but it is highly unlikely. So she must have took something like that as a lightbulb perfect excuse to raise holiday funds
if only she put as much fight into raising her son as she does fighting for things she believes she is entitled to that boy would doing so so much better than he is in every way! from talking to walking and everything! how she can keep holding him back in beyond me, it's so sad to see. just glad he is in a school now and they are making a difference
Look how being at school has transformed him! He’s such a bright boy!
I noticed this too. Hes absolutely thriving since hes gone
I am serevely deaf in 1 ear and profound in the other. I dont sign, i can comminicate as anyonr else but rely on lip reading. As soon as i got my diagnosis. My mum went all blazing. Got the DLA, a helper at school, speech therapy, she made me join a deaf group, eventually she pushed for me going to a proper deaf school.
By the time i was 14, i was sucidal and depressed. Mother loved the attention from medical professionals, pushed me for to get a bone anchored hearing aid (i didnt want it, i was happy with a normal hearing aid). She would cry to them and shed get her own way. All i wanted to do was be a typical teenager, i didnt fit in with deaf people as i didnt sign and i didnt know any hearing people. i learnt how to play a piano and done exams for them, i ADORED music. But mum kept pushing the disability thing.
Eventually i met a girl at college at 16, who treated me as any other teenager. she invited me to go clubbing (back in the day!) Amd i went...and omg....i felt so alive after that. I was thriving at college, meeting lots of people, had a amazing social life. They all knew i was hard of hearing but no problem. Eventually i met someone who was at uni but my mum hated him and hated my life. She made my life so difficult. So...at 17 i moved in with him 200 miles away. I got a full time job as a laboratory technician. Ok i got pregnant at 18 but i managed to go back to work when my baby was 6 months old and support my partner who was at uni... and i havr supported myself for 17 years and i have always done absolutely fine with no help.
Moral of the story is. My mother LOVED the disability side. She adored the attention she got from medical professionals, she loved having a 'special needs'child. But she was stopping me reaching my full potential, which can be incredibly damaging. So its clear at school, he is pushed and encoruaged. And its fantastic xx
I am serevely deaf in 1 ear and profound in the other. I dont sign, i can comminicate as anyonr else but rely on lip reading. As soon as i got my diagnosis. My mum went all blazing. Got the DLA, a helper at school, speech therapy, she made me join a deaf group, eventually she pushed for me going to a proper deaf school.
By the time i was 14, i was sucidal and depressed. Mother loved the attention from medical professionals, pushed me for to get a bone anchored hearing aid (i didnt want it, i was happy with a normal hearing aid). She would cry to them and shed get her own way. All i wanted to do was be a typical teenager, i didnt fit in with deaf people as i didnt sign and i didnt know any hearing people. i learnt how to play a piano and done exams for them, i ADORED music. But mum kept pushing the disability thing.
Eventually i met a girl at college at 16, who treated me as any other teenager. she invited me to go clubbing (back in the day!) Amd i went...and omg....i felt so alive after that. I was thriving at college, meeting lots of people, had a amazing social life. They all knew i was hard of hearing but no problem. Eventually i met someone who was at uni but my mum hated him and hated my life. She made my life so difficult. So...at 17 i moved in with him 200 miles away. I got a full time job as a laboratory technician. Ok i got pregnant at 18 but i managed to go back to work when my baby was 6 months old and support my partner who was at uni... and i havr supported myself for 17 years and i have always done absolutely fine with no help.
Moral of the story is. My mother LOVED the disability side. She adored the attention she got from medical professionals, she loved having a 'special needs'child. But she was stopping me reaching my full potential, which can be incredibly damaging. So its clear at school, he is pushed and encoruaged. And its fantastic xx
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You are an amazing lady
This is why i get so cross with people who dont allow their children to thrive. Why they're not celebeating their every milestone. It upsets me that people like my mother and katyee manipulate the system to get what theyre not entitled too. And other families are going through sheer hell to get some form of help...the difference is, mother and kaytee know how to get the boxes ticked.
Funny enough my mum has worked for the nhs for 25 years (as healthcare assistant) and now had a bone anchored hearing aid herself....with a mild hearing lost...tech not entitled to that just on hearing loss alone.....she couldnt get attention from me anymore, so she has now played on it to get it herself... she adores thr attention.
J is so 'with it'. You can see it. Bless him xxx
Funny enough my mum has worked for the nhs for 25 years (as healthcare assistant) and now had a bone anchored hearing aid herself....with a mild hearing lost...tech not entitled to that just on hearing loss alone.....she couldnt get attention from me anymore, so she has now played on it to get it herself... she adores thr attention.
J is so 'with it'. You can see it. Bless him xxx
I have just been thinking about these screenshots, they are old, not sure the exact date She was fuming that she couldn’t get 30 hours CHILDCARE free every week,yet at the same time she is arguing her son needs 24/7 specialist medical care! There is no consistency in her narrative, basically she is full of tit.I agree with you 100%
The issues surrounding money and Kayteee are pretty clear,she scams the system for her narcissistic gains very rarely does she have her son at the centre point of decision making .
Yes,even her driving lessons and test were funded by a charity and she was given a brand new Vauxhall. She dedicated one single mention in her stories as thanks when she collected that car. The way she lied about the Mercedes was sickening she said something along the lines of ‘ I could only get a Merc as it was the closest garage from the hospital and I had half an hour to choose it,ya de yar de yah’ no mention that it was actually THE most luxury model on motorbility and the GLA was coming off motorbility for a while or that the ‘Sunroof for J’ cost £4,500 or £4k down payment. I noticed a screen in front of J the other day, it wouldn’t surprise me if she paid another £1,500 to have that extra fitted.Zero gratitude for the tens of thousands of pounds of car and lessons but when an influencer sent her a tit load of make up she was hashtaging Charlotte Tilbury,Benefit and Givenchy and thanking over and over again the generosity of being sent beauty products
I have been thinking about my friends neighbors all day and what I forgot to write was the biggest fight the lady has had was with her LEA to gain the appropriate ECHP so the children receive the best educational support possible. I thought back to when J started nursery and she was more concerned that he attended ‘private nursery’ as opposed to a setting that would meet his needs. Remember her naming and shaming the nurseries that were unable to offer him a place? They should sue her for defamation!
She also couldn’t believe she wouldn’t get 30 hours a week free nursery on top of her 60 of Kiera’s she was fuming she couldn’t have 30 free hours a week
I posted them both on here the other day
She does slip up a lot,when she flicked through her crappy calendar we all read ‘J has 1 nappy a day and uses the toilet’ then says it was a one off and he still has 50 nappies an hour......
She said she has never used the suction machine, she filmed it in the car last week strategically placed next to the car seat.No doubt we will get some heartbreaking footage of it being used soon.Her followers told her to lie on the CHC form remember?
She says she is dangerously sleep deprived,but we have seen the app that shows he sleeps in his cot for longer than most 3 year olds,plus she has had 4 nights of 12 hours Kiera’s.I have children and was knackered for several years just like every other mother on the planet!
She often used to say ‘My son isn’t normal like other kids his age,he will never eat,talk or walk’ he is doing bloody brilliantly! I am sure with the correct input and encouragement he would excel even more but having a MunchausenMummy who wants 90 hours without her son a week is not exactly nurturing.
The skeletal images of him when she starved him,sorry spent £5,000 to feed him Frazzles and Brownies are a big issue. She herself said J’s horrible ( don’t remember the exact derogatory word she used) dietician would not engage with the program,of course they would refuse it was a huge risk of malnutrition,dehydration,renal failure,potassium imbalance or even death! He wasn’t permitted to travel to the feeding school due to his low weight and cardiac/renal problems yet she being thenursemum knew best and wasted £5k and landed him in hospital very unwell.She should be reported for child abuse.
She did get a picture for the gram of him proudly sitting with a Mcdonald’s happy meal.Seriously who would feed that crap to a sick child?
Nobody makes me more angry,the material stuff pisses me off as it’s fraud and deception but her Mothering and her life away from her son is what makes me fume.I wonder if deep down she resents having a child that ‘Isn’t normal’ ( what a vile thing to say about your own child
) Jules if you are reading this please consider fighting for custody!I don't understand why it cost 5k anyway when the basic premise of the feeding school seemed to be stop feeding your kid and maybe he'll eat something? Even if she was having a few consultations (and from what she shared it seemed largely emails) that doesn't seem worth 5k.I have just been thinking about these screenshots, they are old, not sure the exact date She was fuming that she couldn’t get 30 hours CHILDCARE free every week,yet at the same time she is arguing her son needs 24/7 specialist medical care! There is no consistency in her narrative, basically she is full of tit.
She does slip up a lot,when she flicked through her crappy calendar we all read ‘J has 1 nappy a day and uses the toilet’ then says it was a one off and he still has 50 nappies an hour......
She said she has never used the suction machine, she filmed it in the car last week strategically placed next to the car seat.No doubt we will get some heartbreaking footage of it being used soon.Her followers told her to lie on the CHC form remember?
She says she is dangerously sleep deprived,but we have seen the app that shows he sleeps in his cot for longer than most 3 year olds,plus she has had 4 nights of 12 hours Kiera’s.I have children and was knackered for several years just like every other mother on the planet!
She often used to say ‘My son isn’t normal like other kids his age,he will never eat,talk or walk’ he is doing bloody brilliantly! I am sure with the correct input and encouragement he would excel even more but having a MunchausenMummy who wants 90 hours without her son a week is not exactly nurturing.
The skeletal images of him when she starved him,sorry spent £5,000 to feed him Frazzles and Brownies are a big issue. She herself said J’s horrible ( don’t remember the exact derogatory word she used) dietician would not engage with the program,of course they would refuse it was a huge risk of malnutrition,dehydration,renal failure,potassium imbalance or even death! He wasn’t permitted to travel to the feeding school due to his low weight and cardiac/renal problems yet she being thenursemum knew best and wasted £5k and landed him in hospital very unwell.She should be reported for child abuse.
She did get a picture for the gram of him proudly sitting with a Mcdonald’s happy meal.Seriously who would feed that crap to a sick child?
Nobody makes me more angry,the material stuff pisses me off as it’s fraud and deception but her Mothering and her life away from her son is what makes me fume.I wonder if deep down she resents having a child that ‘Isn’t normal’ ( what a vile thing to say about your own child
Does J's dad get any say in what happens to him or is he just extra childcare?
I doubt she gives much thought to his ECHP,she is only concerned with how many hours she can get rid of her child.
She clearly is not working anymore,it lasted what,about 6 weeks? so why can’t she drive him to school herself in the car that is paid for and provided for HIS use! She has even complained to PALS to get an appointment with Wheelchair services asap for him to travel on school transport,even more thousands of pounds spent unnecessarily and considering she has worked for the NHS it’s a pretty selfish call to be making whilst living in a pandemic. I bet she threatens them with the media and her M.P. hopefully more people involved with his care and funding will start raising questions and see the red flags re fraud and lies.
I think he is just ‘Baby Daddy’ and she uses him when she wants to go out and get laid when staying in 5* hotels in London.
Awfully quiet isn’t she 
Her reading here actually makes me a bit nervous, if she can see her followers slowly trickling away and that she has been completely found out here... I do wonder what she is capable of.
Hey Kaytee, if you want to stop his vomiting, maybe give him back his meds that have been prescribed to do exactly that? Don't her followers see that she constantly says one thing and does another?
Hey Kaytee, if you want to stop his vomiting, maybe give him back his meds that have been prescribed to do exactly that? Don't her followers see that she constantly says one thing and does another?
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I’ve noticed she only ramps up the vomiting posts when it’s Keira’s decision time. That’s how she got a large following in the first place. She showed the world J being sick in the car. Followed by a large following followed by a go fund me hmmm
We have to remember that some of the send community fell for her tit at the start too, many of us supported and conversed with her frequently. We all started distancing herself when we saw the bullying of other people and we understand medications, services, entitlement and application processes so there was many things raising alarm bells. Most of her following are not from the send community so it's going to take them longer to question things, but I bet there are thousands who have started to and just don't feel right in saying anything. Unless you know others share the same concerns, it's nerve wracking speaking out because you feel bad for questioning the actions of a mother with a disabled child. But people should realise that's ableism in itself. We can't expect our children to be treated the same as everyone else but at the same time expect to be treated differently and not have anyone question our actions. If a parent of a neuro typical child was acting like this, people would raise and voice concerns, you're not the queen of sheba the second you give birth to a child with medical complexities
I saw through her tit near the very beginning and this forum wouldn’t let anybody start a post about her because she was an ‘ amazing sen parent just doing he best’ I’m so glad others can see through it and I doubt her 60k bank rolling advert clicking followers will
Kind of strange that J is never sick when he’s in Kayteeiessss bed.
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