I'm all good now.
I don't share my story with many people because I try to not let my loss define me. Do I have bad days/weeks/months where the loss still hits me hard, of course. But, everyone has had their "something" in their lives. Many people have much worse stories than mine. Nobody gets a pass on being an asshole because of something they've been through, because there's always someone who has it harder.
The moral of the story, I can see Jenn's manic episodes being partly because of mother loss and hitting that age, but things like the nanny, being so joyful when J$ isn't with them, Tim doing most of the parenting...nope, not going to buy that one. She's an asshole.