That's so awful.
Like I have 2, 2 was always my number, but after I had number 2 I'd have definitely considered a third.
My second is also autistic, and I always said I wouldn't have a third if the second was autistic.
Mainly because the likelihood of a third being autistic as well was huge, and it wouldn't be fair to either the two I have, or a third with unknown needs to have the third.
As it stands I'm doing it on my own, and I also got my own diagnoses, so the decision was right for us.
If my children's father had pushed for a third I probably would have, but if it ended up like the above I would (of course love my babies) but be salty that he didn't allow me to make an informed decision (as I'm sure she didn't conceive Jazzy thinking she would be parenting alone)
Sending her all the love and support