A friend of mine has really high anxiety / trauma around and she’s just been upfront and honest With her midwives and said they’ve been amazing.As I said, I wouldn't do it as I also have to be in the mood, but each to their own.
I don't think she is advising people not to follow medical advice, but letting them know that sometimes there are other options and, and I agree PROVIDING MUM AND BABY AREN'T IN ANY DANGER. Sometimes it's ok to weigh up your options and wait. The NICE guidelines is a good place to start when weighing up pros and cons.
Birth has become so medicalised and it is wonderful that we have all the medical expertise should we need it, but often it causes more issues than the issue they were trying to avoid! Having a healthy baby is the outcome everyone wants but what about the mum with PTSD following birth trauma? Who looks after her? Was her birth tramatic because of her body (birth trauma is never the woman's fault by the way) or because of the intervention?
Anyway, I digress. I wasn't here to defend TND, I just find the physiology of birth facsinating! I shall find another thread to stalk now!
She is bonkers! Haha! Yes, you have summed it up well! My active labour was quick and the thought of masturbasting makes me feel sick, but I get what she is trying to do!There is no denying she's a bit mental but there is an old saying for a reason 'what gets the baby in, gets the baby out' - it's all about oxytocin. Granted she is pushing a rather vom-inducing angle, but there is evidence that the release of oxytocin (cuddle, kiss, laughing, organs) helps speed up labour.
I’ve been at a birth where someone did this once. It was an uncomfortable working environment, to say the least.She’s telling people to whip out a vibrator when they’re in labour now. Jesus fucking wept
I'm so pleased to hear that your friend is being supported. I hope everything goes well for her.A friend of mine has really high anxiety / trauma around and she’s just been upfront and honest With her midwives and said they’ve been amazing.
Anyone who gives birthing advice should do some form of training IMO or have to hold some form of license. She’s telling people not to take anti biotics and refuse treatments they need to keep themselves & their baby safe.
one of my mums friends does doula / hynobirthing work & also follows TND-she told menot to bother getting tested for gestational diabetes and they advise their women against it because “what’s the point”..
My mum is diabetic so I went anyway and I’ve been diagnosed with it so now I can monitor my blood sugar levels adapt my diet and there’s no harm done.
Imagine if you’re a high risk pregnancy and develop GD then pre eclampsia because some nob with an Instagram account has told you to not listen to medical professionals or have any inventions.
Pain is so personal. My early labour was painless, I didn't know I was in labour, but active labour was, for me, intense! It was painful and relentless, but manageable. Not in a controlled, calm way, but I honestly didn't feel like I needed anything but gas and air (until transition that is! Haha!) It also depends on how the baby is positioned. Everyone's will be so different..Love this chat.
I actually think that calling contractions "intense" etc is setting pregnant women up to fail. I went into my first labour thinking it would be mildly painful. 'Intense' to me is grit your teeth and get through it kind of pain. I had no idea I would literally feel like I was dying and BEGGING for pain relief. Next 2 births were even harder. You can't describe the pain. They need to be realistic to first timers - not scare tactics no, but they do need to say how painful it really is and not just breathe and you'll be fine 🥲
yeah I completely get that but I still think a doula should have to have some form of license before dishing out birthing advice.. because really the only women who are going to listen to them are those that are the most vulnerable. When they’re probably feeling a bit “anti” midwife / doctors/ NHS anyway.I'm so pleased to hear that your friend is being supported. I hope everything goes well for her.
Two of the biggest things to come out of the maternity report on shrewsbury trust (Ockendon) is lack of continuity of care and women not being listened to during labour and birth. Research has shown that when women who felt listened to and supported, reported a positive birth experience regardless of HOW they gave birth. Maternity services is a mess and I am so thankful I am done having children.
Women are hiring doulas because they want that comtinuity and someone to advocate for them.
A friend of mine has really high anxiety / trauma around and she’s just been upfront and honest With her midwives and said they’ve been amazing.
Anyone who gives birthing advice should do some form of training IMO or have to hold some form of license. She’s telling people not to take anti biotics and refuse treatments they need to keep themselves & their baby safe.
one of my mums friends does doula / hynobirthing work & also follows TND-she told menot to bother getting tested for gestational diabetes and they advise their women against it because “what’s the point”..
My mum is diabetic so I went anyway and I’ve been diagnosed with it so now I can monitor my blood sugar levels adapt my diet and there’s no harm done.
Imagine if you’re a high risk pregnancy and develop GD then pre eclampsia because some nob with an Instagram account has told you to not listen to medical professionals or have any inventions.
omg was she?????!Funny how she’s distanced herself from Lauren Goodger - she was known to have helped her but she’s not said anything since Lauren’s baby died
I just personally don’t think a bunch of women who give birth once and create an Instagram account telling everyone to ignore medical advice regardless of risk and push the narrative that birth should be this calm and pleasurable experience and if it’s not it’s yours / the hospital / the doctors fault is the best answer to it.
Yes he is generally quite good but I did find in the later stages I needed him more physically supporting standing up, rubbing my back etc and he wasn't so good at helping me focus with breathing. Both my labours were very long and difficult (second ending in crash section), I know people (especially THOSE doulas) say you can birth the baby you've grown but honestly both mine were stuck, the wrong way round and refusing to descend into the birth canal for hours@Koalabear would your birthing partner be any good at helping with your breathing and staying calm? I had my mum and husband at my first, it was a long labour and they took it in turns supporting me. With my second, it was only one birthing partner due to Covid restrictions so I had my husband. Again, he supported me endlessly, and I birthed upright so he stood the entire time rubbing my back, encouraging me and giving me water and jelly babies. I did consider a doula simply because my first birth was very difficult and traumatic, and I was quite petrified doing it again but my second was much easier (although this is likely down to me being more knowledgable and having done it before).
support - yes. Advice - No!I'm so pleased to hear that your friend is being supported. I hope everything goes well for her.
Two of the biggest things to come out of the maternity report on shrewsbury trust (Ockendon) is lack of continuity of care and women not being listened to during labour and birth. Research has shown that when women who felt listened to and supported, reported a positive birth experience regardless of HOW they gave birth. Maternity services is a mess and I am so thankful I am done having children.
Women are hiring doulas because they want that comtinuity and someone to advocate for them.
Pain is so personal. My early labour was painless, I didn't know I was in labour, but active labour was, for me, intense! It was painful and relentless, but manageable. Not in a controlled, calm way, but I honestly didn't feel like I needed anything but gas and air (until transition that is! Haha!) It also depends on how the baby is positioned. Everyone's will be so different..
Shame the babies whose lives were threatened or lost from these "informed choices" weren't afforded the same luxury.She’s been reading here clearly
Omfg I’m so glad there’s a thread about her! She does my head in, her hatred of any medical intervention is way over the top and she basically tells you to disregard any advice! Really pissses me off!!!! She acts as though there is zero need for a medical birth when that’s clearly untrueCouldn’t find a thread so I’ve made one. I can not deal with this woman. She is dangerous!!!!
Basically a doula who I believe has no medical/midwifery qualifications but advocates for ‘natural’ births and actively encourages women to disregard medical advice, doing things on their own terms such as declining inductions
My good god she’s a fucking twat.She’s been reading here clearly
We use cookies and similar technologies for the following purposes:
Do you accept cookies and these technologies?
We use cookies and similar technologies for the following purposes:
Do you accept cookies and these technologies?