This threads really opened my eyes! I totally agree with Only Fans. People seem to just jump on it right away for cash, I seen a video of someone explaining the side of OF that no one shares which is it impacts your MH greatly, you don't make as much money as some make out, it'll be on your tax record if you do earn enough and future employers will know you've been involved in SW which they might hold against you.
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What you said regarding picking women as if he was online shopping is one of my biggest concern.
A lot of men in real life do not necessarily feel powerful. Especially with women now working in the same industries as them their identities and what made them "men" has no meaning anymore. Women proved that they could do the same jobs easily, buy their own homes, manage their own lives, graduate from universities, etc So I wouldn't be surprised if men who visit SW or pay for OF feel more powerful due to the fact that they are in a position of power. Let's be real here, the women on OF have to perform more sexual acts after time goes by because their sponsors can easily move on. Which result in less money for them. They are still exploited, they just don't realise it.
Yes exactly and it’s STILL allowing a man to buy access to your body.
@Raa
How did you find out?
As far as I’m aware those that visited sw, kept going back. The question that arises is where do they go from this?
Is there a next level to this?
Will they carry on going until they die?
It’s a costly addiction and a selfish one.
There will also be a trail of it - so of course they will get caught.
I guess you never really know who you’re living with.
How did you find out?
As far as I’m aware those that visited sw, kept going back. The question that arises is where do they go from this?
Is there a next level to this?
Will they carry on going until they die?
It’s a costly addiction and a selfish one.
There will also be a trail of it - so of course they will get caught.
I guess you never really know who you’re living with.
I found out when he stayed away one night. His job involved driving around the country and occasionally he would stay in hotels if it was too tiring to drive back (this began to increase which in hindsight was probably a red flag) but anyway his iPad was at home and I was sat watching tv and it was next to me on the sofa. I saw it lighting up so had a look and it was connected to his phone which he had in the hotel and it revealed everything from texts arranging the meets to photos. I actually politely messaged the sw and she said yeah I’ve seen him and that I should be grateful that he is just seeing her and not having an affair!
I had to deal with all this on my own tightly or wrongly I didn’t confide as I felt embarrassed to say my OH is sleeping with sw and I’m at home with the baby. I assumed people would think I was the problem.
I genuinely don’t know if they can stop.
There is obviously a level on enjoyment there so that prevails over everything I guess.
I wonder if it takes a big bump down to earth to realise.
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@Anne1448 i think that’s a such a good point about women being level hadn’t looked at it like that before
I’m so sorry he put you through that. It really boils my blood when these men (and let’s face it the majority of punters are men) leave their wives/girlfriends at home with the kids whilst they’re off having a jolly with a sex worker. Seeing a sex worker when you’re in a relationship is just as bad if not worse than having an affair. I certainly can’t see how it’s any better. End of the day they’ve slept with/done what ever with someone else. You could say if they see the same woman over and over that they are paying for an affair. It’s no wonder you hold some resentment towards the sex worker in this scenario, since you were told by the one your partner was using that she was somehow the saviour preventing him from having an affair, the audacity of her to say that. In this case anyone would be angry at the sex worker also for being so bloody cheeky and deluded
Hope you are doing better now.
Thank you for your kinds words. Everything you’ve said I agree with. It’s all tit. I fail to see how anyone wins in this and no one is truly happyI’m so sorry he put you through that. It really boils my blood when these men (and let’s face it the majority of punters are men) leave their wives/girlfriends at home with the kids whilst they’re off having a jolly with a sex worker. Seeing a sex worker when you’re in a relationship is just as bad if not worse than having an affair. I certainly can’t see how it’s any better. End of the day they’ve slept with/done what ever with someone else. You could say if they see the same woman over and over that they are paying for an affair. It’s no wonder you hold some resentment towards the sex worker in this scenario, since you were told by the one your partner was using that she was somehow the saviour preventing him from having an affair, the audacity of her to say that. In this case anyone would be angry at the sex worker also for being so bloody cheeky and deluded
Hope you are doing better now.
That’s so sad that not only did he put you through that but you were worried people would blame you, that’s 100% all him
Exactly, but it is kind of typical in how women are treated when men cheat (not always, of course, but often) as if it is the women's fault for not doing something for the man. Awful.
When my BIL had an affair our 'lovely' MIL blamed his wife because "She obviously wasn't making him happy at home"
I've since discovered that wasn't the only affair he had (nobody knows I know this) and I have very strong suspicions that he has seen sex workers and possibly still is.
His ex wife told me that after she found out about his affair she ended up having an STD check (fortunately all was okay) and she said that even though the doctor was very nice to her, she felt really embarrassed and humiliated.
The tit she was married too certainly didn't
When my BIL had an affair our 'lovely' MIL blamed his wife because "She obviously wasn't making him happy at home"
I've since discovered that wasn't the only affair he had (nobody knows I know this) and I have very strong suspicions that he has seen sex workers and possibly still is.
His ex wife told me that after she found out about his affair she ended up having an STD check (fortunately all was okay) and she said that even though the doctor was very nice to her, she felt really embarrassed and humiliated.
The tit she was married too certainly didn't
Women are always blamed for not doing enough to please men. This reminds me of something Michelle Obama said in her podcast. She said that the "perfect woman" is the invisible one. She is supposed to endure trauma and not complain as long as her husband is pleased.
This goes hands in hands with the fact that a lot of men are angry about women being on OF because for once they can not see content that is made for them unlike classic pornographic content. The only way for a man to see a content which suits him on OF is by paying the woman. Contrary to pornographic websites where men can enjoy women being mistreated for their own pleasure.
ugh this is just gross. I think cheating is awful, of course, but can be forgiven dependant on circumrtances. What can NEVER be forgiven, imo, is putting your partner at a health risk like this by possibly giving them an STD (or much, much worse)When my BIL had an affair our 'lovely' MIL blamed his wife because "She obviously wasn't making him happy at home"
I've since discovered that wasn't the only affair he had (nobody knows I know this) and I have very strong suspicions that he has seen sex workers and possibly still is.
His ex wife told me that after she found out about his affair she ended up having an STD check (fortunately all was okay) and she said that even though the doctor was very nice to her, she felt really embarrassed and humiliated.
The tit she was married too certainly didn't
This thread is an interesting read. Happy to see so many huge supporters of the Nordic Model, and also that so many reject the idea that anti sex work = prudish & boring, or anti-feminist.
I have read so many accounts from various sex workers on various platforms, and I am very suspicious about some of the more positive stories you read. I don’t want to say everyone who posts about their amazing lifestyles is lying (I’m sure there is truth out there), but it is often easy to catch a lot of them out. All I will say is, if their claims of money vs lifestyle don’t match up, or if they talk at length about how hot they are and how good at their job, especially in much more graphic terms… you can be 90% sure it’s all porkies.
That’s all I will say for now.
I have read so many accounts from various sex workers on various platforms, and I am very suspicious about some of the more positive stories you read. I don’t want to say everyone who posts about their amazing lifestyles is lying (I’m sure there is truth out there), but it is often easy to catch a lot of them out. All I will say is, if their claims of money vs lifestyle don’t match up, or if they talk at length about how hot they are and how good at their job, especially in much more graphic terms… you can be 90% sure it’s all porkies.
That’s all I will say for now.
Agree. A lot of those kinds of posters actually sound like men trying to act out their own fantasies…. It’s happened on this forum before…..
Yeh that was my thought for some posts tbh…
Kinda agree obviously won’t mention any names but one certain poster stands out massively.
I think we all are thinking of the same person...
BBC article on Only Fans
This was a really interesting (if not infuriating) article on how little control and protection service users of Only Fans have against abuse, racism, stalking and harassment. The subscribers are given refunds, no matter how deplorable the behaviour.
Meanwhile, the CEO is cosplaying an 80s yuppie on Instagram
This was a really interesting (if not infuriating) article on how little control and protection service users of Only Fans have against abuse, racism, stalking and harassment. The subscribers are given refunds, no matter how deplorable the behaviour.
Meanwhile, the CEO is cosplaying an 80s yuppie on Instagram
This happened to me a couple of times. A few "female sex workers" reached out to me through my sw profile and asked for advice, tips etc but I knew straight away it was a bloke. You can always tell with the way they type.
I think it's fair enough for people to be curious but some of the questions were so bizarre, like asking what you'd "do" with someone's penis. Weirdly specific. It's very gross.
This all sounds like abuse/grooming - even though the women might be over 18, they are being told a story which is far from the truth.
Firstly the man thar pays for this sort of thing is being portrayed as a nice generous guy who doesn’t mistreat or ask for anything dodgy or degrading.
He is paying over the normal rates for a generous shopping trip? So you get all the perks and you’re happy with it all as it’s ongoing.
One thing I have learnt is it’s never easy to earn lump sums of money. This all sounds too easy, nicey nice.
Firstly the man thar pays for this sort of thing is being portrayed as a nice generous guy who doesn’t mistreat or ask for anything dodgy or degrading.
He is paying over the normal rates for a generous shopping trip? So you get all the perks and you’re happy with it all as it’s ongoing.
One thing I have learnt is it’s never easy to earn lump sums of money. This all sounds too easy, nicey nice.
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