My hate of dating skinny men comes from a specific experience... I can't believe I forgot to mention it!
Back in my first or second week at university- when everyone was new and we all didn't know each other yet (so we hung out in big groups), I had a friend that had the potential to be more. We had been flirting from day one and decided to go out just the two of us, without our bigger group. We went to explore our university town at night, and were walking along a busy street. It was late night on a weekend, almost everybody that was out was a student from our university. Ahead of us was a group of boys, probably 8 or 10 of them. I assumed they were newbies hanging out in a big groups- just like our group of friends. My friend started falling behind in pace. I asked him what was wrong and he said he was scared of the group in front of us. I said they were just out like us, getting to know each other and the town. He replied that because he's skinny, they'd want to have their way with him (don't know if I can use the exact word).
So much wrong with that! Firstly, I was skinny too but felt
large shamed that he thought they'd go for him first "because he's skinny" so what was I?
Secondly, and far more serious than the first point was assuming that a group of youth (of a different race to him) standing together must be a group of felons waiting for an opportunity. I make mention of race only because there were lots of people and lots of groups around us. The group he was scared of (and me) were the only ones of a different race from the sea of people around us.
I was immediately put off by him and wanted to question his stereotype but he crossed the street before I could even vocalise my thoughts. He was so scared he left me there!
I understand that I'm being a hypocrite because I now have a bias: that skinny men will be too busy protecting themselves to protect their ladies. I'm well aware of my flawed judgement, but how that failed night went down just gave me the ick against dating skinny men.